My girlfriend is attracted to another man, but doesn’t seem she will ever cheat. What should I do?

jb3617 · 2021-06-20T17:58:39+00:00

She’s smart enough not to be overt about him

If you realize that she's smart enough to do that, you need to realize she's smart enough to hook up with this guy behind your back without you knowing.

How can you have any self-respect for yourself staying with this girl knowing she's attracted to another dude?

Next her and ghost. She already made her choice.

TravisScottNL · 2021-06-20T19:04:25+00:00

Your next post > : “(Update) My girlfriend is going on dinner with another man”

themostgianthorse · 2021-06-20T19:09:56+00:00

THE MEDIUM IS THE MESSAGE.

Men and women in relationships finding others physically attractive is normal.

What is NOT normal is her vocalising it. What’s the covert communication here? She certainly doesn’t seem to be communicating that you are her best option…. Or at least for much longer.

Whatever you choose, do not have kids with this woman.

Simple-Craft-9577 · 2021-06-20T17:59:58+00:00

On the outside, work on being someone that has higher value than what you do right now. Not to steal back her attention. Not to win her over. Only and only for yourself.
Mentally, focus on developing a mindset where even if she cheats, you won’t give a fuck. She can never have an overbearing emotional impact on you, if you don’t let her.
Never let anyone tell you, not even folks on the RP, that your partner cheating has anything to do with you. It’s always about them. Always. Once you realize this, your ego won’t take a hit, if she does cheat.

JayRedCorn · 2021-06-20T18:23:43+00:00

Bro it’s not a question of if she’s gonna fuck him but when and the fact that you know about this means she has absolutely no respect for you as a man. You need to be plotting your escape TODAY.

kclanton80 · 2021-06-20T20:34:09+00:00

This isn't a basic attraction. She is so attracted that she is mentioning him to you.

Where does she know this guy from. Seems you are leaving out some key details intentionally.

You are thinking of having a baby with someone you don't love.... ...

The cognitive dissonance in your post is near epic proportions.

Zombiespire · 2021-06-20T20:53:51+00:00

Sir this is a reddit on how to break up with people over the slightest infraction, not how to preserve relationships.

lieutenantdong · 2021-06-20T18:30:50+00:00

Men look for quantity, women look for quality.

Yes, she may think other men are hot but they are naturally focussed on one man at a time.

Shes already talking about him so thinking sbout him. If the option to branch swing is there, shell take it and turn the switch off on you. Her nature will not allow her to miss out on him even if she wants to be loyal.

Do not mate guard, work on yourself. You can only control yourself and be more attractive. It would also work in your favour if she would be seen a a slut for doing so.

ay-fuh-q · 2021-06-20T17:51:34+00:00

My girlfriend is attracted to another man,

That's the ballgame!

but doesn’t seem she will ever cheat.

Delusional much?

Guys, this isn’t a “break up or next her” kind of question, ok? I have my reasons to believe cheating will not happen.

Clearly... delusional. So then why fucking ask us anything?

She’s not a terrible person, and she’ll probably eat her desires to cheat. But I KNOW she’s attracted to this guy.

You're an idiot.

She find him good looking, interesting, adventurous, sociable, likeable, etc. She’s smart enough not to be overt about him, but I’m not dummy and I know she has the hots for him.

You're an idiot.

Let’s assume she never cheats (if she does, that’s on me), what should I do with this situation? Breaking up with someone that I’m bulding something with because of an attraction she won’t act on seems excessive.

You're an idiot.

But I also don’t want to be with someone that finds another guy more desireable.

Yes you do, idiot. You've constructed this whole thread to hamster why you will stay with her.

The funny thing is: I don’t love her. I like her, enjoy her company, but I’m not heads over heels nor have onitis. However, I do like the idea of building something with her.

Denial isn't just a river in Egypt.

How should I handle this? I want a family and we are even planning to have a kid without marriage, but listening to her say that this guy is a “very interesting person” and then tries to hide her enthusiasm, it’s… annoying.

You're an idiot.

What would you guys (those normal of course!) do in my situation?

What would we do? Not be you. Thankfully.

Untoxicmasculinity · 2021-06-20T17:42:29+00:00

Be more attractive

ObjectiveDay8 · 2021-06-20T17:56:11+00:00

This is insecurity. If she gets a whiff of that you will likely go down a few notches in her mind. Human beings can’t help being attracted to other people even if they’re in relationships. If you don’t have any other reason to suspect infidelity then you need to get over this in a hurry.

AttikusEUW · 2021-06-20T20:51:36+00:00

if she was a loyal and good partner, she would drop this guy asap and never have contact with him again. Her telling you is nice, but it really shows how much she thinks about him.

Shuffleshoe · 2021-06-21T05:50:44+00:00

Does anyone read the sidebar anymore? Are we just going to pretend it's not there?

papunigga031 · 2021-06-21T08:28:08+00:00

You think you’re gonna control what men women are attracted to?

Are you not attracted to other women?

Get over it. If she cheats so what, that just means she wasn’t worth the commitment.

Most women aren’t.

Yashugan00 · 2021-06-21T10:54:04+00:00

"oh honey"

is the only reasonable response to this post.

Title	My girlfriend is attracted to another man, but doesn’t seem she will ever cheat. What should I do?
Author	alexys8
Upvotes	1
Comments	22
Date	June 20, 2021 5:41 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/o4auig/my_girlfriend_is_attracted_to_another_man_but/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/my-girlfriend-is-attracted-to-another-man-but.785158 https://theredarchive.com/post/785158