My LTR hate the fact that I am working out ?

Luck-67 · 2020-10-03T14:00:37+00:00

You are, inadvertently doing what we call dread gaming her. Not a bad thing. By upping your physique (value) she intuitively feels the hamster fearing future competition.

A response to her tits comment might be “Oh yeah? Well if you behave nicely I’ll let you play with them...” something along those lines

Most importantly, never ever stop working out. Don’t allow yourself to become a PHAT fuck as you come up. As you age, your physique will become more valuable (both for living life and women).

KirthWGersen · 2020-10-03T13:45:25+00:00

Typical relationship cycle:

Woman meets a man she find attractive.
After they get together, the woman acts in such a way as to make him less attractive to other women (doesn't let him mix with other women, so he loses his game skills; encourages him to get out of shape, stop doing sport, give up his hobbies, etc.) so she doesn't lose him.
She suddenly wakes up one day and realises even she is not attracted to him and leaves or acts in such a way that he has no choice but to leave.

In your case, your increasing attractiveness is a threat to her. She has less control of you. She now has to up her game.

319Skew · 2020-10-03T15:06:57+00:00

"I don't like meat heads."

~Rubs your muscles during sex

JACK-the-man11 · 2020-10-03T13:43:59+00:00

Classic case of competition anxiety. She’s realizing that by bettering yourself you’re more viable for a better looking bitch to come along and show you a better time ie. higher SMV. Keep working out and bettering yourself, it will help you have a balanced LtR

BusterVadge · 2020-10-03T14:03:28+00:00

That's dread for you. This is coming from her own anxiety that you're looking so good that she's going to be left behind. I'd call this a weird comfort test since it's coming out of her own fears of you finding someone hotter.

Some examples of a good response: “You have grown some tits” - Yeah, not not as good as yours, babe. “I can’t see any difference stop wasting your time” - Why don't you waste some time with me. I feel great after working out.

You are 100% doing the right thing, and this is your sign to go full throttle and keep this shit up even more. And if after you throw her a little comfort, she is still bitching..... Well maybe it is time to leave her behind because she's going to be holding you back.

Rolfenstien · 2020-10-03T14:45:36+00:00

Assuming you’re right and she has a higher SMV than you then by working out you are shifting the balance. You are increasing your attractiveness and she can see it.

She is dreading the fact that more women are going to find you attractive and notice you (this is dread game).

Completely. Fucking. Ignore. Her.

You’re in your own frame. Keep improving and she keep chasing

Legitimate-Lies · 2020-10-03T14:32:49+00:00

I had this happen when dating a BPD sort of girl. They don’t want you to improve. It makes it harder to monkey branch to a new guy

Protocol_Apollo · 2020-10-03T14:30:25+00:00

Your girl is feeling the dread.

cglehosit · 2020-10-03T16:42:30+00:00

You working out increases your value. This in turn increases your power in the relationship. Your alternative options with women also increase. This decreases her ability to do shitty things, since you’ll be able to just move onto other women.

If she’s gonna be a bitch about it, ditch the chick and (if you’re into LTRs) find a woman who wants to grow with you, improve herself as well, and doesn’t hold it over your head. They do exist, yes.

Max-hex · 2020-10-03T17:19:54+00:00

Women gonna women. She’s trying to betaize you because that makes her more secure. It’s just an unconscious survival mechanism. Don’t take it personally.

amwfhunter · 2020-10-03T16:32:16+00:00

Time for a demotion. Just make sure the tits you are getting are legit pecs and not fat. Keep your calories in check and make those gains bro. She is fearing to be replaced by someone prettier and younger. Females today have an overinflated sense of ego but when shit hits the fan the internal insecurities kick in.

BNEDub · 2020-10-03T14:14:54+00:00

Next time she pulls this shit hit her with this.

"How else am I gonna find your replacement?'

She's worried you're gonna be able to get a hotter younger model - confirm her fear and call her out on it.

Good shit with the training though my dude! It must be working if she's feeling this threatened.

berttbeans996 · 2020-10-03T15:33:19+00:00

Keep lifting and maintain masculine frame.

Dread game is necessary in a LTR.

2020-10-03T14:56:18+00:00

Probs competition anxiety from dread.

livingstranger · 2020-10-03T17:14:32+00:00

Keep working out

TheRedPillRipper · 2020-10-03T13:55:16+00:00

I don’t give a fuck

Not enough to prevent a post about it.

The key is YOUR FRAME. First good job on taking it seriously. Regardless if it’s your partner or a stranger; prioritise your strength.

That said if a stranger said ”you have grown some tits”; would you respect what they said? Shit tests are exactly the same. Train yourself to better recognise them and you’ll make your life easier.

Godspeed and good luck!

BPasFuck · 2020-10-03T18:55:18+00:00

if u really wanna laugh, just stop, look her dead in the eye, and say babe, if u don't work out, we won't work out.

ChadBreeder1 · 2020-10-03T16:29:31+00:00

She’s mate guarding.

1v1rustfaggot69 · 2020-10-03T14:47:17+00:00

She’s afraid that you’ll improve your value and leave her. You should leave her anyway if she isn’t encouraging you to be healthy

btrpb · 2020-10-03T13:47:56+00:00

You look better, your SMV goes up, she sense it. You are inadvertently applying dread.

And she's a lazy fucker.

juicy-asssss · 2020-10-03T19:36:15+00:00

She doesn’t hate it, it’s a shit test, you’re dreading the fuck out of her and you’re doing a great job, keep it up. If she keeps it up, don’t be afraid to tell her “if you just keep trying to hold me back, it isn’t going to work, and I’m going to leave you for someone who’s better.”

i-am-the-prize · 2020-10-05T16:27:43+00:00

this, bro, is the ultimate shit test...

"...If there was an Ironman for shit testing, this would be it...."

https://archive.is/pSJXz

also,

1 - the change in smv will uncover latent insecurities in her

2- ignore what they say, watch how they act; even if she says she doesn't like you getting 'too fit' or 'too strong' and the tit comment, just watch how she acts and ignores what she says.

StellarBella277 · 2020-10-03T13:39:20+00:00

Who gives a fuck what she thinks? You’re working out for you, not for her.

If she is disrespecting you then you need to be a man and either check her bullshit or cut her loose because otherwise she will walk all over you.

0mnipath · 2020-10-03T15:27:30+00:00

Ask her directly why she is saying these things. I'm genuinely curious what kind of argument can be presented against fucking exercising. She sounds dumb.

fartingaround · 2020-10-03T18:04:32+00:00

Tell her to join in on the workouts

Wildercard · 2020-10-03T22:23:28+00:00

-I can’t see any difference

-Sure, but I do.

PayneGreyWolf · 2020-10-04T02:03:13+00:00

Do NOT stop working out, keep up the good work. Why she’s acting like that is because of the impending competition anxiety/dread. The better you look the more females you’ll attract and that’s bad news for her. She’s trying to discourage you to prevent dealing with it

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2020-10-04T08:26:08+00:00

KEEP LEVELING UP!!!!!

DO NOT STOP LIFTING/GROOMING/DIETING/PUTTING IN THE WORK!!!!!

she wants you to stop bc she sees that your smv is increasing and you'll get LOTS OF FEMALE ATTENTION...AND SOME FROM BITCHES HOTTER THAN HER.

keep lifting and grinding it out.

You can ignore her or agree and amplify her when she tries to dissuade you from lifting.

If she keeps it up,give her ALITTLE COMFORT...only alittle.

If she STILL WONT STOP...

...She's too insecure...

...NEXT THE BITCH!!!

you WILL get more even HOTTER bitches that will be FITTER and may even ENCOURAGE YOU to keep lifting.

Good luck, stay safe

Rimefang · 2020-10-03T19:23:46+00:00

Haters gonna hate.

ppanther92 · 2020-10-04T10:52:11+00:00

Ok, in my opinion an initial reaction of being worried by you indirectly applying dread (by increasing your SMV) is expected and totally normal. But the "tits" and "no difference" comments are rather rude. I would look for a girl that is supportive even if she is worried. Those girls exist.

Bing_Bang_Bam · 2020-10-03T15:59:27+00:00

Do you live with her? Time to kick her out and find a new place. She's in the way.

distraff · 2020-10-03T19:52:00+00:00

Have you actually had a real conversation about her reasons for not liking it? Maybe its because you talk about fitness all the time and its annoying. Maybe its because its an obsession for you and you don't spend enough time with her. Maybe she is afraid you are doing it to find other women.

RPU_mike · 2020-10-03T22:38:05+00:00

I don’t give a fuck about what she says.

Proceeds to post a question on the internet because he gives too many fucks about what she says.

2020-10-04T02:13:31+00:00

Why do you even listen to what women say?

hopscotchking · 2020-10-03T15:20:56+00:00

Lmao wow. Ditch her.

She is only saying this stuff because she realizes that now that you’re getting more in shape (hotter, desirable to other women, etc) you will be able to score a hotter girl and she is insecure about that.

LLL3peat · 2020-10-03T13:46:31+00:00

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Title	My LTR hate the fact that I am working out ?
Author	Sopranoo8
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Date	October 3, 2020 1:36 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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