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Need some advice on dating.

January 24, 2017
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So I have been on about 5 dates in the past few weeks with different women. The problem is they all feel the same and go the same way.

I don't know why but I'm curious and I like to ask questions about their life and what they have going on. These kinds of questions end up taking the conversation down a rabbit hole. I had one date tell me she was date raped and woke up in a hospital on our first date. Another tell me she has a kid with a guy who's in and out of jail.

Nonetheless this kills the attraction when I hear this kind of shit. Red flags go off everywhere in my head and all I hear is RUN!

I've read on here to keep the date in the moment and not talk about the past or future. I mean I feel like I run out of shit to talk about.

Any help would be appreciated.

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Title Need some advice on dating.
Author Sonifys
Upvotes 3
Comments 7
Date January 24, 2017 11:56 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]AlfredApple1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Keep nexting and dating more girls. The only way to find gold is to sift through the rubble. Obviously go looking in gold mines and not rubbish tips though.

[–]Sonifys points points [recovered] | Copy Link

They've all been attractive. 3 came from tinder those were the worst. Probably going to stick with girls I meet in class.

[–]AlfredApple0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had one date tell me she was date raped and woke up in a hospital on our first date. Another tell me she has a kid with a guy who's in and out of jail.

They could be 10s and you should still walk away.

[–]TooMuchToDoo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Man, That kind of stuff is what you need to know. It's good that you're finding out about it early on and not after you've had sex with those types. Like the other guy said, dating is like fishing. If you're not getting anything worth catching, all you gotta do is keep throwing the line out and see what bites. Also, the more dates you go on, the more topics you'll find yourself talking about, and eventually you'll have a whole bank of questions that you can ask those girls. Just don't overthink it and let the conversations roll. Hope that helps.

[–]RPShitlord1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Date raped and woke up at a hospital?

Sounds like she got drunk at a party and fucked a stranger behind a dumpster to the point of passing out.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had one date tell me she was date raped and woke up in a hospital on our first date. Another tell me she has a kid with a guy who's in and out of jail. Nonetheless this kills the attraction when I hear this kind of shit. Red flags go off everywhere in my head and all I hear is RUN!

Sounds like it's a good thing you're finding this stuff out because RUN! is the correct reaction

[–]Cunt_Robber0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey at least you get to see why you shouldn't put women on a pedestal. In terms of conversation, be playful. You can flirt by making up hypothetical scenarios and taking the conversation down that route - a nice distraction for both of you. Or simply limit the conversation to positive past experiences, nothing that would kill the mood. Dig for their interests, no matter how infantile, and let them talk about them. Don't get frustrated, you're just seeing what women are really like. Other than the physical qualities, most are trainwrecks tbh. Same with the guys tho, thats why TRP pushes for discipline and value.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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