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Need some advice with this...

March 24, 2016
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BackStory: I'm a sophomore in high school(15m) still a virgin, and my status in school is fairly close to omega, but thanks to TRP I have at least gotten a group of friends and a couple of hobbies and interests to better myself(basketball, drawing, animation, reading, engineering)

Ok. Here we go-

Currently i'm in a situation where I don't know what to do, despite rereading the sidebar multiple times.

I'd rather not beat around the bush, so let's get to the point.

This lesbian(bi) just moved here, and automaticaly shows interest in me. Played some of my game off of her and now she's grabbing my ass, hugging me, all that other happy horseshit. Got her number, we start texting. I suggested we should chill and match(weed) and she agreed. Flirt with her aggressively, but after all of that, I have no idea how to escalate. I've never even kissed a girl before, so I have no experience in this at all. Ended up chilling at my house for a couple hours and her mom picked her up, nothing happens.

How do I cross the line between playful touching to intimate action? I don't want to dig myself a hole that I can't get out of.

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Title Need some advice with this...
Author ElementArrow
Upvotes 1
Comments 16
Date March 24, 2016 5:00 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]EdvardMunch1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just remember to remain sexual. The fear many guys have in falling into the friend zone isn't to be feared when you maintain frame. What happens is a lot of guys start to suppress it for "loves" sake, "you're more than just someone I want to fuck" or some white knight crap.

You can actually build things with her without escalating if you maintain who you are and you're needs.

Want to kiss her? Just stop the conversation, start at her, and do it. Easy as that. Likely if she likes you she wants to kiss. And if she doesn't you'll know when you try to kiss her. That's polarizing.

From kissing it's easy to escalate to touching, feeling other parts, slowly making your way to more territory.

I don't recommend going overboard especially in your situation. If you fuck too soon you'll lose sexual tension and the something still left to be had. Unless it's a one night stand, gradually working into sex is best.

Sex is pretty easy. The thing to remember is following your instincts and being comfortable with your body.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This lesbian(bi) just moved here

She says she's lesbian. Heh, I bet you she'll experiment with dick.

I've never even kissed a girl before, so I have no experience in this at all

Touch her. Forget all you've read about respecting women, remember how you used to play with girls as a kid? Do that. Tickle her, touch her, push her lead her.

My fav kiss escalation: Make a fist behind her head, grabbing her hair, if she doesn't complain, pull her to you and kiss her.

pushing her to a wall might also work

[–]RPSnuggles0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hahaha. You start with kino mixed with joking. The kino leads to attraction and tingles. Once you see enough IOIs (https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cortx/heres_a_little_list_of_iois_feel_free_to_add/) . That's when you escalate to a kiss.

Thing is, you just fucking do it. Don't think about it. Just fucking do it. The moment you think about it is a moment too late. Do it like a reflex. She will smile or she won't. OUTCOME INDEPENDENCE. You just do it. Start with a peck on the lips. If she likes it, you will tell by her not recoiling. Wait a second. Put your hand behind her head or far shoulder. Go from peck to your lips between her lips like a sandwich. Don't go for the full on tongue right away. That's fucking weirdo shit. Let her be the first for the tongue. Go slow with tongue. Don't rush. It's simple shit.

Just be cool. Don't overthink it. It's not a mathematical equation. It's a natural thing. Make it natural. Be natural. A woman wants a chill dude not a scaredy cat. So be that chill guy. Act like whatever is cool. Act like she can trust you and be warm. At the same time, be decisive. There is no "right time".

Guess what? You will fail with women a million times in your life. The key is to actually try. Now, I wish I were your age with my knowledge. The thing is the more situations you put yourself in like this the better you get. Kissing, talking, flirting are all skills which you get better at by doing more of it.

Guess what? If you fail, you can still get a kiss out of it. AND, you can make her jealous by flirting with another girl immediately after. Don't get all hurt.

PS: She's too young to know what she is. She will try anything with the right guy. The right guy is the guy who makes her feel comfortable with his non-judgement and his stoic, carefree attitude.

[–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I have at least gotten a group of friends and a couple of hobbies and interests to better myself(basketball, drawing, animation, reading, engineering)

Very nice

This lesbian(bi) just moved here

They're all like that.

I suggested we should chill and match(weed) and she agreed.

Like a boss.

Ended up chilling at my house for a couple hours and her mom picked her up, nothing happens.

It's a bitch to explain it in words, but I have 2h of video for you that will set you on the right track exactly:

"Top 10 Mistakes Intelligent Men Make With Women" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qigOUdAOyRs

"How to Get Sexual Like a Man" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nuvL7Dk8x8s

[–]ElementArrow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks!

[–]Apexk9-1 points0 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

I know you're 15 and probably don't have balls yet but just fucken make a move.

[–]ElementArrow[S] 0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy Link

I know you're trying to help and all, but that was no help.

How do I make a move? What moves are there to make?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

At your age you have to just try anything and see what works for you. You're mentally blocking any progress because of some fear you'll mess it up.

You have so much ahead of you, just try anything. I remember when I was in HS and I did the weirdest stuff to get laid.

[–]ElementArrow[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

What's the weirdest thing you did?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

tickle match...

[–]ElementArrow[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

lol imma try that

[–]RPSnuggles0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Uhhhh... many girls hate being tickled. Some it is an instant turn off. Some it makes really angry.

Just blaze then netflix and chill. Put on some comedy to get feelz goin. Ya know, then snuggle up. Shiiiet. It's easy at that age.

[–]Apexk90 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

You ain't gonna learn till you try.

How did you learn to ride a bike? You know how I learned my uncle sat me on a bike then pushed me down a hill.

It was ride or die.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Did you ride or die?

[–]Apexk91 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Almost crashed into a curb and died.

Swimming was much worse.

[–]RPSnuggles0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

lol

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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