I've been slowly but surely changing myself to the man I am on the inside. I'm actually going out on dates. I actually asked a girl for her number at the mall while shopping (if you know me, this is a huge step). Got rejected with the 'have a boyfriend' line and in retrospect it was probably a shit test. But I digress. Basically at my church while I was having small talk with some other volunteers one of my more nerdy friends that rejected TRP when I showed it to him and is pretty socially inept basically told an ugly girl that knows all the other hot girls that I play yugioh secretly. She mocks me laughing and saying that I'm no better than the gross nerds playing yugioh at lunch time in her highschool. -__- I look stern and say. You'd play yugioh if it was for 1000$.

Do you think this knowledge spreading will affect my masculinity around the other girls at the church or has this knowledge completely ruined a batch of eggs for me?

Another question. How do you guys define flirting? I'd imagine it would naturally be more conservative in a christian environment, but my higher up (the nerdy friend) totally said I need to tone down my flirting towards the new girl. In my mind I never really flirted though. I expressed that I never touched her once and only gave her like 2-3 compliments(some were compliment insults if that makes any sense) over an hour and a half time period so not as much talking as you would think. + she initiated most conversation with me since I had no interest in dealing with her when I am the only male and have to keep the little kids inline.

tl dr; undercover nerd that is becoming more dominant, sure of himself, and flirty, ends up having his guilty pleasure hobbies aired out and is concerned about his future success with women in the same network.