Porn accountability & tips from anyone who has beaten it (punny)

fnordsnord · 2016-12-21T21:27:25+00:00

You're in the wrong place. But so is /r/nofap. If porn is your issue, hit up the dudes at /r/pornfree.

coloredzebra · 2016-12-21T21:24:34+00:00

Here's what I did, it may not work for your path, although it may give you insight.

I just came to the actualization. I've come to realize how valuable time really is. Why waste that time looking up a porno, and investing my mental energy into stimulating myself with an imaginary woman?

When I could improve in real life, and get better quality of pussy, and excitement? Masturbating made me feel like shit after. Depression still stuck, my physique was total shit, and mental health was on decline, from pushing my dopamine receptors.

I got tired of feeling less than others, and not having energy to do a goddamn thing. The first step is simply not thinking about it. Keep yourself distracted, and remind yourself, "Do I want to feel like shit, day in, and day out, simply because I lack the will power to say no?" Fuck no, you are always in control of your actions, and thoughts.

Excercise in general to move that energy, invest your time in hobbies other than porn. For example, my most recent hobby is the full time investment in my health. The minute I wake up, I get in the shower, wake my ass up, prepare for exercise, then throughout the day I'm constantly counting my colories, etc staying busy, I have no time to waste on a distraction like porn.

TL:DR: You have too little time , and too much to invest into this world, to be surrounded by non-sensical activities, strive for improvement, make your dent in the world before you blip out. Self-Mastery, self-improvement, read, excercise. Just stay busy.

HootieMane · 2016-12-21T22:56:47+00:00

Replace porn with healthy masturbation habits. Otherwise you're going to get stressed and relapse. Noporn = good, Nofap = harmful

theredpill22 · 2016-12-22T00:06:39+00:00

Ex-addict here, I'm talking 3 times a day from the age of 12 to 18. Real degenerate shit that would make your skin crawl. Bad for an adult, absolutely abhorrent for an alienated teenager.

Watching that shit fucked me up no end and to be perfectly honest, almost completely destroyed my humanity. I struggle greatly with empathy and just generally dealing with other people in a sincere way now. I may have been born like that though, who knows. I've always struggled with people.

I tried cold turkey on and off for almost 2 years and never got further than 10 days. 10 fucking days.

The problem was that porn was the only thing that made me feel good in life. I was in a very, very dark place. Suicidal thoughts were daily, but I was always too cowardly to follow through. I ate less than 1000 calories a day, I slept 4 hours a night, I sat on my own in school everyday for 2 years. I could go months without speaking to anyone other than my parents, who I despise.

There was literally nothing positive in my life. Literally nothing. I have no idea how I got out of bed in the morning. I was in this weird stage where I wanted to be dead so badly but I was too afraid to do it. I felt like I was already mentally dead, but my body just kept going, on auto pilot I suppose. I didn't feel like I was actually living my life.

I still think I died when I was 16. Or at least, part of me did. I don't really feel emotions like I used to anymore. There's very little "there". When I say I don't care about anything, I mean it in the most sincere way possible. I really, really don't give a single shit about anything that happens to me.

If I was told I'd die of cancer tomorrow I don't think I would feel anything. I mean I wouldn't feel happy, but it wouldn't really bother me too much. It would be more like a mild annoyance. I feel like an old man, at 20 years old. Not that I'm mature, more in that I'm just tired and worn out from the misery of my life and I just want to be at peace.

But anyway, back to the porn addiction.

Start by moving to less degenerate porn. I don't know how far down the rabbit hole you are but just start small. Watch less degenerate things. Until everntually you're watching brazzers and reality kings type shit. Then, you want to start moving to solo videos. Then move to hardcore pics. Then softcore pics. Then just attractive women. Finally, your imagination.

Acknowledge that this will take time. Pat yourself on the back each time you nut to something less degenerate than you previously nutted to. It's progress.

I'm still not that happy with my life, but I'm happier than I was. The happier you are the easier it is to break the addiction, any addiction really.

My mentality is that I focus on what I can control and I ignore everything else. If I lie in my bed at night knowing that I have tried my best to be a better man today, and there nothing more I could have done, then I get some small bit of contentment from that.

It's not much, but it's all I have.

FrameWalker · 2016-12-21T23:37:53+00:00

Nothing works better for me than getting busy. Sign up for a part time job ifbyou have to. Work on making work more fulfilling along the way. When everything in your life is better than pron you wont need it anymore.

Peter_B_Long · 2016-12-22T00:55:27+00:00

• The first trick I used to quit porn (haven't watched porn since march 2nd) was that I pictured my LTR as the girl getting fucked hard by the guy in the vid (pretty depressing i know, but it worked)

• If you want to believe the 'superpowers' of NoFap, it's up to you. Me personally I wasn't that gullible, but I had some hope. I did get some benefits: Less brain fog, more energy, more self respect, more discipline. Sex became MUCH more enjoyable. I can be in the moment now and appreciate MY girls tits and ass and her moans vs before when I was always unsatisfied because I was brainwashed by porn into seeing hardcore fake girls having fake orgasms.

• And eventually I would think to myself, "Do you want to watch these dirty sloots get rammed by some loser? or do you want to be the one drilling these girls until their eyes roll back?"

GameOver17 · 2016-12-22T03:43:42+00:00

This has to be the most over thought issue I see on here. Just don't beat it for about 3 weeks to reset, then masturbate like once a week when you feel the need too but with no porn.

Shit like porn and smoking and shit food is hard to stop but your body will adjust. It's just time. Thats how I quit all that shit was go a few days or a week without and then when the cravings start I just think if I give in now it just restarts and I lose my progress.

Basically it's just time, your body and mind can change, you just have to toughen up and give it the time to do so.

Title	Porn accountability & tips from anyone who has beaten it (punny)
Author	AwakenedSovereign
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	December 21, 2016 9:07 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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