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Quick tips (or good read) on preventing a plate turning into gf

March 6, 2020
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Hi,

I'm looking for some material to read on how to avoid turning a plate into a gf.

Been spinning some plates for a while now and went through the sidebar twice but can't really find a small scheme on how to avoid a plate turning into a gf and more importantly so how to imply this to her? I'm honestly a bit scared they will take it wrong when I say I'm not looking for a gf and get me too'd.

So, any material on how to prevent this from happening would be really nice.

Thanks

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Title Quick tips (or good read) on preventing a plate turning into gf
Author RPOpenUp
Upvotes 6
Comments 20
Date March 6, 2020 10:09 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]kray6711 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm honestly a bit scared they will take it wrong when I say I'm not looking for a gf and get me too'd.

That's your problem right there. You're scared of their reaction. Remember that YOU are the prize.

You lead. She follows or she's out. As simple as that.

Go read Handling "The Talk" by u/mattyanon

[–]RPOpenUp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I remember that that was a great read, I'm going over it again.

Thank you

[–]Subutai_Baghatur4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

A plate is a girl who you just fuck

A FWB is a girl who you fuck AND spend non-fucking time with

A LTR is a girl who you fuck, spend non-fucking time with AND are monogamous

So it’s simple: if she’s a plate then you don’t spend non-fucking time with her; if she’s a FWB then you don’t give her your monogamy

[–]handfulofnuts2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

That’s not quite right. An LTR can be monogamous, but doesn’t have to be. LTR literally just means long term relationship. The difference between FWB and LTR is 1) length of time and 2) closeness of the relationship. My last LTR I’d introduce to people as “my girlfriend.” My FWBs on the side were always “my friend.”

[–]Subutai_Baghatur1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

An LTR can be monogamous, but doesn’t have to be. LTR literally just means long term relationship.

Literally, yes. However in TRP, LTR is colloquial for girlfriend and unless stated otherwise, there is assumed monogamy.. hence the term OLTR to signify it’s an open long term relationship to differentiate the two.

[–]handfulofnuts0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’ve been around TRP since well before the ridiculous conservative wave swept through. Monogamy was never the assumption before that, nor should it be. OLTR is a useful term when the distinction needs to be made, but an LTR can be either way.

[–]SexAppropriation-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Non monogamous LTR are really cucked

[–]theUnBannableHulk6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Treat her like shit and never relent.

[–]LegendarySuperSalsa4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

No bad idea treating her like shit will only make them love you more!! Try being nice to them and treating them with love and respect that’ll drive them off!

[–]theUnBannableHulk2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Knows what’s up gg

[–]LegendarySuperSalsa1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Trial and error bro trial and error

[–]HeartbreakHotline-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If she has any level of value and is not some random worthless thot, she’ll leave, no need to be a fucking piece of ass

[–]HurricaneHugues1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just don't do boyfriend shit, and she won't ever be your gf.

[–]i-am-the-prize1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

you know what's "really nice"? you say it early on, instead of fostering the possibility of it happening for them (ltr)

sounds like, you allowed it to be on the table to reduce your rejection rate

you made this bed, winner; next time polarize up front, even if it means a slightly lower close rate, so you aren't 'scared they will take it wrong'

how to fix: pull back, get 2 more plates.

[–]RPOpenUp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Allways great responses sir, thank you

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Been spinning some plates for a while now and went through the sidebar twice but can't really find a small scheme on how to avoid a plate turning into a gf and more importantly so how to imply this to her?

Ok, I can offer some insight here.

First of all, do not engage in ANY boyfriend or provider behaviours, these trigger expectations and entitlement in women.

For example:

Setting up nice dates, buying presents, listening to her talk crap, offering emotional support, offering financial support, anything that could be seen as romantic.

What you DO do..... is have fun with her and fuck her.

Accept this will lose you some women, and be ok with that. You'll lose the ones looking for a boyfriend, and keep the ones looking for fun. This isn't easy, but it can be done.

Concretely: Do not commit. See other women, and make no secret that you do. Don't overdo it, but be sometimes unavailable and if she asks says "I'm seeing Susan". You don't need to say you're fucking Susan, but certainly don't deny it.

Additionally: leave gaps after seeing her before agreeing to the next meeting. Eg set up a meeting on Wednesday for Saturday. See her Saturday but DO NOT AGREE TO THE NEXT DATE. If pushed say "I'm busy for a few days". Do not agree to call again, do not agree to see her again, do not put any dates on when you'll be in touch. The idea is that you feel like a special occasional treat rather than something she can count on.

If your schedules mean that you end up seeing each other for a good session every Saturday.... keep mixing it up. Be unpredictable. This is more attractive, more exciting, and if you do it right it won't feel like a bf/gf thing.

I'm honestly a bit scared they will take it wrong when I say I'm not looking for a gf and get me too'd.

Saying this is fine.

The problem is that you have to say it AND act like it. When I started this I'd say "I'm not looking for a gf" and expect that to be understood. 6 months later and she's saying things like "I know you said you're not looking for a gf, but now that you've found one..." or "I'm not a girlfriend, but I want us to be exclusive".

Almost nothing you say is concrete here. "I don't want exclusive" turns into "Ok, non-exclusive gf-bf leading to marriage".

It's why it is essential that she knows that you're screwing other women. You have to actually act like this, all the time. The no-contact gaps, slow responses to texts (and ignore some!). All convey to her that this is not a bf-gf thing.

This avoids misunderstandings and really, the metoo thing is so rare you'll be fine SO LONG AS YOU DONT STICK YOUR DICK IN TEH CRAZY. Girls who manipulate what you say, try overly to frame things as gf-bf, ones who deliberately misunderstand, ones who go on about exclusivity as if it's their god given right: quietly and nicely move on from these.

And fundamentally, make sure you really are seeing multiple girls at once. If you are only seeing one, you'll fuck this up. You'll think "it's ok to just see this one girl, because she gets it". She doesn't. She's pretending to. You have to be seeing multiple women and always getting more.

[–]RPOpenUp[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks a lot for your effort and time. Getting an answer from "The talk" man himself is greatly appreciated. Considering your advice I think I'm currently doing fine. Like you said, they allways will try to push into exclusivity is what i must remember.

Edit:

One more question: You say I shouldn't listen to her talk crap. What is a good way to deal with this? Currently I just let her ramble and just say uhuh yea okay and not paying attention. Sometimes even complete withdrawal of attention.

This will be saved

Thanks sir

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You say I shouldn't listen to her talk crap. What is a good way to deal with this?

As rudely as your SMV relative to hers will allow.

Point is: if Jonny Depp said "shut the fuck up, that's tedious", she'd giggle happily and agree. If Simpy Beta says "Please would you mind not talking about things that don't interest me m'lady?" she'll be deeply offended and lash out in every way she can think of.

The nice way to do it is to redirect to something you are interested in: "Uh huh.. right...lipstick.... have you seen the new 2020 Chevy?". Do that a few times and hopefully she'll get the hint.

However... women do have this need to prattle on. Partly it's dominance (see if he'll listen to dumb shit), partly it's a need to be heard and understood and have a man's attention. If it doesn't bother you too much and things are otherwise fantastic: letting her get it out of her system isn't a bad plan UP TO A POINT.

Fundamentally you should always be upping what you get and decreasing what it costs you - with her and/or with others. It's sometimes worth taking a bit of a risk here to see what you can get away with, especially if you have other options. And if you don't, that needs fixing.

Hope that helps.

[–]AloofusMaximus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go read blackdragonblog Have his version of the talk (which is quite different than the one here). Spend time with the women you like spending time with the most, and keep fucking the ones you like fucking the most. Those two aren't mutually exclusive.

[–]nexther0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Read Bitch Management by HumanSockPuppet & The newer OLTR post by VasiliyZaitzev.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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