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Reschedule date? Or go through with it?

January 7, 2020


I've set up a date with a girl that lives in another city then me and planned a date at a bar in her city. She said she could do a date at a bar but it would be late. So I agreed but she can only meet up from about 10:45pm and my last train back home leaves at 11:45.

Is it better to reschedule to have a bigger time frame? Or is this something good cuz it could be plausible deniability for her? I also don't know if it's a good idea to be reliant on her.
Glad if someone could provide me some insight on this one.


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Title Reschedule date? Or go through with it?
Author RPOpenUp
Upvotes 1
Comments 18
Date January 7, 2020 5:51 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]FinancialThanks19 points10 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

The date should be at least as big a deal for her as it is for you, preferably more. The fact that you’re travelling to her city and she’s just making time for you at the end of the night shows that it’s a much bigger deal for you than it is for her.

Cancel the date

[–]slip_like_space4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This. Women will find a way to spend time/fuck you. Your time > hers.

[–]amwfhunter-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Unless she wanted to fuck and planned to make the date late....

[–]RPOpenUp[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I understand where you are coming from and I'll apply this in the future, Should I try to reschedule so she comes to my city? I don't live in the city itself and it's a busride/car ride of 15 min home.

I just don't know how to continue since I can't really change this situation.


[–]slip_like_space-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Flip it on her. Go along the lines of, "Hey, next time if you're in my city, hit me up." You're the prize. In between that time, find other women in your city and spin those plates. Before you know it, you'll have forgotten about her when she does (if ever) comes to your city.

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]theUnBannableHulk4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Man You’re going to another city to visit a chick?

You’ve already lost a lot of hand.

If a bitch wants to see me she better come to my City, I’m not wasting time for these flaky hos

[–]RPOpenUp[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm from the Netherlands and travelling to this city is only like 30 min. So it's not that even more effort then actually dating someone in the city. Are you saying 30 min is still too much?


[–]Theblackmistro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Where do you live in NL?

[–]theUnBannableHulk0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

It’s not a matter of distance but of time.

In Dutch culture is traveling 30 minutes pretty standard for first dates.... that’s the question you gotta answer.

It’s a matter of showing DEGREE of interest.

Any action that shows TOO much investment is considered low value. Any action that shows LESS investment is considered high value.

The first Dutch girl I got with, I took her to grocery store to help me shop some Dutch food, that was my date but then I’m not Dutch so maybe that was a factor 🤷‍♂️

[–]RPOpenUp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are right. However I could imagine that going to another city in US for example can take up to three hours or more. You can travel from one side of the Netherlands to the other in 3 hours, that's why I'm asking

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Is it better to reschedule to have a bigger time frame?

An hour is PERFECT for a first meeting.

[–]RedSkeller0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If it’s inconvenient for you even slightly then cancel it. She should be meeting you half way on the effort and if she’s not there then don’t bother.

[–]IXseed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'd say cancel unless you're 100% you can end the date at her place (or get her back to yours).

Try not to go on dates that are like pulling teeth for you. If she can't even be bothered to come to your city to see you (or meet you halfway) you already have your answer.

[–]2redhawkes-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can pull it off and stay at her place as a p/d. Another thing is her attraction level, you should know that by now.

[–]Theblackmistro-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I suggest to reschedule. It's the best choice for you. It takes more than an hour to escalate and catch the train back home.

[–]georeddit2018-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Better for you two meet each other at a somewhat middle location where you both live. Don't trip Bro and waste your time cos she might flake on the date. Have a back up just in case.

Rescheduled for a time that is convenient for you aswell, not just for her alone.

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You already fucked up by traveling to her and you're more invested. Reschedule it.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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