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Responding to Questions and Statements That Imply a Response

December 14, 2013
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I have a few questions about typical things girls text to me, and am looking for good responses.

  • "I miss you".

Obviously this is bait for, "I miss you too." I will usually respond with a smiley ':)' and then change the subject.

  • "Who were you with?"

I'm not so much worried about saying something that will loose me points here, but it seems like a great opportunity to get her jealousy going. How do I do so without outright telling her I was with some other girl?

  • "I love you."

Similar to "I miss you" in my opinion, and I will usually respond in the same way. Room for improvement? I find lines like "I know", "I love me too", etc to be stupid.

  • Direct questions, usually "Do you miss/love/like/need/ me?"

This is tricky because a negative response can turn them away for being too cold, whereas a positive response will reduce attraction. It can be hard to change the subject here.

  • What do you do when, after ignoring/deflecting a question, they ask it again? Sometimes they'll ask a third time if it is deflected again.

What do you guys think?

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Title Responding to Questions and Statements That Imply a Response
Author BellatorCordis
Upvotes 9
Comments 6
Date December 14, 2013 7:15 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]2FAM0US 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

  • "I miss you".

"lets change that" inmediately make plans

  • "Who were you with?"

"dont worry bout it ;)" change the subject

  • "I love you."

honestly "i love me too" is my fave

  • Direct questions, usually "Do you miss/love/like/need/ me?"

"yea haha" leave her wondering wtf 'haha' means

  • What do you do when, after ignoring/deflecting a question, they ask it again? Sometimes they'll ask a third time if it is deflected again.

send exactly the same message verbatim, down to the letter. if she calls you out on it tell her "im very busy guy i do not have time to type" then immediately change the subject

[–]steadymotion 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"I miss you."

"I miss your ass."

"Who were you with?"

"Are you getting jealous?" or "You're getting jealous."

"I love you."

"I love your legs/breasts/lips." (be creative and be honest)

"Do you miss/love/like/need me?"

"You're a good girl." Or if you don't want to give her so much validation: "You're alright, baby." or "You're mostly a good girl."

[–]_whistler 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Here are mine.

I miss you.

No reply.

Who were you with?

A hooker. or if the time is ambiguous, More specific? I'm a popular guy. Also, no reply.

I love you.

Who the fuck is texting you that she loves you? Is this a girlfriend, or a random plate who's apparently crazy? Assuming it's a girlfriend, no reply. Or I know, which is good enough for Han Solo. But apparently you think that's stupid. /chiponshoulder

Also you could go with some variation on You have good taste.

Do you _____ me?

Who's this? Or no reply.

Repeat questions of any kind that isn't 'How do I defuse the bomb that's about to blow up New York City???'

No reply.

You'll notice most of my answers involve not replying. This is because I hate wasting time on unimportant texting. If you have something you want to talk about, you do it face to face with me. Texting is for logistics, everything else can wait.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

the i miss you stuff is just a time filler. it's putting the conversation and burden of entertainment on YOU, as if you were their clown that provides them value by jumping through their conversation hoops.

Stop. Playing. Their. Game.

You're trying to find a short term solution to a systemic issue that's being developed. My experience was that when I was the weak ass "beta" in the relationship, I would immediately respond with some r/seduction response that's meant to play with their minds and get them to respond with a happy face.

Now, when they send that response, I just don't respond. I don't have time to waste to try to shore up your insecurities with coddling of texting affection and love.

Usually what happens is they'll call, or they'll actually have a conversation of value, or they'll get pissed. Is that your fault that you haven't fixed their past insecurities with the other guys they got pounded by? Probably not. Can you help them? Sure, show them the way by inviting them into your frame.

But under no circumstance do you respond and try to placate these child like texts. It's like being a grownup, and then going down to the level of a child and playing monopoly. You're better than this, you're better than wasting your conversation time on these types of topics, and you should be too busy going after you goals/aspirations to stop, backpedal, and 'encourage' your girl to come along for the ride.

Not sure if that makes sense, but I'm just saying that this is a symptom of a relationship depending mostly on you to create the interest and spark. It should be the other way around.

[–]atlas87 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Agree and amplify or just straight clown it out depending on your relationship with her.

[–]mrust[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think you are seeing a lot of needy girls. Do you think there is something about your frame that is bringing out this behaviour? Maybe the type of girl you are seeing (young)?

Ignore, redirect, agree and amplify.

Stop texting anything about how you feel. Texts should either be rapport-building (make her feel good towards you) or logistical (set up the next meet).

Read some Roissy.. He has lots of posts on texting. Here are some go to responses:

nice

gay

...

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