Searched, didn't/haven't seen much on this. What are the loose rules on how long to wait to text back?

HumptyDumptyFellHard · 2019-01-02T07:09:41+00:00

Keep it random. Sometimes text her couple minutes after she texts you, someone wait a couple hours. There isn’t a rule, but something you SHOULDN’T do is always texting her right after.

Talinor09 · 2019-01-02T06:54:31+00:00

There’s no rules if you truly don’t give a fuck. I’ll b texting like 5-6 girls at a time so am pretty nonchalant. It almost gets to the point where I can’t be bothered holding conversations.

Sometimes the convo dies and they’ll slip away and hit me up in a few weeks. Sometimes i’ll realise i’ve been bad at making an effort and send out a few texts and arrange a date.

If you don’t care about the outcome then nothings going to phase you. This is how it should be.

When I used to have oneitis (ex-LTR) I would have to consciously stagger/delay my texts. In reality I probably came across the same as I normally do however I would think about this girl a lot and would care how she interpreted my texts or responded. I always felt the balance/control was out of my hands.

Abundance/internal game helps this. If you’re the prize you don’t place as much weighting on what is effectively micro-game. When you stop caring you’ll find you get away with sending some outrageous shit.

Musicgoon · 2019-01-02T08:44:11+00:00

Here's the rule; Text back whenever you feel like it.

Worrying about trivial shit is faggotry.

_the_shape_ · 2019-01-02T06:59:17+00:00

You can always get more girls and start caring less about appearing indifferent (because you'll likely become indifferent) Abundance ftw.

Also, the more you text, especially without getting what you want, the worse you look. The rules are that texting a girl you're interested in is primarily for meeting up in person. If those millenial urges are driving you batshit and you still feel compelled to text, text one of your buddies or family. Keep it short and simple with prospects. In fact, fucking flat out ignore them from time to time. You're struggling because you're probably also concerned that she might move on and leave you behind.

Close, or find a better lead, then close. Repeat.

The more you text her, the more attention you give her, and she's giving you what exactly in return? A reply in the form of an emoticon, fifteen minutes later to insult the injury?

redhawkes · 2019-01-02T14:44:00+00:00

Yea, it comes off as autistic when you follow a pattern like that, it's predictable.

As others said, keep it random, aloof, following the golden rule of 2/3 (don't invest more than her), obviously calibrate. If she takes a hour of two to reply, double down on that, she's playing a game or isn't interested.

person8445 · 2019-01-02T13:18:27+00:00

2 to 3 ratio

[deleted] · 2019-01-02T07:24:36+00:00

Fill your life with something and reply when you can. If you're worrying about the time to wait to text back then you're not doing enough in your life that matters.

IIlllIllIIIllIl · 2019-01-02T13:22:21+00:00

If you wait longer than 2 hours she will call Chad and fuck him instead.

Title	Searched, didn't/haven't seen much on this. What are the loose rules on how long to wait to text back?
Author	IIlllIllIIIllIl
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Comments	17
Date	January 2, 2019 6:13 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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