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Selfish in bed

March 12, 2016

So... I was talking with an old FWB and she told me I was too selfish in bed. Like it was a bad thing.

Not the first time a girl told me this. They usually say I'm distant and just do what I feel like.

This is very true tbh, but I always felt like this was a good thing, girls seem to like the way I just do what I feel with no shame or anything.

My question is: Is being selfish in bed a good thing? Is there a point where you should really look to "please" your partner?

I have my personal answer, I think it is a good thing, if a girl wants something she can ask or push me to do it...

What you guys think?

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Title Selfish in bed
Author 103342
Upvotes 6
Comments 8
Date March 12, 2016 6:30 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]1atticusfinch19739 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

If you read Sex God Method (and you should) you can realize all the different components of good sex. If you're just pumping and dumping your load and not giving the girl anything then they aren't going to be interested.

There's a difference between being selfish and giving the woman pleasure along with your own and showing them who's boss in bed. The basic answer is that if they aren't coming back for repeat business, you're probably doing it wrong.

[–]fromdario3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]PantsonFire12341 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I hear allot about the Sex God book but no one ever explains the core lessons you learn from it. So what's the magic juice?

[–]103342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great answer. Thank you.

[–]RPFreebase4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most girls don't like to ask. First lesson. Second, women do vary in the bedroom somewhat as to what they enjoy and what is required to get them off. For example I've found some women can easily have orgasms from regular sex, others require direct clitoral stimulation, and some may need a vibrator to get off or just don't orgasm in general. In a similar way many women are satisfied by you just doing your thing, essentially, and others (like this former FWB) may need a little bit of extra attention.

I would also recommend Sex God Method.

[–]Apexk9-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I always look to please my partner. With my fingers my tongue my dick. My pleasure comes from a women's moans or getting head. Sex itself isn't stimulating enough.

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[–]FrameWalker0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most likely. Don't learn to fish from th e fish lol

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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