Simple one here. My oneitis LTR was telling me about her cousins man. Apparently the cousin laid down an ultimatum as the man was going away on some all girls night with a girl he went to uni with.

Not sure why the LTR was telling me this to try and coax something out of me regarding boundaries and acceptability - sometimes you are just overthinking things. She said it was a bit suspicious and he didn’t even discuss it with her.

It made me think about one of the top posts i read here where a dude drove his gf back at the start of vacation after she revealed some shady monkey branching with an ex over coffee. He said one of his boundaries was no secret meetings.

I want to lay down rules like this but not sure when on how to bring it up. Seems its best to set it out from the get go but for LTRs where it hasn’t been brought up is there a way to bring it up without looking insecure?

My plan was to ask about how it worked out then just say ‘actually not sure we have discussed these sorts of things so why don’t we. How would you feel if i did that?’ Before rhyming off mines. Just want her to know where i stand as she, like every other female, are aware enough to know when they’re on the road to fcking around and then when (probably not if) they cross that line its hard next town.