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Should I bother with dating if I'm not fit? (picture inside)

thedudewiththe
April 16, 2017
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Title Should I bother with dating if I'm not fit? (picture inside)
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thedudewiththe
Upvotes 5
Comments 40
Date April 16, 2017 5:52 AM UTC
(7 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/askTRP
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[–]creating_my_life9 points10 points11 points 7 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Tinder...absolutely not. All online dating is out for you. MAYBE something like match, where BBs compete to be most taken advantage of.

You're going to need to rely on day game. in a big way.

You're not top 20% in looks, but not horrible. Keep getting lean, and don't stress about it. Dress well, be fun, DGAF. Something will click.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

You're going to need to rely on day game. in a big way.

Can I REALISTICALLY smash a cute girl with this body with day game?

[–]RedditAdminsSuck_880 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Realistically? No

[–]GreenPiller0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Depends on how good your face is...

[–]NeoGenesisRising0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You could do in Europe. There are tons of chicks that dig chubby/curvy(?) guys. I once got a rejection because she only goes with "bigger" dudes.

[–]creating_my_life0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

It's possible. I've scored way above me several times.

But it's a statistics game. And, you need to be honest about "cute". I find lots of in-shape 6s and 7s to be very fuckable. But if you're only considering 9s and 10s as "cute", then you have a tough road in front of you.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

It's possible. I've scored way above me several times.

Did it worth the number of hours you put into?

But it's a statistics game.

Do you have any insight? If it takes 100 approaches for one lay on average, I would rather do minimal approaches for practice until I get in shape.

And, you need to be honest about "cute". I find lots of in-shape 6s and 7s to be very fuckable. But if you're only considering 9s and 10s as "cute", then you have a tough road in front of you.

Nope, I like 6s too, even 5s.

[–]creating_my_life2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Did it worth the number of hours you put into?

Of course not. It never is. The "good" lays happen while I'm living my life, not trying to score.

Do you have any insight?

The harder you try the less it happens.

Nope, I like 6s too, even 5s.

You're fine then. Go day game and slay.

I'm a very outgoing, fun, social person; so approaching in any situation and having an outcome-independent conversation is easy for me.

[–]Apexk90 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It may take 100 approaches for 1 lay the first time. And 70 the second. Maybe 33 the 3rd but you'll get better the more you do it.

Plus you can be fit and still repulse a women by how you talk and act.

Confidence is key so if you ain't got it learn to fake it. This is more important in how you talk then anything.

[–]Aesteic-1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I disagree about his Tinder part. I say try it. Tinder, like everything else is a numbers game, and even an ugly mother fucker can slide in on a cutie on tinder if he's lucky (aka find a super horny chick, which is more common than people seem to think)

[–]CommanderCumlord points points points 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I think the answer is start now to both. Start trying to fuck hot girls and start trying to get in the best shape of your life. I've been lifting for three months and I'm stronger than I've ever been, but pussy isn't just falling in my lap yet. I understand it's a long grind towards getting what I want, and a lot of breaking old bad habits, but that doesn't mean I don't have huge blue balls.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago* (13 children) | Copy Link

Why waste time and energy on that?

When you are fat, it takes 100 hours to find a girl to smash.

When you are fit, it takes 10 hours to find a girl to smash.

So wait for X months, save 90 hours.

edit. jezus, this is a fucking example to make an obvious point

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen6 points7 points8 points 7 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

That is the most retarded "logic" I've read all week and I actually think you'll never get fit because all you do is looking for strawmen in order to be able to stay in your comfort zone and do exactly nothing.

[–]CommanderCumlord points points points 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

People like this guy are just looking for confirmation they can look as bad. Validation seeking that they could be better. Complacency and comfort to be fat and maybe get laid one day by a fat unicorn who just loves him for who he is. How cute.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

looking for strawmen in order to be able to stay in your comfort zone and do exactly nothing.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] -1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

It is an example to simplify my point. I assumed people are smart enough to get that. I guess you are not.

[–]CommanderCumlord points points points 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Watch The Tao of Steve. You are not smart enough to understand the value of game. When you ask for advice, listen and don't act defensive about how bad you are. Just shut up and work hard.

It could take 5 months or 5 years for you to get laid, but if you commit yourself to a goal it's certain you'll reach it. Just focus and get your shit together.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] -2 points-1 points0 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

So you are saying, not him, that I should do it for practice and not smashing. Okay, makes sense.

What you do is just stupidly calling people retards or saying shut the fuck up. Very useful way to go about it indeed.

[–]DAD_FISTER points points points 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Shut the fuck up retard.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] -1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

go fist your dad

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep. Too retarded to identify a lazy asshat clown when I see one.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep. Too retarded to identify a lazy asshat clown when I see one.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

How would you know how long it takes to "smash" a hot girl?
And are you 15yrs old? Who says smash anymore?

[–]Apexk92 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

1 the girl won't see your body until you're already naked usually that means she's already made out with you probably sucked your dick.

If you get that far you doing pretty good and your body hasn't been seen yet.

I the mean time buy a nice shirt pump your chest so your belly goes in around women (practice now) buy a shirt that looks good in that position and bam.

1 good outfit and you can get your dick sucked.

If your dick ain't small it'll turn em on.

Now if you got a small dick that's another story.

This is based on your 7 out of 10 being equal to my 7 out of 10

[–]randomassortment_2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

OK, look up RSD Julian. He used to have proper man boobs and a belly. Back then, he pulled like a God. Looks don't matter as much as the red pill say they do. But definitely focus on going to the gym.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Lower your standards. Get a decent haircut and dress like you want to fuck. Talk to everyone. Fat guys fuck. Don't listen to any pussy that tells you otherwise.

[–]falecf40 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

I've seen chubby, ugly mother fuckers get some cute ass chicks. They just think they are the shit and people fall into their frame. Improve yourself physically and mentally while attempting to get girls. Just know the mental part can be the longest, hardest part to change and it can take years which is why you don't wait to start.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link

I've seen chubby, ugly mother fuckers get some cute ass chicks.

Just because you see them outside or dating, doesn't mean they fuck. How do you know? I understand your point but I'm just asking.

[–]Auphor_Phaksache2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Chubby ugly motherfucker checking in. I'll take anybody bitch in here. I put money on it.

[–]falecf40 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

While that is certainly true I do know some of these guys personally. One of my best friends being one. He's not much to look at, overweight and really didn't have much going for him but got laid regularly and with good looking chicks. He has a small dick too, doesn't stop him at all.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Haha what does he offer to chicks? Drugs? Connections? Status? Being "dark triad"? Going down? Fingers?

How does he find them?

Sorry too much questions

[–]falecf40 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

He told me a story. In middle school and freshman year of high school he was a loser with almost no friends, still overweight and all that. One day the guidance counselor pulled him aside and told him, "you know you can be whoever you want to be" so from that point on he acted like he was awesome. He basically acted like he was the man and didn't waiver from it.

I've known this kid since he was 14 (I've got 6 years on him) and since I'm his bro he let me in on this in his early 20's and how sometimes it was hard because it was all an act and sometimes hard to keep up. Well he turns 29 this year and over the years he has really just become that awesome, no need to act it, he just is.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Thanks man.

was all an act and sometimes hard to keep up

Do you remember how was he acting? Is he similar to any TV/movie character? Maybe I can model him if I follow "you know you can be whoever you want to be" advice.

over the years he has really just become that awesome, no need to act it, he just is.

How? Cool hobbies, people, parties, career?

[–]falecf40 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Who care how he was. Model who you want! He was always into computers, tech stuff, video games and music. Ended up eventually starting a band with some friends and doing his thing. In all honesty, I think he finally, truly reached the point where he stopped caring how others viewed him as long as he was enjoying himself.

[–]thedudewiththe[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Who care how he was.

I'm basially trying to study your friend. I also read biography books.

I think he finally, truly reached the point where he stopped caring how others viewed him as long as he was enjoying himself.

How about the times he wasn't enjoying himself?

he acted like he was awesome. He basically acted like he was the man and didn't waiver from it.

Mainly, this is wha I want to learn. I want to know how being awesome manifests itself through behaviour and act.

[–]mkovic0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm in a similar situation to you, where I feel that there is something about me that would make game difficult or impossible. In my case, I'm going monk mode to focus on myself before moving back to game.

[–]maxrp points points points 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Some girls say they hate the gym bodys and they love dadbods.

[–]Ganaria_Gente0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Observe their actions. Not their words.

[–]username_1_1_10 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You'll have to be in the gym consistently for the next 4-6 months before you start looking fit. Consider the next 4-6 months as day game practice. By October you'll be looking great and you'll have your game down. Start now.

[–]gotymothry-2 points-1 points0 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

face is about 7/10? HAHAAHAHAHHAAHAH

i highly doubt that, bro... lets look at the chart here...

https://s18.postimg.org/4fk7heh7t/9_Nb7_Upt.jpg

(courtasy of lookism.net)

you are just as pleasing to look at as Chris Hemsworth and Enrique Iglesias?

here is another link for ya...

http://lookism.net/Thread-Red-Pill-Daily-reminder-that-you-overestimate-your-looks

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