Some women won't put out until the 3rd+ date. How do you handle the rejection?

648262 · 2016-09-19T15:54:16+00:00

Take them to 3 dates in one night.

Late30sMasculist · 2016-09-19T17:09:05+00:00

Do you act like her LMR isn't a big deal, withdraw attention

Yeah, pretty much. I can think of quite a few times when I had a girl naked, was fingering her, sucking her tits, etc. but she refused to have sex. So I would just stick with the "foreplay" and come back to trying to fuck her every 5-10 minutes or so after getting her extra horny. She'll either let you fuck her, or when you're tired of being denied, you wait for her to deny you, then tell her, "That's fine. I have to work in the morning anyways. Come on, I'll walk you to your car." Continue grabbing her, kiss her good night, be cool.

Within the next couple of days, text or call her to set up another date like nothing happened.

And they ALWAYS, IME, put out the next time.

The worst thing you can do is get butthurt about it. Realize that even though it's obvious that she wants to fuck you, and WILL fuck you next time, you have to let her go through the motions of her "I'm showing you that I'm not a slut" display, and get her next time.

Now, there's a bunch of posts about LMR and maybe there is a way to do it better, but for me personally, I don't mind the extra wait that much. I think it's sort of cute, honestly.

Personally, if I'm going to the trouble to fuck a girl, I want to keep seeing her repeatedly anyways, so in the grand scheme, waiting an extra day isn't a big deal to me. I have little interest in fucking a girl once or twice and then never seeing her again. I'll do it if she's easy and slutty enough, but I won't put the effort into fucking a girl if I don't want to keep seeing her for at least a month or so.

UnluckyPenguin · 2016-09-19T17:35:18+00:00

If you are literally just meeting them for the first time, don't be surprised if they actually need to spend some amount of time around you before they sleep with you.

You could always friend zone the girls, go out to a party with them and meet more women. You have to think big. How can you spend the least amount of time and money with the most amount of women? Do it all in parallel.

needless_pickup_line · 2016-09-19T18:08:11+00:00

Lose the battle, win the war.

As long as you're not spending money or doing boring shit you hate, it's not the end of the world if you wait 3 dates. There's a thousand and one reasons why a girl isn't down to fuck on the first date and getting butthurt and nexting a girl because she won't immediately put out gets you nowhere.

"But I bet she fucked Chaddd on the first date"

Yeah she may have, or she may not have, but all throwing a bitch fit does is make sure that you never get the chance. Just suck it up for a week until you break through, then enjoy the sex + new plate. And once you have her locked down you can leverage that abundance/experience with the next girl you meet and make stronger progress.

If you have that automatic next mentality you could go on 5 dates with 5 different girls and get nowhere, which is a huge waste of time and leads. It's a much better use of your time to take 1 girl on 3 dates, get laid, then use that energy on dates 4 and 5 with a second girl. Same time, same energy, but more lays.

WontonSoup77 · 2016-09-19T16:46:58+00:00

Women that are worthwhile will just drop off the face of the earth if you press too hard for sex immediately. So if you're just trying to bang slut after slut and never get a quality LTR this is fine advice.

However, there are legit women out there. Some require more than one fun night to get a physical relationship out of. If you want a good LTR relationship idk why you would make a big deal out of it. Especially since you should be dating multiple women.

Borsao66 · 2016-09-19T20:54:27+00:00

If you have multiple plates you're probably on date three with one of them right?

All about the abundance.

Surfincloud9 · 2016-09-19T22:07:11+00:00

3 dates? My area is quite prude. I've always gotten laid on the first date, they always say they don't want it. We get coffee and end up going to their place or I'll tell them hit me up and first thing in the morning they'll tell me come over. If it's taking you three dates, you gotta get that SMV up. Even a super anxious, shy and prude girl I got to fuck on the second date and anal on the 5th date

batfish55 · 2016-09-19T23:04:27+00:00

Don't see her for a 4th date.

Title	Some women won't put out until the 3rd+ date. How do you handle the rejection?
Author	awalt_cupcake
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Date	September 19, 2016 3:52 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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