I filed for divorce this week. My lawyer told me to stop fucking my STBX so she doesn't think there is hope. I still want to fuck so I am spinning plates. I keep breaking them because they want my time and attention but I am a busy man and really only offer them crumbs compared to what I offer myself and my family. They start to get addicted to the feelz and emotions but worry they won't win the audition or that I am "unavailable" for a relationship.

Anyone out there spinning plates during a divorce? Do you tell women you are in the middle of a divorce? It doesn't seem to stop them from fucking me but they quickly realize I am not going to cater to them or offer any comfort / security. The shit test about "casual sex" not being their desire pops up. I have been pretty forthright. I am in the middle of a divorce, I want to fuck, I am fun but I don't have much time so enjoy me while you have me. Then I get the "I am an emotional person and sex gets me really emotional. I know if we keep fucking it will turn into something more than just sex."