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Taking time to respond to girls

January 4, 2018
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I don't have a bunch of plates I'm talking to right now. I'm still trying to focus on increasing my smv and get back into shape when I was sub 15% bf(I am focused on being sober and hitting the gym daily on a massive cut/diet because I am gross at 18-20%bf).

Anyways, I am not super busy all day but trying to be. Meeting up with clients, doing some research, gym and etc. My phone is always around me. I need to consistently check my emails or be around to answer my phone in case I get an important call. Anyways... Whenever I get a text or tinder message, I feel compulsion to just go ahead and answer the text almost instantaneously.. But we're all told it's a bad idea and I totally agree with that shit.

So how long do you wait to answer, why the fuck do women need to play this stupid game? (I'm gonna guess validation)

She texts me, I wait to some undetermined time (whether it's 15 minutes, or an hour).. Then like clockwork most girls will wait either double that or the next day and rarely instantaneous. We all know these bitches see your message, half the time they're texting with other people while they're sitting across the table from you..

What's the science, how long do you wait to respond? Playing these kind of games almost makes me want to go back to the old days where cell phones didn't even exist.

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Title Taking time to respond to girls
Author bluepillcarl
Upvotes 1
Comments 5
Date January 4, 2018 10:07 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just don't answer your phone at work, the gym, weekends, & 6-9pm with the exception of guaranteed lays & male friends.

[–]SuperCrazy073 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Answering quickly all of the time makes you appear needy/desperate/you don't have anything important going on.

If you are actually doing stuff, answer when its convenient for you. Sometimes that will be right away. Other times it will be the next day. That way you avoid the games. Personally, I think the obvious games are more unattractive than someone who just responds, but I'm not a girl...

[–]poochman1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Quick Rule of Thumb: take more time to respond to them then they do to you.

This helps reinforce the rule in your mind that your time is more valuable then theirs. If this means you have to wait several hours or even days to respond to bitches then so what.

Also, generally speaking, more interested girls will respond faster then less interested ones. So if you find that all the girls you are texting aren't very responsive, go out and find some more prospects.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

At work, I rarely respond to a girl. At most, I’ll do it at lunch. I don’t want to get into a long chat. It also sub-communicates how you value your job.

I only text for logistics unless I’m dating a girl exclusively. It helps keep the texting to a minimum. When doing so, I don’t even think about waiting a long time or how long I should take to get back to her. It’s just to set up a meet time.

Does that help?

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorFieldLine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So how long do you wait to answer, why the fuck do women need to play this stupid game? (I'm gonna guess validation)

They aren't playing a game. They don't have to fake abundance because they HAVE abundance. Take a look at how many texts most women receive on an hourly basis.

The idea is to offer the illusion that you are receiving just as many texts (or are simply too busy living an awesome life to see your phone at all) even if it isn't true. The message you don't want to communicate is "I'm playing games like I'm in junior high" even though that is exactly what you need to do.

Then like clockwork most girls will wait either double that or the next day and rarely instantaneous.

You haven't found a girl who really, really wants to fuck you.

Playing these kind of games almost makes me want to go back to the old days where cell phones didn't even exist.

Thinking this way is counterproductive.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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