Recently I have been feeling guilty about having one plate wait for commitment knowing I’m not going to give it to her. She waits at my beck and call waiting for us to get serious and go steady and etc. it’s been about 16 months since we first started. Great all around girl smart , beautiful blah blah all the good stuff. She’s basically been trying to prove relationship worthy the whole time and patiently waiting doesn’t talk to other men and is really pushing for a relationship and I just rather stay single and spin plates and I’m starting to feel bad cause she’s believes if she waits long enough she’ll get the relationship. I’m starting to feel heartless and guilt . What’s the Longest you spun a plate for ? Have you ever had similar feelings of guilt ? I’m grateful for any advice or similar stories . Thank you

TLDR : plate has patience