Hi, so I have been over 2 years long time lurker, occasional poster.

I have entered a LTR with very gentle, feminine girl with very low n-count who is a great jin to my jang. We are together for a few months now.

She cares very much about what other people think about her etc, and has now multiple times brought up how it bothers her that I simply do not give a fuck just about anything. It is true, my DFAG attitude is pretty much endless even compared to the most relaxed guys. My colleagues are constantly joking how this is going to get me fired and shit (which I know it won't).

So I am not really sure if this fits more into the shit-test or a comfort-test category. Like for example I met her parents this week and we were bantering greatly and then I mentioned some shit I have done (let's say it was about avoiding legal punishments for bad parking where the law allows you to) and it seems the mother was mildly disturbed and she was like "You don't give a shit what they think about you".

Now obviously, I do care what the parents think about me. Although I know the key to have a good relation with the parents is win the father with strong frame and the mother with strong wallet and I don't think I did terribly bad at this (both my frame and my wallet are doing just fine).

But this goes to an extent, if they said they don't like me I would be a little disappointed but it would not affect my life in any significant way so I guess you really could say I don't give a fuck about this and apparently it shows.

So how do I treat this? As a shit-test, A&Aing, pressure flipping, or whatnot? Or as a comfort-test, lightly reminding her that I do care about her family (obviously in not too much of a bitch-y manner).

Thx for advices, looks like I have wall-of-text'd again...