Was this rude of me?

koldkillah83 · 2018-11-10T22:10:32+00:00

No. If she dishes it out then she should take it too. It was a shit test. Don’t apologize, just continue to hang out with her like before it ever happened. Definitely a shit test.

AllBizzedUp · 2018-11-10T22:34:51+00:00

You broke frame by actually trying to hurt her feelings/ hitting an insecurity. The only reason you‘d fire back this aggressively is if she was actually hitting a nerve of yours, and she knows this.

Amused mastery man, if you’re gonna fire back make is something not so personal to her. That way it stays fun.

HIJKelemenoP · 2018-11-10T23:16:03+00:00

Who cares bro? If your only concern in the world at the moment is your tiny hands and your gf getting mad about tiny tits then you're living the good life.

herrLitschka · 2018-11-11T00:09:24+00:00

Some comments here read like they are posted while being in the anger phase...

Chadster113 · 2018-11-10T23:27:13+00:00

Damn that was fucking brutal haha. I once had a girl tell me my dick felt bigger in her mouth than it did in other places. Wasn't sure how to react to that. haha

TheGoldenLeprechaun · 2018-11-11T01:56:50+00:00

After I bust a super solid nut I usually peace out or fall asleep in a few mins. That back and forth banter just isn't my style. Sounds petty since u already know her weakness. If she ain't LTR material idk why u'd waste the time even thinking about it. Then again, u felt insulted and wanted to wreck her psyche so... w/e.

Whats the saying?

"eye for an eye leaves everyone blind"

Ronaldo-CR7- · 2018-11-10T23:06:11+00:00

I probably would have gone with “yeah I got small hands but my dick feels huge when I grab it” lmao deadpool

Anyway you pretty much told her the equivalent of you have a small dick. If you really like her then it’s okay to apologize otherwise fuck it

Spartan5326 · 2018-11-10T23:09:37+00:00

You shouldn’t apologize, but for the future, you shouldn’t make fun of insecurities people tell you about. Unless you were really upset and are actually insecure about the size of your hands, you overdid it. But that was witty as fuck, you have a talent bro lol

Saberinbed · 2018-11-11T00:52:58+00:00

Meh. I have small hands too and if a girl ever calls me out on them i just say shit like “yah facts”, or like “yeah i got women hands lmao”. The point is, i just give no fucks whatsoever when women try to make fun of me. I get roasted so much by my squad that there is nothing that a women can say to me that’l get me rattled.

In your case, you may have gone a little overboard imo, i personally wouldve ignored it. At this point, don’t apologize to her unless you feel like she really is going no contact on you for a long period of time. Just try to pretend that never happened, and see how she reacts.

I honestly doubt she is going to be mad for long tbh. If she is, thats probably a red flag anyways.

Nergaal · 2018-11-11T07:31:59+00:00

The objective of holding frame with a girl is not to destroy your opponent.

RedSkeller · 2018-11-10T22:29:45+00:00

Kind of a cheap shot as she was just playing around and you went for a kill shot. But you already said it and it happened so it's better to just not talk about it and give her a compliment about her tits, just one, to even things back out.

entrep4 · 2018-11-10T22:22:16+00:00

Lol. Fucking owned.

You made fun of her insecurity which she specifically told you about. That's something you should never do, unless you want to hurt someone a lot.

People will probably tell you some crap about holding your frame but in this case I think you should actually go and apologise to her. There's a difference between being a confident guy who stands up for himself and being a cunt.

trele_morele · 2018-11-11T02:52:53+00:00

Brah, I know some others are gonna applaud your response but I think it was a weak ass come back. You should have said something along the lines "how do you like my tiny hands when they pin you back against the wall before I stick my big Johnson in you?" Why do you have to show how fucking butt hurt you are instead? How much did her comment hurt you anyway? Are you that insecure? You totally lost frame and you know it. Best thing to do now is let it blow over

newbie3hunna · 2018-11-11T04:55:53+00:00

Are you the dude from always sunny who always wears larger hands over his hands?

SalporinRP · 2018-11-11T07:54:32+00:00

Don't apologize if you don't genuinely feel bad about it but to be honest what you did was a bit stupid. Yeah it was an obvious shit test but you don't respond to shit tests by targeting your LTR's insecurities in a mean way.

Amused mastery dude. Saying something like what you said just makes you come off as being butthurt.

EPArt · 2018-11-11T11:44:28+00:00

Bs about frame being broken if anything it was hers. You guys being to serious its not that deep that was hilarious. I feel like op just said it casually not a targeted attack like hers was. Probably teach her not to give back handed compliments or improve her "banter" as some call it.

walawalawa · 2018-11-11T02:31:23+00:00

She told me months ago that she doesn't like having small breasts and that she hates it, so me pulling that line on her must've been rude, or not? What do you think?

Here's what you should have done....amused mastery:

You: "Small hands? Your tits make them look massive..."

Amused mastery.

The problem here is something I've spent years trying to overcome: Being too inside my own head and taking shit like that as "insults".

Girl I'm banging constantly shit-tests. I barely react.

She's going on and on about how crowded the traffic is and how noisy the bus is...

I just tell her a story about a similar scene in which traffic in this city was portrayed in a movie...

These things are meant to test. The more you look like you care...the more you fail.

friendandadvisor · 2018-11-11T03:55:15+00:00

I'm thinking that she was giving you hints to use some AM, and other playing around, such as:

Her: "You have small hands" [read: I'm hungry for some more D. grab my ass/tits]

You: Nothing

Her: "Really small hands! (Can't this fucking idiot take the hint??? Grab my tits or ass, jughead! Let's start another round)

You: Your tits are small.

Her: {I was expecting you to say "Small, huh? Let's just see about that...hmmm...grope, grope...seem to fit on your ass just fine...boob grope, boob grope...seem to fit your tits...etc..." Instead, you insulted my tits.}

vandaalen · 2018-11-10T22:07:04+00:00

4 months gf,

http://archive.is/yxzC1

Her: woah your hands are so cute Me: small smile thanks Her: they're so tiny hahah Me: ignore, no reaction Her: these are such small hands haha Me: then they fit well with your breasts

That's not rude. That's pathetic.

Amused mastery.

Black_Jesup · 2018-11-11T00:13:53+00:00

Please update the thread describing how the breakup went.

BigDickEnergy123 · 2018-11-10T22:26:56+00:00

If you ever want anyone to hate you (guy or girl) point out their insecurities.

This isn't a shit test dude, you legitimately hurt her feelings.

There's a difference between standing up for yourself and being an asshole. Standing up for yourself would have been "Hey, I don't appreciate you making fun of my hands" Being an asshole is what you did.

Smubii · 2018-11-11T01:35:07+00:00

Yes. You said it out of butthurt. You failed the shittest.

justdontfindme · 2018-11-11T05:53:54+00:00

That was hilarious lmao

chlorellamanna · 2018-11-11T02:47:14+00:00

I have tiny grandma looking hands. Shit sucks, us small guy hands gets this shit all the time. WP sir.

Nicolas0631 · 2018-11-11T03:39:20+00:00

the reply was delicious. well done. you’ll have her respect now regardless of what happens.

Jaythe4th · 2018-11-11T08:29:40+00:00

You tries to hurt her after she shit tested you...

As a guy with small hands I usually say: " I have the hands of a pianist" or " I could be a good gino"

scissor_me_timbers00 · 2018-11-12T02:06:38+00:00

As u/AllBizzedUp said, you broke frame and killed the attraction dude. Yes she was shit testing you. You did fine at first by just blowing it off and being unaffected. But then you double-fucked yourself by A. Coming across as butthurt, clearly indicating to her that she’d found an insecurity. And B. Insulting her in a way that women get offended by. Accept the double standard man. Women are the weaker sex. Men are expected to deal with shit testing more than women ever will. Doesn’t matter that it was “even”. The sexes aren’t even. You made her feel insecure and also revealed yourself to be insecure. Learning experience.

MattyAnon · 2018-11-12T12:21:47+00:00

then they fit well with your breasts

perfect response.

must've been rude, or not? What do you think? She's mad in love w/ me by the way. This situation happened 2 hours ago.

so she can mock you, but you can't imply anything about her? if she respects you she'll take this well. if she violently objects she sees you as beta.

dabah2014 · 2018-11-10T23:19:27+00:00

I almost wish I had small hands just so I could add this to my shit test repertoire. You did great dude. If she can dish it, then she should be able to take it as well. If she wants to pout about it, then find another girl. Women claim they want equality like men. Men shit talk each other. So women need to get use to shit talk from men, ESPECIALLY when they’re the initiators.

vandaalen · 2018-11-10T22:05:57+00:00

AlternativeRedneck · 2018-11-11T00:45:01+00:00

This just proves more and more how people think it's perfectly fine for women to tear men down but if a guy does it to a woman oh he's such a piece of shit and they wonder why the male suicide rate is so high.

throwitdownman · 2018-11-11T02:21:15+00:00

Split responses. One thing you guys (perhaps those of you older) fail to remember is social circles. Young girls gossip a lot. They can’t keep their mouth shut. She’s obviously incredibly amused by his hands.

If OP had gone amused mastery, believe me, she’ll tell all her friends that her BF has small hands. High chance he will be negged by this down the line.

To me, that’s bs I don’t want to deal with down the line. OP did nothing wrong.

Quaternionz · 2018-11-10T23:43:57+00:00

Yeah, don’t apologize and just let it blow over. The correct answer would have been:

“Oh, yeah, they’re tiny. Why exactly are you dating me again?” Then smirk.

Agree and Amplify.

hrm0894 · 2018-11-11T00:27:22+00:00

One of the funniest comebacks I've seen on TRP. Good job.

And no it wasn't rude. Women that try and cross your boundaries not only need to be put in their place, but they WANT to be put in their place. Just don't apologize.

budfox26 · 2018-11-11T01:29:19+00:00

Beautiful reply mate. Beer waiting for you here in Sydney. Handled it perfectly.

waking-life · 2018-11-11T05:53:12+00:00

Man, one time a girl took her bra off and I said "wow, they're bigger than I thought they would be"... nothing bad happened.

Another time I told a girl her pussy was loose. She got really mad. And continued taking my dick in her ass for months after it.

BurningOrangeHeaven · 2018-11-11T06:01:44+00:00

she doesn't like having small breasts and that she hates it, so me pulling that line on her must've been rude

That is not what makes something rude. I dont like pets, you telling me you love your cat wouldnt be rude.

UpperRedSide · 2018-11-11T06:31:34+00:00

Here's what just happened pal. You just passed a shit test with flying colors. Women will whine and moan about it, but whenever you handle it like this, their attraction for you just goes up.

coriollanvs · 2018-11-11T08:40:13+00:00

You a savage.

toothottotrot · 2018-11-11T08:41:00+00:00

"Goes good with your breasts," HA!

That was a golden response and I commend you for it sir.

Nicolas0631 · 2018-11-11T09:29:11+00:00

If it was clearly intended to be against you, you need to maintain respect and have no issue with alienating the offender, you can attack back on something that will be a hit. Like you did.

If it was not that, just a stupid joke, or even a tender joke, you could joke on yourself or make a joke on her that would not be offencive or badly perceived.

Well now that this is done, make it clear, that you find her pretty and like her body. If you don't mind her small breasts, clearly find a moment to compliment her on her breasts. Not directly next time but later, cup her breasts with you hand and say how much you like them and how pretty they are. Don't lie of course or it will show.

Cirrustratus · 2018-11-11T10:09:28+00:00

well maybe you went a bit too forward for your own befenift, too defensive, but still, after that it was all good old male whatevership, thats what gave your advantaje in conjunction with her actually having insecurities around that (what a surprise). I would say it was a perfect fit, so dow hat you want without being a bad person. lol

Esquivo · 2018-11-11T10:35:18+00:00

-Being a man

-Feeling wounded for someone commenting size of you hands

Amerigo_Anthony · 2018-11-11T10:55:28+00:00

Damn. You nailed it.

letmereadthatshit · 2018-11-11T11:39:05+00:00

You know when you respond to shit tests like this you should have a amused look like smirking or laughing now she is just taking it personally but yeah forget about it it will go away eventually

RedHoodhandles · 2018-11-11T14:43:38+00:00

You could have perfectly flipped this by saying that they fit perfect in her sexy tight pussy. Finger her and initiate round 2. Instead you hurt her feelings because you kew her insecurity with her breasts.Beta faggot move.

NeedingAdvice86 · 2018-11-11T16:04:39+00:00

Ahhh......to be 12 years old again.

Or not.

When you become a man you will stop get butthurt over silly shit.

goodolboy89 · 2018-11-11T16:12:42+00:00

just pretend like you like small boobs, tell her shes fine the way she is.

[deleted] · 2018-11-11T16:18:42+00:00

Hahahahahahahahahahaha this is hilarious. My LTR also has small boobs and I bust out lines like this on her all the time for good fun. Don't worry about it. Myself and my LTR roast each other a lot--keeps the spark alive.

DefJ456 · 2018-11-10T23:02:29+00:00

Ha. Hahahah. Fucking savage. Love it.

DrizzlyShrimp36 · 2018-11-11T04:57:41+00:00

Yeah, dick move. And useless too. And you broke frame because by firing back on something more personal (who gives a shit about hands? Damn) you’re letting her know that you took the hands comment personally.

chazthundergut · 2018-11-11T00:21:21+00:00

You did nothing wrong.

If she's gonna shit test you about your tiny hands, she can handle some fairplay about her itty bitty titties.

If you apologize, or validate her with some "did I say something wrong sweetie??" bullshit, you fail.

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-11-11T00:55:27+00:00

You did exactly what you should have done.

1) Agree and amplify with the "thanks". Really excellent.
2) She keeps going with her planned insult. You are playful with her.

She gets butthurt. But this is a good thing. Because she just had a great emotional high, and now she gets some drama. Her hamster is now well fed. She got her high and low, and later she'll get more makeup sex. It's a win-win.

z2a1-9 · 2018-11-10T23:34:37+00:00

Superb comeback!

HurricaneHugues · 2018-11-11T01:07:30+00:00

So she gets to shit all over your hands, but the minute you say something about her tits, it makes u rude? Is that how u really think?

NeedingAdvice86 · 2018-11-11T16:13:10+00:00

Well this thread certainly highlights why so many asswipes end up on TRP wondering why they suck with women.

Looking at you dipshits who think that the Op was "savage" or "witty as shit" and the rest getting off on the Op uselessly insulting his SO because she said something about his hands.....HIS FUCKING HANDS....bahahhahaahahahhhahahhhaha.

The Op will find out why down the road fairly quickly......

ptstakbanz · 2018-11-11T06:21:11+00:00

i’m 25F and let me start off by saying that while i was scrolling and reading some of the comments my first thought was, “i’d be willing to bet that those saying ‘broooo nice one if she can dish it then she should be able to take it blah blah don’t apologize’ are SINGLE/rarely sexually active or romantically involved.”

IF you respect this girl at all then i strongly suggest that you MAN UP and apologize. i get that what you said wasn’t too terribly mean, but the fact that you knew her breasts are an insecurity is definitely a low blow. and i agree with whoever said that for you to have reacted the way that you did means that you got butt hurt over her comment. from what you said it sounds like you really hurt her feelings. so unless you’re under the age of 13, apologize.

Title	Was this rude of me?
Author	dream-hunter
Upvotes	123
Comments	96
Date	November 10, 2018 9:55 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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