Was unprepared for a confrontation with a guy and didn't really respond much. I feel strangely emasculated now

winstonreefers · 2021-01-15T05:14:28+00:00

Lol bro honestly just let it go. It's just your ego telling you this matters do you know how rare it is that someone would be prepared and react well to a random stranger running up to them like that?

asktrpalt · 2021-01-15T05:18:48+00:00

Lmao guy was a nutjob just let it go

urbanfoh · 2021-01-15T06:36:29+00:00

Huh? I don't get how the situation was "emasculating"

If you were a king and some peasant came in front of you to insult you, would you fight back or would you just ignore him like some insect?

Some low IQ idiot approached you and you ignored he was even there. I would do exactly that.

Herdsengineers · 2021-01-15T14:18:01+00:00

Stepping out to get in a fight in the middle of traffic with a yoyo guy like that would have been really stupid. Him following you just so he could cuss you out really shows he's a total idiot with no composure or self control. You not rising to take the bait shows you are actually higher on the "real man" totem pole as you held frame, stayed composed, and didn't do anything stupid yourself.

That guy, if he doesn't grow up, will be undermining himself with stupid, emotional decisions for the rest of his life while you'll be building your SMV and a better life all around. You actually did yourself solid in the situation. It's normal to have a reaction after like you're having. Don't beat yourself up. You handled it right.

Edited to add - if the guy makes a habit of doing that, he's gonna run up to a car one day and find himself receiving high velocity lead therapy to tone down his aggression for the remaining 3 seconds of his life.

g0d_save_the_queen · 2021-01-15T12:15:05+00:00

you have to train to go from 0 to 60 anon

you wasnt prepared for it,so its not your fault

dude was an ass cause people see their cars as FREEDOM and when you cut them up you subconciously have encroached on their freedom which gives such as hostile response

just train yourself to go into fight mode at the flick of a switch before andenaline or anything else has a chance to catch up,most men need to "hulk up" 1st you see this when 2 guys start shouting at each other then pushing then the punches come,there is a consistant escalation on both sides leading up to a fight.

you simply was ice cold while he was rarring to go,nothing more

learn to train how to go from 0 to 60 dont go starting a fight with a random dude now just to sooth your ego.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2021-01-15T05:56:26+00:00

Start recording that shit. Drunk and disorderly conduct is a crime. So is road rage. I'm not saying you should narc on the guy but let his ass know it's going on facebook and twatter for all posterity. So choose his next words carefully because the internet doesn't forget.

Chucklefucks like him are people who need to be reminded from time to time that their behavior has long term consequences.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2021-01-15T14:57:59+00:00

Actually it’s him who’s the fucking weirdo. I always wonder what guys like this think they’re going to prove? What if you have a gun? He doesn’t know that. It’s a stupid move. Nothing that happens in traffic put my masculinity at stake.

It doesn’t happen to me very often, but when someone gets angry at me in traffic I point at them and laugh. This really makes them lose their shit. Note: obv don’t do this if it’s going to put your life in danger.

EDIT: I did have a middle-aged guy roll up on me at a gas station (this was 10 or 15 years ago) because he though I didn't stop long enough at a stop sign - first, I did, second it's not his business if I didn't. His wife was with him and NEVER bring your wife to a potential fistfight.

Him: "{Whatever dumb shit}"

Me: "Is that your wife?"

Him: "Yes."

Me: "Do you REALLY want to get your ass kicked in front of her?"

Him: {Drives off}

Note: While you generally want to give guys an out, it was clear as this unfolded that (a) he posed zero physical threat to me, (b) he had not thought things through, and (c) I just wanted him gone, and that was going to end the convo.

BetterMaleJourney7 · 2021-01-15T11:31:26+00:00

That's a difficult situation to analyze since we don't have that much context.

Is this something you've been dealing with for a long time?

Lack of motivation, not wanting to workout and seeing your gf could be tied to hormone problems. Maybe checking your endokrine system could help? I think that would explain a lot, also why you feel less of a 'man'.

FightForYourWay · 2021-01-15T15:02:51+00:00

Use this as motivation to not be so emotional/cowardly.

You feel emasculated because you were emasculated. Not because you didn’t get out and start fighting, etc. because that would be stupid - But because internally you were alarmed and felt powerless.

Improve your stress response and self-esteem.

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-01-15T15:23:05+00:00

Got caught off guard or never been in a potentially life or death situation outside of a little schoolyard shouting/shoving match. That guy was probably psyched out and WOULDVE KILLED YOU. That startled you, it happens(has happened at one point TO ALL OF US homie) where you freeze up during your first life/death situation. Some of us have been in so many that it barely registers, we just go in machine mode and run, stab, shoot, swing, or tell the motherfucker what it's gonna be if they don't back the fuck up off us.

NEVER GO LOOKING FOR TROUBLE, BUT ALWAYS BE READY TO LAY A MOTHERFUCKER OUT... PERMANENTLY IF NEED BE. Your life and the lives of people you love may depend on that preparedness.

i-am-the-prize · 2021-01-15T15:25:11+00:00

You're now the #10 Lobster....

Next time:

1) don't roll your window down

2) don't engage

it's funny, i conceal carry often when driving. this ironically makes me a more polite and forgiving driver - even from cut-offs, I don't gesticulate. I just shake my head and think: "what an asshole"

losers always look for a chance to yell/showboat/dominate - don't engage/give him such a chance next time.

rocacu · 2021-01-15T18:23:11+00:00

The cemetery is full of masculine/super alpha men. The problem you have now is within yourself not with that guy. Deal with it and move on.

Sad-Independence4711 · 2021-01-15T21:09:10+00:00

Bro it’s a guy. Not like it was a chick doing it 😂. Who cares what another guy thinks, just keep rolling on knowing you’ll get more women than him anyways.

FattyRipz · 2021-01-15T21:16:12+00:00

I would just smile and be like “Where’d you get your license, a cereal box?” Don’t let him enter your frame

CompetitiveAd4912 · 2021-01-16T20:30:27+00:00

Pick Up boxing or any real combat sport. Not to fight, but to stay calm in such situations. If you are used to people wanting to punch you in the face then you won't be phased by someone screaming at you.

r32_skyline · 2021-01-15T12:09:45+00:00

Man you sound beta, i'd say lucky your girl didn't see you do this but then again i doubt you get laid.

Ohmyqueef · 2021-01-15T11:12:04+00:00

Dude went out of his way to follow you? 🧐 Castle Doctrine is what you should have did, my guy

Direct_Management_43 · 2021-01-15T06:22:43+00:00

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