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Went to a social meet up for girls birthday. What should I have done?

February 1, 2017
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So I'll keep this short. I want to know what I do in this kind of a situation.

Girl who works at the gym and I start talking. I suggest meeting up on a Tuesday. She then tells me it's her birthday and doesn't have plans.

Later in the week she tells me that she decided to have a get together at her house with some friends. She invites me and tells me I can bring some friends. I bring 3 people 2 guys and a girl.

We get to her place. Long story short. To make it less boring we brought cards against humanity. I sit on a couch and the girl sits in a chair to the right of me. My friend will call him D sits on another couch next to her.

Through out the night. I notice her getting touchy with my fiend D (poking, slapping his leg, putting her leg under his.) at this point. Now mind you D isn't doing anything physical back. See just has the tingles for my friend. I am not really able to do anything as I'm sitting on the other side of the room.

So I'm not really annoyed by it. I try to ignore it and not let it bother me. Eventually my friend M calls the night. I'm leaving with them and she asks me why I'm leaving. I tell her I drove with them. She walks us to our car. At this point I'm not really interested in escalating with her. I give her a hug and tell her goodbye. I can tell she was looking for more. I wasn't willing to do it anything with her after her being all over my friend.

I also couldn't tell if she just came out to get something from D. He had no interest in her and walked away.

Edit: Definitely have a lot of work to do in changing my mindset. I'm glad you guys helped me see the beta in this post.

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Title Went to a social meet up for girls birthday. What should I have done?
Author Sonifys
Upvotes 2
Comments 13
Date February 1, 2017 1:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger22 points23 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Fuck you, loser. Don't lie to us and don't lie to yourself.

You didn't choose not to escalate with this girl because you were no longer attracted. You didn't escalate because she was into your friend, not you, and you didn't think you had a shot to salvage things. She chose. Not you. You did not reject her. You just tucked your tail between your legs and slunk off.

[–]That_Deaf_Guy7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I fucking love this place. Tough love is what a lot of people need to get it into their heads and when that doesn't work, you know they're a lost cause.

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's classic ego protection. A girl's not into a guy or rejects a guy, and he immediately tries to convince himself, "I didn't want her anyway."

No, fucker. You wanted her. Bad. And you lost. Take your lumps.

There's always another better guy, she's never yours, it's not always your turn, and at the end of the day, she's just one non-special, non-unique woman. Suck it up and go fuck another. If you can't, then that's what you need to fix rather than pissing and moaning about this one particular woman.

Lift weights, make bank, become fun and interesting, learn how to socialize. That's how you fuck girls. Not every girl every time, but girls in general.

I'd say it's easy, but it's not easy. It's really hard work, takes time, investment, a lot of embarrassing failure. The work is hard. But the path is really easy. There is a very clear path from point A to point B. Guys who say that they don't know what to do are full of shit. They know exactly what to do. They just don't want to do the work, so they're pretending they don't know what to do, hoping someone will tell them a short cut.

[–]That_Deaf_Guy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Guys who say that they don't know what to do are full of shit. They know exactly what to do. They just don't want to do the work, so they're pretending they don't know what to do, hoping someone will tell them a short cut.

Fucking A. This really needs to be said to the noobies more. It pisses me off seeing 10 new "what do I do?" posts a day that deserve a "read the sidebar" /thread sort of comment each time.

That's not what /r/asktrp is there for.

[–]Sonifys points points [recovered] | Copy Link

I can't really argue any of your points. I kinda needed to hear that.

[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good. This is a first step to becoming a man: listening to the council of your elders without becoming a little bitch about it.

Don't get mad when a female chooses another man. The hamster has spoken and often in ways we as men will never truly understand. It's just not your turn.

[–]abdada2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women love to flirt and they'll flirt with the highest SMV guy they can to try to get attention. Who cares? If you're trying to plate her, it doesn't matter.

Don't LTR her, she's obviously into that kind of amusement.

Tell her to come over to your place next time. Escalate.

Also, why would you reward a woman with a hug?

[–]Apanthropos1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you were only interested in her, then you should have declined her offer to get together with her friends and rescheduled a proper date with her.

Don't let women decide for you.

[–]Gucci_sauce_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You didn't escalate because she flirty with your friend?

Were you A. Uncomfortable, B. Angry

Ahahhaahhahah

[–]RedSkeller0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Clearly this chick wanted dick, when she realized your friend wasn't interested after multiple attempts she went for you. I would've tried to escalate when she walked you to the car, you still could close her and plate her (she walked you to the car - aka make a move already). I'd have to agree it's a strange situation, also, why doesn't she have plans for her birthday? I remember a time when my one friend had this chick all over him (very rare) but I noticed because I've never seen it happen to him and I am much more attractive. Sometimes it might be a girl has a 'type' or you pulled some lame shit (maybe you showing up made you look weak?), and is flirting with someone else. It happens, but by not giving a fuck you could've closed her, considering the entire reason for you and your friends being there all night.

[–]BestSC860 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I suspect something a little different.

The Op was so beta and weak...scared to make a move on the girl, that she started flirting with his friend who at least was man enough to sit next to her likely in order to maybe get the Op to man up and show some sort of interest in her since she had invited him to her party.

Instead the wall child Op sulked over in the corner like a baby until his friend M gave him permission to go home to mommy.

This is on the Op not the girl. What was she supposed to do?

[–]BestSC860 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

WTF?

"I am not really able to do anything as I'm sitting on the other side of the room."

What kind of lame shit is this where you aspers all sit in the exact same spots the entire freaking night? Bullcrap.

Lots of hamstering in this post.....to basically cover for the fact that Op was scared to make a move on this girl.

"So I'm not really annoyed by it. I try to ignore it and not let it bother me. "

Again bullshit....

"Eventually my friend M calls the night."
Haha....we finally arrive at the answer. Your problem boiled down to you were an insecure, beta wallflower so your girl went looking for attention from the more alpha acting dude in your group who was at least freaking man enough to sit next her and perhaps acted like a man who had touched a pussy before. And what did you do? Sit like a baby all the way across the room, butthurt\meek and waiting for your more masculine friends to tell you when it was time for you to go home to mommy.

I suspect with the way the girl acted at the end, she was likely confused as to why you were sitting all the way across the room and not doing anything, so she thought that her showing some flirty interest in your friend would get your sorry ass out of the corner and over to show her some attention.

Stop being a loser.

[–]RedditAdminsSuck_88-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can tell she was looking for more. I wasn't willing to do it anything with her after her being all over my friend.

You are a pussy. You had your chances to escalate and didn't because of sour grapes, and likely because you felt you would get rejected. You also cockblocked yourself by driving your friends there. You need to organize logistics like that and plan ahead.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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