It's been a difficult start to the new year gents, and it's weighing on me today. I've had several really positive interactions with women that have just gone nowhere.

Saturday, I went for lunch at a local pub and chatted non-stop with the cute bartender - I know when there is actual rapport there, and there was actual rapport there. I gave her my number without any of my usual nervous apprehension, and she seemed happy to take it. Haven't heard from her. Fairly unsure as to why not.

Went out with a lovely gal on Tuesday night. Chatted all night, shared a bottle of wine, she was so nervously talkative that it was hard to make a move at all but at the end of the night we made out on the couch and she was definitely feeling it. I decided not to push further as I'd like to see this girl again, and messaged her the next day saying essentially "had fun, here's my plans for Friday night, text me if you're interested". No word from her either.

Am I coming across too passively with these women? Am I making myself too available in seeming interested and giving out my number? I am a good looking guy, I am a solid conversationalist, I don't particularly have any issue with escalating physically - there are reasons for women to be interested, and its been years since I've felt this... insufficient somehow. I realize that if these women wanted to see me again, they would - so the spark must have been lost somehow. I just don't know what I'm doing to cause that.