What’re your experiences with gay guys?

Massivehelp2 · 2019-06-16T21:34:44+00:00

Endearing at first but then they try to get too personal and eventually sexual with you despite you clearly telling them that you are not gay. They can also get obsessed with you and don't take rejection well.

Onidramon · 2019-06-16T23:08:18+00:00

They help me get a sample of what it's like to be a hot chick who constantly has to put up with sloppy fat guys that feel entitled to someone who's miles out of their league.

Being high SMV is an act of mercy on the chicks you approach

UrShadowsReflection · 2019-06-17T01:34:13+00:00

Two-Faced.. they become even more obsessed once they realize you're straight, they see it as a challenge. They're also lowkey toxic, and hate to see you with women. They'll shit test you extra hard in front of women just to hurt your chances

Enlightened_Chimp · 2019-06-17T02:21:32+00:00

They're pretty gay in my experience

whitiker53 · 2019-06-16T22:23:46+00:00

I took acid for the first time with my friend and his (in the closet) gay roommate who at the time I was cool with. We all knew he was gay and we didn’t really care.

Anyways, the gay guy ended up projecting like a mofo. Saying we should just admit we’re gay cuz it we would feel so much better once that weight was lifted. Waxed on about that the whole trip. Needless to say, it ruined my trip

BuzzLightGear321 · 2019-06-17T01:13:56+00:00

They are a pain in the ass.

Mustafa_K_Redditurk · 2019-06-16T21:39:45+00:00

They're basically the same as other dudes, except some of them try to "turn" you, which is fucking annoying

GGrub8 · 2019-06-17T05:25:32+00:00

A good friend of mine is a masculine gay (actually bi, but he defines himself as gay, so whatever) guy who can easily slay pussy if he wants to, but according to him he can't deal with the drama and manipulation and it's 100 times easier to get sex from guys as "they go straight to the point".

You'd never guess he's gay from his appearance (he's muscular and dresses well, but he never reaches the peacocking levels gay guys usually have) and mannerism, plus he has a legion of female orbiters who can't wait to get some of his dick because he has high SMV and a good job.

I say "orbiters" because being gay he's aware of female hypergamy and that's why he just never sees them as friends, only as tools to expand his social connections and occasional sex if he wants to try something different. He refuses to fuck girls below HB8 because "they're not worth the time".

He says feminine gays are "just like women in mannerism and sometimes even looks" and they're looked down upon in the gay community for the reasons the other posters here mentioned (two-faced, drama queens etc.).

He's the only guy I can talk about red pill concepts with and he perfectly agrees with them. In return he appreciates that I don't see him as a misogynist for the way he treats women. Plus we both benefit from each other's connections as we both get extra sex from each other's acquaintances.

thenewyorkmind · 2019-06-16T21:40:56+00:00

You described them perfectly. Women on steroids.

I used to have a gay friend because I never judged people for their sexuality or any of that shit but I was wrong. I would hang out with him to smoke like any other homie of mine but then I realized he was an emotional wreck like a woman. Then he always wanted to get with me or his other straight friends even though we made it clear that we were 100% straight.

I stay away from them now unless I have to deal with them at work or something. There’s a reason real old school men despise gay culture because underneath the smiles they have an ulterior motive of convincing straight men to sleep with them. It’s a very rapey vibe, now I know not all of them are like that but there’s no rules to the exception.

cnwilks · 2019-06-17T03:15:13+00:00

Lots of gay friends, including a couple of former roommates. My only real complaint about gay parties is that they're complete sausagefests.

I will say that I have been hit on a few times at bars, and take it as a compliment. Most of the time they're cool with it, but I have had a couple that were really aggressive, and made things awkward. It definitely helped me understand what many women go through when they encounter guys that don't want to take no for an answer.

kaolin224 · 2019-06-17T04:26:40+00:00

Nice for the most part. The ones I'm still friends with, you can't tell they're gay. Just normal people with a different sexual orientation than mine. Super cool, no problem whatsoever.

A lot of them like the same music I do (House) and they always have cool new tracks for me to listen to.

Then there are the other ones that make being gay one of their defining characteristics. Abrasive, flamboyant, and overly dramatic.

They're as catty, vain, petty, nasty, and vindictive as the most toxic women I've ever met on their worst day.

JedemDaSeine · 2019-06-17T02:32:42+00:00

It just depends on the guy. They're not a monolith just like straight guys aren't.

Some of them are annoying as fuck, some of them are cool, etc.

ThePhenex · 2019-06-17T05:27:52+00:00

A good friend of myself is gay. Really chill dude, we wouldnt even know he is gay if he didnt tell us at some point. I treat him like all my other Friends. Nothing weird or annoying in my experience.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-06-16T23:33:54+00:00

I personally find them to be a lot of fun to be around (I always feel as if getting IOIs from gays is almost as validating as getting them from women), but I've realized lots of times their allegiances are more towards the women they're friends with and trying to play their games with you, rather than simply be a good friend to you.

Overcast30 · 2019-06-17T02:02:00+00:00

I love gay guys. I myself am not homosexual, but a gay dude is one less guy in the sexual marketplace that I have to complete with for women.

Momo_dollar · 2019-06-17T02:27:40+00:00

Only really chilled with one. Knew him through my ex who was one of his flatmates. Honestly, I swear when he thought I was drunk he tried groping me, I didn’t really get angry or feel anything at the time I just moved his hand away and was like that’s not me. Later on many more drinks later we went back to my ex gf’s and his place found weed that their other flatmate left and he sparked it and offered me a blowback and again he tried to turning it onto shit that I wasn’t into and being quite fucked I just pushed him off and laughed. I don’t blame him for trying it’s just he’s nature.

When not drunk he’s actually cool, I like the openness and no competition / ego from the moment we met. With normal guys there’s always like a competition or sussing / testing the other out when you first meet them. With him from the moment I met him it was all honest talk.

ralavio · 2019-06-17T01:35:00+00:00

I worked briefly at a gay bar as a server. All these comments are correct.

DTron2332 · 2019-06-17T01:35:39+00:00

They’re persistent that’s for sure, it’s like their constantly on fuck mode 24/7. They’re very sexual, despite me being obviously straight as a stick, but I am a body builder so makes sense 🤷🏻‍♂️

I don’t have a problem with them, but at times I can find them repulsive. It really adds an experience to how attractive girls feel in general, but these bastards are are not subtle at all with their attractions. I get more attraction from guys than I do girls.

dtree47 · 2019-06-17T02:30:18+00:00

Only gay friend I had was this closeted dude who id mostly just smoke weed with from time to time but it just got to the point where he would make comments about my body being fit that would make me kinda uncomfortable. he would also project super hard about other dudes being gay even tho he was clearly gay himself and he even asked me to cuddle once and then played it off as a joke. I ended up ghosting him and he didn’t stop trying to contact me for close to a year. It’s like even when they know your completely straight they still try. I’ll prolly avoid being friends with them from now on

Ryabemo · 2019-06-17T07:12:25+00:00

They don’t take rejection well at all. Had a gay friend, said I “led him on” thing is, I didn’t even know him that well. He was overweight too, he said he doesn’t feel confident enough in his body to work out (makes sense?) and so he started hitting on me despite me saying that I’m straight. Later on he had spread rumors amongst all those lgbt people that I’m an asshole etc... then there was another time this gay dude jumped on me, even when I my gf was around, another time this gay friend I had that baited a priest for money in return for sex. He was bragging about this too.

My dad always said that they’re often very self centered and usually have had a bad childhood or a bad relationship with their dad. It checks out too with most gay people I know. Keep in mind that they often won’t understand women’s nature but act like women, in a shallow sense. They don’t understand women and usually they’re the ones that are being badmouthed when they’re not around by their female friends. They’re basically the retard of the group.

Are all gay people like this? Probably not but is it really worth the drama and headaches? No.

Whisper · 2019-06-17T01:35:45+00:00

None. Why bother?

__TheDon__ · 2019-06-17T01:58:19+00:00

Don’t hangout with them if you’re a man. Too weird/uncomfortable. It’s like having a female friend that you’re not fucking. What’s the point??

comu_nacho · 2019-06-17T02:03:56+00:00

Actually no problem. Masculine gay guys are just one of the guys, except for their sexual preference. I have little experience dealing with effeminate men, so there might be a difference. Not obvious gay men pass under the radar.

PraiseBasedDonut · 2019-06-17T09:36:41+00:00

If you have established boundaries with them, they can be good friends to go clothes shopping with ( i hate shopping so external opinions are always helpful ) and they are most likely to have a lot of chicks around them so they may also help you with your game.

bot256 · 2019-06-17T11:54:21+00:00

I have a male friend who's gay. At first I didn't even know he was - I guess I have poor judge of character and am oblivious to obvious signs. However, the guy's chill and though he sometimes acts a bit like a girl, he's alright. In many cases, more reasonable and easy to get along with than other people I know. Overall, I think people who are gay but aren't in your face about it are just like regular people with their good and bad traits of character. And that's coming from someone who hates the whole lgbt movement and all those attempts to make gay/trans people seem more normal than hetero people.

VigilantSmartbomb · 2019-06-17T12:47:47+00:00

I think it’s a little crazy we don’t necessarily see a lot of smv 10 women or men being gay. I think that spells out something here.

It’s easy.

I don’t talk to him anymore as we’ve grown into different people but my best friend back from high school we took a camping trip to this mountain bike trail park and we took some mushrooms and right in the middle of it he says somethin like “why can’t guys do what girls and guys do?” I don’t think I heard him so I said what or something and he’s like “ya know like we could..”

No.

And I changed the subject.

I was gettin pussy, he was straight as fuck, for as long as I knew him, and I think he just wanted to get his dick wet, but that was intense peaking on mushrooms and your best bud tried fuck you lmao

Like I don’t think he’s gay, but that was some gay shit

Which brings me to why I think there’s not a lot of SMV 10 men or women that are straight. If you’ve put in that much work, it’s all basically easy, so why settle for dick from your best friend when you don’t have to settle at all?

Pretty sure there’s some elaborate studies out there that claim sexuality can’t be 100% straight or gay because of biological reasons/systems and that it’s largely a preference. Which if true, just means more women for us red pilled out people.

Cause literally I don’t see myself as very masculine, although I definitively am I just never give myself credit, but I switch around jobs a lot and right now I’m at Home Depot and you won’t believe the amount of feminine males. I’d have thought be it Home Depot that that wouldn’t be the case but I think there’s more feminine males than not, and half probably take dick. I get so much attention from the female workers there cause they have nothing to play with.

Crazy

Comeandseemeforonce · 2019-06-17T14:32:27+00:00

Every gay guy I worked with either tried to convince me I'm gay, sexually assault me but play it off, or thought I liked them. For the most part they were cool though, if they were cordial.

recursoinominado · 2019-06-17T01:57:44+00:00

I am kind of "hot", so i receive LOTS of gay attention, it's annoying sometimes, i have no problems with gay men, i find them fun in general, i don't like the ones who don't 100% understand there is no chance of hooking up with me so they keep that vibe of "if i try hard enough, he will give up being straight and fuck with me", I HATE this because this seems so manipulative, maybe that's how women feel with unattractive men hitting them up constantly.

I noticed that lots of gay men have some deep emotional issues (kind of understandable but still annoying), they are kind of fucked up and can be really toxic and persistent after i 100% tell them i am not gay and there is no chance of anything happen.

That being said, i do have some gay friends that have some common fucking sense to treat me like a friend (i can even sleep on the same bed with them, no problem) and not like someone they will try to fuck at the first opportunity, The "rapey vibes" are true.

Distractingyou · 2019-06-17T05:57:04+00:00

For me they are weird, i can't explain their icky feeling, in my personal experience i hate their pussy unmasculine behavior and you want me to tolerate as if you are a girl lmao i think they are worse than your average cock, i think they are shallow materialistic assholes and flamboyant behavior is funny for some people but i can't tolerate that bullshit, it's not funny it's stupid and they try to push their homosexuality on normal man while acting as if they are the victims, but i am sure we are going to find an answer in evolutionary psychology and science, for now i am going to you give you an answer from i have read

From what i have seen from the own sidebar and reading other sites i conclude that they are social outcast for many reasons, they are male but they think like females and as we know girls psyche is weaker than man cause they use slave morality (read nietzche slave morality), they can't pass a shittest with basic A&A or amused mastery, instead they get angry and bitchy like girls but the funny part is they are male so they can't get away with the same bullshit that normally woman can pull off, (man and woman have a natural inborn bias to the female gender, this includes forgiving their shitty typical female behavior) so conciously their pussy behavior creeps both man (does this homo want to rape me? Also he is socially inept, he can't cooperate and he is lazy to hunt a deer) and woman (you are too pussy to protect my children from a bear) while subconciously their unfitness make them even lower value in the hyerarchy in the group than your typical beta. Also reading about the birth order effect basically the mothers inmune system doesn't like having a male fetus cause they need more resources than a female fetus while the mothers inmune system learns to adapt to males pregnancy, my theory on how it pussifys the male fetus Is that the mothers inmune system ensures giving less resources to the fetus or the male fetus adapts to the mothers inmune system to treat it like a female fetus but the problem with that is that it ensures giving female hormones to the fetus instead of normal T levels, if a boy doesn't get proper testorene in the mothers womb he grows weak and in some cases even sick and in my opinion it causes the amygdala to be smaller and weaker causing them to be gay. (Google how normal man, gays and woman differ in the size of their amygdala).

flyinghorse1 · 2019-06-17T01:00:02+00:00

I've got plenty of gay friends - they're the same as straight friends.

party_dragon · 2019-06-17T08:21:32+00:00

None.

MCA_T · 2019-06-17T09:47:42+00:00

think because they're gay they can say whatever they want and get away with it and act like their constantly in the right, nearly had to slap the shit out of a few gay dudes for thinking i wont because they're gay, soon as you say something they don't like their response is always to challenge your masculinity and call you a closet gay

__TheDon__ · 2019-06-17T10:52:56+00:00

No, let me clarify. I am saying don’t hangout with them at all. There are no benefits to it whatsoever

[deleted] · 2019-06-17T11:49:32+00:00

I’ve found them endearing at first, and then they turn out to be fickle little two-faces creatures. It’s like the worst of women on steroids.

Oh the irony hahaha

InsidiousCurve · 2019-06-17T13:42:50+00:00

They're more manipulative and conniving than women. They play the covert game at another level and are simply there to cock block you from their hot friends. Just stay away they will do nothing good for your life.

pollodustino · 2019-06-18T02:07:11+00:00

I have had many gay men hit on me, and many of those who do hit on me actually try to physically get with me. I've been hugged, grabbed, and groped in public by drunk men. And it's always when I'm with my girlfriend and it's obvious that we're romantically together.

I usually take it as a compliment and tease my girlfriend about it, saying that I'm so masculine that even men want to get with me, but there have been times when I've actually gotten kind of angry that I'm getting physically accosted. It's quite creepy and unsettling when someone just assumes they can latch on like some sex-crazed lamprey.

Erikacoleman · 2019-06-17T01:27:39+00:00

Theyre super annoying.. I fucking hate them... Some of them are nice and respect boundaries.. I fucking hate those ones that scream im gay... They talk and act weird..

BurningOrangeHeaven · 2019-06-17T01:13:34+00:00

Aside from the occasional guy trying to tell me they like my voice etc my experiences are limited. I don't have much in common with gay guys so i dont really make friends with them. I'm not actively avoiding them i just don't have anything i'd talk to them about?

Distractingyou · 2019-06-17T07:59:25+00:00

Idk but i am surprised on the ammount of dudes hit by gays, idk how it's on america but in my country if a faggot trys his faggotry on you they get punished by a punch on the face, fags here can't get away with their bullshit cause they know the consequences on creeping normal people

Nis_law · 2019-06-17T01:54:53+00:00

dont know dont care.

Title	What’re your experiences with gay guys?
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