You’re in a new city looking for a group of like-minded guys. Other than work, where to look? Preferably twenty-somethings like myself but I’m not hugely particular on age.

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2021-02-19T13:45:34+00:00

all of these sound like good starting points imo.

Try finance related stuff like investing and real estate as well. Those are evergreen topics

improv too, though, u have to have thick skin for the comedy groups

Herdsengineers · 2021-02-19T15:36:09+00:00

You could try a local ToastMasters chapter. And these days, membership in Masonic lodges is waning bad. They're jonesing for new members as their current guys are aging and dying off and not being replaced in high enough numbers to maintain the organization. They might be willing to look at anyone depending on the local lodge conditions.

I've thought many times recently one of the problems with men's growth in today's western society is we tend to congregate only with guys of our own age, and there's not as much family togetherness as there used to be. The result is there is less opportunity for older men to pass on wisdom to younger men. Instead, younger men have to learn everything hard way. Men need to re-establish attendance and engagement that gives them more exposure of older, wiser men to younger men in a mentoring capacity. It'd be met with cries of patriarchy and all kinds of other accusations but we need to just tune it out and have a DGAF attitude in return.

Anoint · 2021-02-19T13:51:22+00:00

Golf club. But only if you’re really chad.

zdbkn · 2021-02-19T15:13:28+00:00

Honestly, don't knock Bumble BFF. They have their standard setting where you swipe for dating, but you can change it to looking friends. Aside from the obviously gay guys trying to bait straights, there's some cool, like-minded dudes on there. The gay ones are easy to sort through so you're only swiping on people you'd be willing to connect with.

I would really only use this as a last resort if you're seriously struggling to branch out in a new city, but it's honestly a good way to meet new people.

jjj2576 · 2021-02-19T15:52:03+00:00

Rollo covers this in TRM— definitely worth reading every volume.

Men bond over activities and hobby. Find a hobby of value, and you will find men of value.

I run a men’s Bible Study to bond with a diverse group of men. I used to do a lot of Blues dancing, but Covid.

SapphireBlack · 2021-02-19T16:56:51+00:00

I play competitive paintball and most if not all my teammates are 30+ and we have a pretty close connection even me being 20 in college.

L2diy · 2021-02-19T21:28:22+00:00

I'm considering joining a mason's lodge near me. Growing your tribe is one of the more difficult things to do in this day in age.

Don_Draper27 · 2021-02-19T15:01:58+00:00

Facebook groups could be a solid start.

Robin2Fast2Furious · 2021-02-19T20:16:34+00:00

Try Meetup.com, you can search your interests on there

Tractor_Sunpower · 2021-02-20T01:20:11+00:00

There is this feature on Telegram that lets you create local interest group / or join one.

It didn't work for me just yet for couple of days but taking many variables these days it might work some other days.

lampshade2818 · 2021-02-19T19:16:10+00:00

I thing sports teams are your best bet. We have an awesome org here in DC, The Capital Alumni Network. Almost any college you;ve ever heard of has group (70+). They run softball, flag football, soccer, boccce, and stuff like darts and bowling in the winter. Also hit the this one bar after to game.

Abadalta · 2021-02-19T19:34:43+00:00

Don't look for all in one, but rather segments of things you want to learn more about.

Maybe one friend is a financial genius, maybe another is a combat and nutrition expert, maybe a third can talk economics or philosophy.

You'll find them in group activities or through friends of friends.

junk2sa · 2021-02-19T21:40:15+00:00

I was in your position a few years ago and here is what worked and what didnt:

Worked:

Clubs - This was my most successful method to meet like-minded people. They already have the same interests as me, and want to talk more about it. I have friends that I speak to regularly from my various clubs. My Homebrew club is great. Mensa can be good if you qualify and want something nerdy.

Minimally worked:

Meetup.com - This helped me get out and socialize, but since the people attending the meetups tend to be transient, it rarely panned out to become something more regular. I really enjoyed these regardless. It's like an ad-hoc club.

Didn't work at all for me:

Toastmasters - Far too formal of an environment for me.
Athletics - I don't care for team sports.
Gym - I'm there to work out, not chat.

subaruguy14 · 2021-02-19T21:46:48+00:00

Cigar lounge, toastmasters, country club, CrossFit

breakthatass · 2021-02-19T23:12:17+00:00

Anywhere other than your home usually works.

2021-02-20T00:49:09+00:00

You're not going to find anything but aging boomers and looking out for #1 type youngER guys in the Masons. Not worth it at all. Probably a sports league or a shooting club or a hobby group or a bar, but you got to find a bar with the crowd you're looking for.

dolmino91 · 2021-02-20T08:34:03+00:00

Looking for men? Grindr