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Day 8 - Hobby Time

January 21, 2013

When asked if you have any hobbies, what would you respond? No, drinking and video games do not count.

Today it's time to focus on your hobby life. Do you have a constructive hobby? One that you can share?

If not, you might be suffering from a case of "boring dude" syndrome.

Today get yourself a hobby.

Begin your journey to honing a skill or craft not directly related to your career path. Bonus points if the hobby is a panty-wetter.

Having a hobby will give you interesting things to talk about, make you a more interesting man, and give you something to bond over with both men and women.

Great examples:

  • Music writing

  • Learning an instrument

  • Learn to dance

  • Learn to cook

  • Learn to paint

  • Take up skydiving

Today is the day. Do it. Get a hobby. Go to the gym. You have no excuses. Report back.

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Title Day 8 - Hobby Time
Author redpillschool
Upvotes 12
Comments 20
Date January 21, 2013 6:01 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit /r/becomeaman
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/becomeaman/day-8-hobby-time.137277
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/becomeaman/comments/17000c/day_8_hobby_time/

[–]SavageComfort 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I started learning to dance a couple years ago. My grandpa teased me 'cause I couldn't dance, so I learned. I'll write an account of my experience for anyone considering this option.

I started with ballroom. Foxtrot, waltz, polka, etc. Easy, met some girls that way. Gets old quicker than a crackhead on the carousel. Worth it if you want to be a good, well rounded dancer.

Then I tried swing dancing and salsa. These are way more exciting, but most girls have no idea how to dance swing or salsa. Salsa: If your white, you will be mocked by minorities until competent. Swing: for jazzy styles like East coast, West coast, Charleston, Lindy hop; be prepared for high MF ratios in classes. Chicks do not dig jazz, for the most part. I can't get enough jazz, so I powered through anyway.

Took a semester of tango. Very sophisticated, technical. This one is great because it's not so much about showing off (I'm looking at you, salsa) and this leaves less distraction from the connection between partners. For most people it takes a couple years just to achieve basic competence. I'll save that one for when I have a committed partner. This one is best for already married couples trying to maintain connection, IMO. Not the best for meeting new people.

Country Swing Dancing is really fun, it's show-offy but it works for rock shows, jazz, bluegrass, country. Not so much for the electronic music clubs though.

The best part is you can grab random girls that don't know what they're doing and make them look like they do. And you can have this attitude like "haha city girls can't dance". Never hurts to be the best dancer in the bar, but it CAN hurt to be the ONLY dancer in the bar. (got in a fight last weekend at a douchy bar. Wrigleyville, Chicago. Started 'cause I was the only guy dancing, along with any attention comes negative attention). Took a girl home that night 'cause the guy she came with had lame moves. He was pissed. Surprised he didn't punch me too.

My dancing skills are responsible for every girl I've had since I learned. Which admittedly isn't too many... but still.

I'd like to invite anyone who's had much luck with just grabbing a girl, hauling her to the dance floor, dance for a while, make out a bit, then something like "let's go back to your place", to discuss nuances to that approach.

One of the most important things I've learned recently is: Don't try to dance with girls who are already on the dance floor. They tend to look at you like you're diseased, then all the others see you get rejected and they follow suit. The trick is to start a conversation back at the bar or wherever, then when the band starts an upbeat song: "Hey, let's dance! Take my hand." (never say "care to dance?" or "do you want to dance?" like it's a question they can opt to say no to) That way you're never on display looking for something and not getting it.

TL DR: Learn Country Swing Dancing, use it for rock shows. i.e. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2Vj7KapLVI

[–]SavageComfort 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Also, learn solo dancing moves from youtube clips. Learn Michael Jackson etc. Then go to the club and dance around with all this attitude like everyone around you is in the process of getting served. I'm still experimenting with this one, and it may only work if one can back it up with other styles.

[–]VZPurpMan: First Class 17 points18 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects."

-Robert A. Heinlein

[–]wtjones 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have this framed over my toilet.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I play competitive chess, play guitar, and bodybuild.

[–]Cowieee91 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck yeah. I always liked Kasparov, I might have a crack at some chess.

[–]ospurt 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

OK, why does this seem like I'm on a journey to recover the man I used to be and make that guy better.

I used to snow ski. It is on my list of things to do this spring. I used to water ski, don't know if I can pull that off this summer. I cook very well...and my dishes have been requested by many. I learned to mix live sound and set up gigs/venues. I camp/hike and have rappelled on occasion.

I took a ballroom dance class, and was actually pretty decent, but my ex could never follow (she insisted we take the class). She complained the whole time about how I wasn't doing it right....when we switched partners I never had a problem. Needless to say I still really don't dance, but should....all confidence was killed by her.

Panty-Wetters? hmmmm...don't know.

[–]redpillschool[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's ok to do hobbies that make yourself happy. In fact, I think having a hobby that only makes you happy is kind of alpha in itself. You literally don't care who else is happy but you.

At the end of the day, a masculine man has many hobbies, with many experiences he can draw upon to enter almost any conversation with at least a working knowledge of any topic.

Getting caught off-guard at an event you weren't expecting and knowing how to do the dance with confidence can instantly turn heads.

[–]VZPurpMan: First Class 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hobbies are fun. I'm always doing or making things. Yesterday I brewed some beer (it's fermenting now - bottling in a couple weeks).

Right now I'm making a rather substantial lateral transition as far as careers go, so I have to hold off on taking anything else up that's time consuming, but next on my list is something more in the arts.

[–]phpl9 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What about callisthenic and street workout?

[–]aspiring_lobster 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]redpillgreenlight 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have a full time job and I'm trying to become an actor, so hobby time is very limited. With that said, I'm getting back into Capoeira, so I think that counts

[–][deleted] 3 points3 points | Copy Link

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[–]redpillschool[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You just don't want to be a mono-interest.

For instance, when you're with a new group of people. What things do you discuss? How do you bond?

I use playing piano as a great hobby- and it gives me a hook to meet new people. Come back to my place I'll show you some stuff!

Instantly there's a conversation about the piano or whether the piano is still relevant in pop culture and so on and so forth.

Certainly don't waste time, but do something you think will build your personality.

[–]ysef95 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

martial arts are an excellent way to accomplish fitness and discipline goals in addition to having a new hobby they are also a major panty wetter and allow you to escalate kino by showing a girl some "moves".

There are loads of really good subreddits and id really recommend taking up a martial art as your hobby because youll learn to push your limits which in turn will help your journey of self actualisation. I myself am considering taking up sky diving or climbing.

[–]phpl9 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

OK 6 month ago I tokk calisthenic, street workout and gymnastic training as a hobby. My next hobby is guitar.

[–]VZPurpMan: First Class 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nice! What style are you looking to play?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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