Life, when viewed with an abundance mentality, is not a zero sum game. This applies to social interactions even more so - it costs nothing to grin like an idiot, and yet adds so much to your mood and those of others.

Try this experiment:

Next time you are out among the people, take the time to look each person in the eyes, ground yourself in the moment by focusing on the sensations in your toes (Read "The Charisma Myth" if you want to know how this works), and crack the biggest smile you can. Learn how to smile with your eyes. It will also help to imagine you already know everybody.

Not everybody will reciprocate - some may be shy or having a bad day, but don't let that weaken your frame. The metaphor of the ghost and the flame is apt for this - you must allow the negative feelings caused by others pass through you, and never falter in delivering your unique brand of positivity.

If you make this a habit, people will light up when you meet them. People remember you by the feelings you stir within them, and this will ensure those feelings are positive. People want to be around those that make them feel good.

This is also a decent way to condition yourself against approach anxiety. I regularly throw out random compliments to total strangers - things like "You've got a beautiful smile! Keep smiling!", and have made many great friends because of it.

Think of yourself as a ten, and try to elevate those around you up to your level of confidence and good energy. You will find it very hard to have a bad day.

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