Hey everyone,, I believe in this community most of us share a similar way of thinking so I chose to seek guidance here,, I need an advice regarding my little brother,, we live in a chaotic house and parents fighting all the time and no good male role model,, being his older sister I'm trying to help him.. he is smart and loves to learn but the problem that he gets bored quickly so I'm thinking if there are video games that he can learn from? or anything that can help? I'm planning to help him structure his day since most of his time spent watching TV or playing video games!!!! Please share ANYTHING you believe can be helpful!
Thank you in advance
[–]georger251 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
This is a difficult question. For me I was similar in my youth. One of the mindsets that helped me get accomplished in real life is asking myself what my favorite character in a video game would do. He wouldn't game all day or watch tv, he'd go to the gym and study. You can also use this from TV shows. My advice is when he talks about something he adores, see if you can't introduce the idea that he can also do similar things in real life, just like his character. Then, to ensure that he stays on the right path, use your research skills to find a basic program/course/ something for him to follow. If this works than try to positively reinforce- "You're becoming just like ______! keep it up!" or "Would ____ be watching tv right now or making ______ dreams come true?" That's the best advice I can give you. The little things count too, such as hygiene or cleanliness or dressing decent.
[–]TheLilyHammer0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
See if he would have any interest in martial arts, especially something like Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. I've found it to be extremely beneficial in my own life on multiple fronts have seen it literally change the lives of others.
Beyond the obvious physical benefits of the exercise involved, I think martial arts can teach a young person a lot about mindfulness, humility, self-control, respect (for both themselves and others), and overall discipline. There's also a huge confidence boost that comes with knowing you can defend yourself in bad situations. Additionally, he could very likely meet some strong role models in training.
Best of luck!