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Confused when approaching a girl today

August 10, 2021

I'm only 16 and in high school. So there was this girl today that was in my class and I remember her from a class I had freshmen year. I'm a junior now. I caught her looking at me a few times and the first day I walked into the class she looked at me looked away and smiled. I thought this was a good reason to approach but I waited a few days. I approached today but made sure I looked at her a few times prior. I went up to her and said I remember her from that freshmen class. She said she doesn't remember me. This makes no sense because I was basically the center of the class and was always talking. Maybe it's because I look different now? I don't know. I said I was near the middle of that class and she said that's probably why she didn't remember me. I was going to continue to talk to her but she seemed to start walking away. I figured she wasn't interested so I just walked off. I'm not mad or anything as it's her loss but I'm just confused. Did I just read those choosing signals wrong? Was she nervous? Were they even choosing signals at all? I don't really care if she's not interested I'm just really confused. Maybe she is playing games? If so I'm not playing into that bullshit. Anyone who is experienced that could help? At this point I'm just done with approaching women. I'm not even bad looking. I take care of myself. I think I just may need to continue to focus on myself. Approaching just gives the other person the upper hand I feel like. I dont know any advice would be appreciated.

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Title Confused when approaching a girl today
Author banditjuice
Upvotes 4
Comments 6
Date August 10, 2021 5:41 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
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[–]entrep4 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't read into it too much. We have no idea what she was thinking. Maybe she was interested back then and you left it too long and she forgot about you. To give up and get like "I'm done with girls" after a single rejection is dumb.

[–]JackTheRipper_17 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Who gives a shit what she was thinking? Go talk to ten other girls. Get an abundance mindset.

[–]lIIllll 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Please see my response on r/AskRedPill

[–]i-am-the-prize 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

You: I approached today but made sure I looked at her a few times prior. I went up to her and said "I remember her from that freshmen class."

She: said she doesn't remember me.

If not true, it's a test, if true then she's newly IOI'ing you (or bored). I got this in HS and on more than once it was true (when you grow 6" over a summer, that happens).

personally why use the 'link to the past', just move forward, but if you do, next time, assume it's a test:

her: "I dont' remember you... (?)"

you: "I dont' remember much of freshmen year either, lolz" and roll with it. Amused Mastery = you've seen all this before...

not to walk away speechless and dumbfounded

[–]banditjuice1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

I dont give a shit anymore. It happened last week. She walked off not me. If she was interested she'd still be trying to talk to me. When I say I "walked away" I meant she walked away first and I walked away too instead of pursuing it further. Yes my approach wasn't the best but it was also scummy of her to walk away. I've moved on. Thanks for the advice though

[–]i-am-the-prize 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

cool you're in HS so the chicks are even spacy'er. just AM outta 99% of tests of awkwardness.

they want to be feel calm and non-anxious by the strength and steadfastness of a guy - who can also make them blush.

HS was like fish in a barrel (N=10 in HS) just keep strong eye contact when talking (most guys are terrified to look into their eyes) and touch arms, back, neck when talking close and isolate, even in upstairs hallways after class for kino and basic kissing. half my count weren't GF's just "around the way girls" who were hot and shy.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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