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did I fucked up?

February 13, 2022

Disclaimer: I know I have One-itis and I already decided to move on, just want to hear your insight

TL;DR: She pulled back after (apparently) 2 great dates, was I authistic, or she was just not interested at all?

Context: I met her online. 1st date went pretty well, we both had fun, and she insisted to set another date to which I played aloof since there was a winter break in between (trip). She didn't messaged me afterwards, I didn't worry and I pinged her about a month later to set a 2nd date, to which she was VERY enthusiastic. 2nd date went just great, we went to a cool place and were both laughing hard, she told me how glad she was to met me again, she complimented my looks a LOT, generally, many IOIs. We got a little more intimate, holding hands and escalated to deep kissess and being us very tight (you get the picture). At the end, I let her at the station after we talked about meeting again, and later on I received a message that she made it home safely. At that point I thought, "wellp, it's in my pocket", so I replied half a week later with a dry text along the lines of come over my place.

To my surprise she answered me a long message along the lines that she preferred to not keep doing this anymore, to which I tried to play it cool and answered with some variation of "ok goodluck ;)"

After that, I started to think in our dates and realised that I really had a good time with her, we shared a lot of common opinions and hobbies, she seemed to be a simple and cute girl, and probably never had laughed this much with a girl at such early stage. I have had many triumphs and have handled MANY rejections as nothing, yet, I thought we had really clicked and it felt like a real loss.

In hindsight, I think that I might have screwed it up by not building any sort of comfort through text, rather directly playing it aloof. I only texted her exclusively for logistics, plainly cutting up conversations to go straight to the point, maybe I was too assertive. Maybe I'm just overthinking and she never was into me.

I just decided to move on and respect her decision, but I cannot stop thinking that I maybe screwed it up, somehow. What is your opinion on this scenario guys? Also, considering that she was a very pleasant girl to spend time with, would it be acceptable to ping her in a few months?

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Title did I fucked up?
Author throwoveraccount
Upvotes 2
Comments 9
Date February 13, 2022 7:14 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/did-i-fucked-up.1100836
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/newTRP/comments/srqe8k/did_i_fucked_up/
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[–]iaurtgl 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Mate you shouldn’t type so many paragraphs over one girl, it’s not worth it

[–]throwoveraccount[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Didn't want to, but realized there's just too few on texting game around here. Hopefully it serves to other guys

[–]hltr78 4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

You took a week to reply back to her. What did you think was gonna happen

[–]Give_Praise_Unto_Me 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]throwoveraccount[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Edit: it was more like half a week later, i don't think that takes that short period to loose interest

> Also, considering that she was a very pleasant girl to spend time with, would it be acceptable to ping her in a few months?

Also, any take on this?

[–]neatbranch 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Any take on this? Young girls don't take the rp rules of "don't text them at all" good. Just reply back you had a good time next time.

[–]hltr78 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Bro in today’s world most women will take it the wrong way if you don’t message within the day. Remember that at the beginning the man is supposed to lead. Once you have a fucked a girl at least 2-3 times you can back off hard because you created that attachment. You can’t pull back only on two dates because she doesn’t care about you yet. She most likely hated the logical messages. Throw in some spice and emotion when messaging, who cares about “mUh lOgIsTiCs” that trp states. It doesn’t work in the real world unless you’re a 10/10.

[–]throwoveraccount[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Your answer makes me feel much more relieved, knowing that there's always room to keep improving, enjoy the moment and not getting too mechanical.

In all honesty, I'm pretty sure that there could have been some extra turn offs, but is likely that my texting game played against me, who knows.

would it be acceptable to ping her in a few months?

About this, do you think is a total waste of time, or there's still some salvatage?

[–]hltr78 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel like a few months is too much. Give it one more week and contact her again and if she doesn’t reply you know your answer. A few months and she won’t even know who you are.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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