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Girl flaked 30min prior date

July 2, 2022

Date was sheduled for today.

Sent her a reminder text yesterday for her to confirm it again. She did.

Did some light texting today on where to meet exactly etc.

She then told me 30min before the date, that she has to see her brother, because they resheduled a meeting from yesterday.

Just replied "lame" and going to soft next or is there a better way to handle this?

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Title Girl flaked 30min prior date
Author Sorgenkind13
Upvotes 3
Comments 11
Date July 2, 2022 2:49 PM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/girl-flaked-30min-prior-date.1121715
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/newTRP/comments/vptf2p/girl_flaked_30min_prior_date/
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[–]knowingly_diligent 12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Just replied "lame" and going to soft next or is there a better way to handle this?

You shouldn’t text that. It sounds like you’re emotionally invested without really knowing her.

What you should say:

"Ok, cool" and that’s it.

See if she follows up with you to reschedule. If she doesn’t then she didn’t like you to begin with.

[–]319Skew 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This man gets it.

Flakes happen. Guys with options flake as well. Sometimes things come up and other times you're just not able/willing to go out.

No harm. If there's no follow up or reschedule then there's no interest.

She should be concerned that her chance with you is on the line.

[–]curvedbymykind 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why tf would she tell you 30 min before if they rescheduled yesterday? This is a hard next, shouldn’t even respond

[–]Hellarepups 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If she didn’t offer a follow up day fuck her. Next

[–]TheZimboKing 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is why I don't go on "dates". Girls come do with me what I am gonna be doing anyway. No walking around or eating out and talking.

My approach is, "I will be doing xyz on Friday. Wanna go with me" and genuinely would do that without her or with another girl or friend.

She is not into me even close to how I want her if she flakes without a convincing excuse. I want my girls head over heels and this would be a welcome sign that she won't make a good plate or ltr. I would move on but I understand dating is harder in the west and good girls far in-between. So its your call.

[–]Per_Horses6 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

You sound emotionally invested.

Texting her “lame” makes you seem like a beta bitch.


[–]Sorgenkind13[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Its exactly what the reply was in an example from the handbook..

[–]gatorzero 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

dont overthink it. i dont think "lame" caused you that much harm lol

[–]atlantastan 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nah it’s common courtesy to not bail 30 mins before a date. That is indeed lame has nothing to do with the level of your investment. That just shows lack of respect for your time and energy

[–]Per_Horses6 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Idk, personally I would simply not even reply. The respect is broken. Why would I even text a flake back? Ya know.

[–]greekfreq 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Always message: “hey I might be running a few mins late..traffic” an hour before a date

If you don’t get confirmation, don’t go

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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