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How to check in hypergamy with women i date or long term relationship?

September 15, 2022

I always worry about the hypergamy in women, theres always a man better than me in every aspect , theres someone more fun more famous more socially cool has more money and nice car and literally have an easy fun type high value life. I always fear of such men in presence of my women i date, i mean as i aware of hypergamy i worry deep inside she wish to date a person like them, also there are limitations to me in some situations cause i dont know some things in life such as high class meals , high class manners in social situations etc, these shortcomings of my self keep me away from dating and make myself doubt. Also as in rational male im not clear of myself what things should i improve, i can improve my physique but i cant improve my personality as a cool bad boy if im not born as one, also i cant be a millionaire overnight and step in to rich world, so what should i do meantime in the process?

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Title How to check in hypergamy with women i date or long term relationship?
Author blackhammer57
Upvotes 10
Comments 22
Date September 15, 2022 5:10 PM UTC (6 months ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/how-to-check-in-hypergamy-with-women-i-date-or.1132901
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[–]No_Zone_911 19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is your toxic inner shame and self doubt telling you that you aren't good enough. Tell it to shut the fuck up.

[–]blackhammer57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I will my guy

[–]Redscorpio-DR 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Did you read no more mr nice guy?

[–]BlackjointnerD 12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Stop thinking in terms of forever with women. Work hard and improve yourself and appreciate right now with them.

If she stays your good. If she has to be let go. You'll still be good cuz your a man who can get another.

[–]blackhammer57[S] -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Im worried will she stick with me while im in the process of improving life

[–]BlackjointnerD 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Why are you worried she will leave? Outcome independence. Abundance mentality.

I know it sucks bro, your fighting programming...But you have to learn how to like and enjoy women, maybe even love, but also not give af if they leave for whatever reason.

Really think about what makes her so special? Guarantee another girl could fill her spot if you guys arent compatible.

[–]blackhammer57[S] -2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Im single for 2years now, so i don't believe in abundance, and i dont feel im not good enough like the other guys with girlfriends

[–]BlackjointnerD 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So you have adopted a victim mindset, that's something for you to lookk into the mirror and dissect.

Get in the gym!

[–]TheTastelessBatman 4 points5 points  (13 children) | Copy Link


If you hold your frame, your girl will never look outwards. Most guys are beta bitches. You thinking that way is beta too. You need to stop dating and keep a rotation and build yourself. Don't LTR or date one girl, not at least until you're 35 and have developed and abundant mindset.

If she leaves for another man, she will come back as that guy will smash and dash. Look at it this way, the trash walked itself out. Less work and headache for you.

You're making the girl a soul focus of your life. You need to find another focus.

My Muslim friend recently told me that it says in his religion, that if you make a girl the sole focus of your life, she will become your biggest trial. Pretty profound.

[–]blackhammer57[S] -1 points0 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

how can i be 35 and single while others are married and have kids? i will be left alone and no one will marry an old dude like me. even at this age im single im worried whether someone will be like me when im 35, its all good on books but when it comes to real life both women and men prefer real partners, by 35 the women who will be interested in me either be divorced or one with kids, who will date a much older bald dude who has skipped his generatiom

[–]TheTastelessBatman 1 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Bro women like older men. All the girls I date are 20 to 25. 25 is the oldest I'd date. And all of them want me to wife them up.

Take care of yourself. Build your bank, brain and brawns. Stop with the defeatist attitude. It won't get you anywhere.

[–]blackhammer57[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I know plenty of men personally who have all wealth and resources and single at age 35

[–]TheTastelessBatman 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Probably ugly or fat or both.

[–]blackhammer57[S] -1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Not in every country women wanna date age 35guys bro, in my country after the age 30its all downhill to men and women, even women scare to date after age 30 men

[–]TheTastelessBatman 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Probably a cultural thing. Travel and meet better women.

[–]319Skew 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You're posting way too much from a frame of fear, insecurity and scarcity.

Quit trying to focus on bettering yourself for ass. Make that a result of your growth not the intention.

[–]blackhammer57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sure bro

[–]eceme98 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Lifting , getting better in my profession/job (getting the bag in simpler terms), and socializing as much as I can are my three main goals that are working for me right now. lf I where you, I would try to find stuff on a similar realm to keep me moving and to compensate for my shortcomings. We all suck at something, so we must find a way to suck less or at least, as I mentioned, compensate through things you know you're good at and/or have lots of potential.

[–]blackhammer57[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I lift dress better and have a better high value look. But financially and social life wise im not good cause of a miserable job in construction. Simply no social life.

[–]eceme98 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Then try to suck less at those areas by finding ways/means/settings to force yourself to improve them and feel less inadequate. It took me 4 years to realize that no matter how much trp/manosphere content someone consumes, at the end taking yourself out there is what will make you better; and therefore force you to apply all that consumed knowledge.

[–]blackhammer57[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Very true. Even people who don't know manosphere or trp have awesome lives and hot gfs, cause they are so social and fun. While dorks likes us have start from 0

[–]TheZimboKing 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can still be a millionaire and Ray Ray will still take your girl.

Be ok with it

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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