My paradox is I've mostly been with average 5-6s.

I lose desire to continue with them especially when I get to know more about their lifestyle and attitude that I find to dislike. Maybe I'm simply just being nitpicky.

But an ex, for example, would stop working on herself. She'd rather devote & be with me all the time. I'm irritated because it's clingy. And though it felt good getting treated like this, I succumbed to it a little bit. We did try going to the gym but then she'd get jealous if I even mistakenly look at another woman working out.

One reason why I feel bad calling it off is that I know some dude would end up just manipulating her, as was the case of her current ex.

I'm well aware that I have no incentive to be a life enhancer or be a philanthropist. I've got a lot on my plate.

I also think that if I call it off with a lady who has a lot going on for her, who is higher value, I can rest better because she can sustain herself and heck even get anyone she wants.

Is there a good book or a template for calling it off on good or better terms? I try to make their life better but most just turn sour. As most cases for low v women (in my experience) who think just because I'm just only average, they can sort of gaslight me by being super nice

So if I even just start to wonder if they're okay, why does it make me feel like shit?