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I feel disgusted analyzing these hoes, are they all this way? AWALT?

April 29, 2022

Girl I was seeing got cheated on, and the same day she found out about it she hits me up and confirms the date I set up with her, not knowing she even had a boyfriend in the first place. It disgusts me because the girl didn't take any time at all to hop on a new dick (mine), no reflection, no taking time for herself, just straight to another dude.

Same thing happened when I broke it off with her, new guy within 2 days. I know they have options, hundreds at the click of a button, but really? Does every girl do this shit? Hop from guy to guy to guy without thinking? I guess feelings do trump everything for them. Is this just me seeing her hop on the cock carousel?

What's your guys' experience? I'm finding myself bouncing between resenting women and being depressed the more I learn about their promiscuity. There is also a tinge of jealousy in there because I'm not where I want to be with women yet. I haven't reached the state where I can pull consistently yet.

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Title I feel disgusted analyzing these hoes, are they all this way? AWALT?
Author TRP_Squid
Upvotes 18
Comments 13
Date April 29, 2022 6:20 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
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[–]themostgianthorse 18 points19 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

While it seems depressing now, it will become freeing in time.

AWALT, at least in my interpretation, does not mean that every woman is going to cheat, monkey branch, etc. it does mean that under the “right” circumstances that any woman could.

If I could offer you any advice, it would be to structure your life so that no single entity could ever devastate you. This may not be possible with your family assuming you have a close and loving relationship with them but it is possible when applied to women, jobs, money and friendships.

[–]TRP_Squid[S] 7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I understand AWALT and if the right guy comes along a girl can/could/will drop everything and pursue him. Honestly I think my main difficulty is accepting women. When I see an example like what I described it makes me angry. All the shit the girl did for me she's now doing with another guy, and although it may be fun in the moment it just leaves a depressed feeling in my mind and soul after realizing that as soon as the feelings for you dissipate, you are no longer important, the entire relationship was shit, and it's another guy's turn to fill the role.

You can't even reminisce with them because all they remember is based on their state dependent memory, which was that the entire relationship was bad, what you did with her didn't matter before, all that matters is what she feels now, in the moment, at least from what I understand. I could be wrong and maybe I'm looking for a friend rather than someone to fuck.

Another thing I realized is that the thought of a girl being miserable after hoeing around makes me feel good. I recognize that this is an unhealthy thought process but it's what's been on my mind for a while now. Every other day I'll go to asktrp and look for evidence of how girls with high n-counts will end up miserable and unable to properly pair bond and end up settling for a beta, and living miserable lives. I wish I could skip the depression/anger/bargaining/whatever the fuck phase I'm in and get on with accepting the pill, it's a tough one for sure. /vent

[–]themostgianthorse 3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

You sound like you have some good awareness so I would expect for your anger/depression stage to be over relatively quick. This assumes that you cover the basics of self improvement and find a purpose independent of women. Anger/depression phase was about 3 months for me.

What you have described is “she is not yours; it’s just your turn.”

That is true. All that you own is your time and attention. It is important to note though that while it is just your turn, it may last 7 minutes or 70 years.

[–]TRP_Squid[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

What are the basics of self improvement?

[–]themostgianthorse 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Sidebar(main sub), lift, diet, wardrobe, finances,social circle, mission.

I refer to this as doing “the work”.

Once you have this down or in motion, I would identify what YOUR specific work is. To do this you find an area you are deficient in and face it head on. If you are afraid of approaching, you will set a goal of approaching x women in x amount of days. If you are afraid of public speaking, you will join toastmasters, etc. Start small and work up or swing big.

Beyond this, I like to set a mind, body and soul goal. For me this is currently studying for a certification at work, bench 3 plates and meditate for at least 10 minutes and practice guitar for at least 1 hour per day.

[–]TRP_Squid[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

wow this is a great layout, i like this a lot. I’ll get on this. what do you mean by social circle?

[–]themostgianthorse 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Social circle can be just hanging with friends, networking for work, etc.

Lots of guys,it seems at least on Reddit, are hermits that just play a bunch of video games. No wonder they have no idea how to talk to women (or anyone)

A lot of guys in relationships stop hanging with their friends as much and then have no support when they break up. Women typically fair better here because they maintain their friendships.

I find it to be important for men to be around other men. We talk shit to each other. Give practical advice and most importantly DO shit. I am lucky enough at 37 to still have 6 close friends. We try to get together every other week and enjoy playing disc golf.

[–]TRP_Squid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gotcha. I have been guilty of this for sure. Turned into a hermit, didn’t know how to talk to people. I’m slowly climbing back out. The list you’ve wrote provides some actionable advice rather than what I’ve been reading.

[–]319Skew 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

AWALT to various degrees. Female nature doesn't change but there's degrees regarding things like self worth, self respect, and self reflection. That's not to say that you should pine your hopes in some mythical unicorn but that you should move about life aware of female nature but don't lump the same girl that puts her mouth on a dick to snap to her friends on the same page as a woman who grew up with a strong father figure and spend her afternoon's driving home to her parent's farm to help out with chores.

They're both capable of depravity but one has fewer self imposed limitations.

That said, don't build your happiness around women. Accept the rules of the game (including hypergamy) and play accordingly. Vet any woman that you're considering in an LTR, pay attention to what she does not what she says, have an exit strategy, and be always aware that they can't love you the way you've been conditioned to expect them to.

Once you internalize that then you'll have an easier time through it all.

[–]TRP_Squid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow I think I might have been doing that. I’ve been working towards getting girls (and haven’t even succeeded at that much), sorta making them my mission, convincing myself I need them to be happy, and until I get a girl I can’t be happy.

I think I read somewhere that desire is a contract you make with yourself to be unhappy until you get what you want.

[–]propofoldreamR 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great advice

[–]Sudden-Complaint7037[M] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

AWALT is a doctrine and not an absolute. It was developed to get guys who just found out about TRP in the right mindset, which is assuming that AWALT, so you don't mindlessly chase after random girls and get your heart broken.

A lot of guys make the mistake to indiscriminately hate all women, because well, AWALT. But of course, not every woman is a turboslut who's had 200+ dicks. There are a lot of women out there who make great girlfriends and wives. Guys who assume that literally every single woman on earth will, under the right circumstances, let herself get gangbanged by 15 Tyrones often end up miserable, depressed and alone.

Don't mistake this for whiteknighting, ONEitis defence or believing in unicorns. When you meet a new woman, you have to assume that she is, indeed, like that. Then the vetting process starts, and she will have to prove to you that she is, in fact, not like that. It's rare (and increasingly rare in the modern hypersexualized world), but possible.

[–]TRP_Squid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok this makes sense. I did some further reading, think it was a post by Archwinger, to assume she’s a slut, and you are vetting her to prove to you that she’s not.

As for the case of this girl. She is in my social circle and I figured out after fucking her for a couple months that she is a slut. I even called her a whore to see what she would say and she threatened to replace me with one of the other dudes she was talking to.

I honestly can’t get it out of my mind. I can’t help but think I’ve lost somehow. How her leaving is a sign that I am inferior or something. Do you have any advice with this? I guess I’m upset that I assumed she was a decent girl only to find out I stuck my dick in a used up mercedes from 1994. I guess my main question is: is this reasonable to expect from every girl? Going from guy to guy to guy? It disgusts me thinking about it. Is most of the women red pilled men date on the carousel and it’s all just a form of enjoying the decline?

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