I believe the last time I asked this, it harmed my odds of even escalating. When they ask the same question, I treat it as much of a shittest as it gets.

But I also don't want to mislead, I'm afraid that this ambiguity or vagueness will result into biting me back.

What are some ways you do that helped or sort of, weed out, the ones who would really get attached. From the ones who would work harder or even be open to this type of lifestyle?

For example, should I joke around, or throw questions such as: Oh I talk and see other women, part of my job being a trainer

Or is the old saying of: she didn't ask, so don't tell. Always a safer default?