Never had someone love bomb me, how to know not to waste each other's time?

We met through a dating app, there were no one else around & this was covid. We still talk, I felt attached and sort of lost my frame. Because I wanted to also help her (we were both a wreck) & her outright love bombing, her spending a lot of her money, time on me over the course of our back & forth was super unordinary. I usually spend for the dates for example.

I know I'm probably sounding like I put women on a pedestal but I've never had someone this (this is what she calls it) serviceable. Because she grew up servicing her only family & sees it as just care, she's the type that feels "love" by giving care.

What's my issue here? I don't want to commit, she does. But she's the only one in her circle besides 2 other far family members. It's not like she can't fend for herself, she's got a great career, but alone. She was super into me that I forgot not to care. The clinginess, over zealous "service" or dedication, almost felt like getting smothered. One last big thing is that I just am not sexually vibing with her, I'm not compatible though she feels like she is with me. More or less, I'm not even that much in to her. Now I came to forget what my goals are, or I've forgotten them. Felt like I was getting husbanded lol.

I'm not writing a personal diary here, I just can't seem to fit a realization here because it's fucked up. I know anyone like her will survive, and though she is only for that one & one only route, I don't want to waste her time and mines.

I thought losing frame is only in the dating stages. Did I lose or am I in the verge of losing frame? What if I never find this type?