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Redpill dating and plate spinning?

February 8, 2022

28M single, im new to redpill and most my redpill knowledge is about women dating and self improvement, i learnt the theories but i have no chance to practice them in real life, im single ever since i known, but one girl woke up me to redpill dating after she over and over again went to her jerk ex while rejecting me, it was painfull and rage but i learnt a lot. So im single and dry af. And its sad and depressing seeing all my friends without any idea of what redpiil is having awesome girls and dating and marriage life. While i go through all these redpill but still single and miserable. And im in my marrying age too. So badically its hell inside my head. My problem is every redpill guru talks in vids and books that guys should spin plates when dating? My problem is is that possible? In reAl life? Is anyone do it here? If so howand where you find women to do? I just cant get s single womans phone number or date. While redpill coaches to say date many woman samr time. What am i missing?

And my other problem is i see posts about womens body count in western is like more than 50 and sometimes triple digits, can it be true? Im not from western or europe so it's unbelievable to me, in my country most have body count of max 2-3 in avarage life. How its different in western? How both men and women have many sex partners and later marry and have kids??

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Title Redpill dating and plate spinning?
Author blackhammer57
Upvotes 3
Comments 7
Date February 8, 2022 2:45 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/redpill-dating-and-plate-spinning.1100374
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[–]lmann81733 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

So many of these red pill coaches are grifters and preach exaggerations and distorted realities. Especially especially the ones that are not gaming women themselves currently. They are particularly susceptible to falling into a false reality echo chamber, because they are not actually dealing with young women. I wouldn’t get worked up over what these guys are saying.

Anyway, what you really need to be focusing on is how to attract women, and don’t bother with all the online theory about it, most of it is worthless. You need to either start approaching girls irl or make a solid online dating profile. Or ideally both.

[–]blackhammer57[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Can you give me a little insight of inner talk? I think toooo much to dm a woman and i disqualify myself, and when i see women has settled with way lower than myself i regret not taking my chance. They say be bold etc, but i cant get over my nagging thoughts that she will not like me or, she will chose someone better than me etc. thing is i have no social life due to my job. My only chance of dating is social media. But i feel like texting a woman on social media is creepy. And as for my past experiences i feel so down to approach a woman cause some woman has thought their exes over me cause they had good outgoiing social lives than me. And it made me numb. And im still single rationalizing that i have no good life a woman will like. So

[–]lmann81733 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Honestly not having a social life sounds like your biggest problem. And your job is not an excuse. I work remotely and moved to a new city and made friends by dancing salsa and playing rec kickball. They’re not my closest friends, but I always have something to do on the weekend. It’s okay to focus on girls, but don’t neglect the other parts of your life. A hot girlfriend is a poor substitute for a social life.

As for your inner talk, I don’t have much insight other than I would focus on taking action. Message girls on social media to face your fear and join social activities to meet people. And after taking action reflect on your beliefs. Attitudes can slowly change over time but introspection alone is just going to have you going in circles.

[–]blackhammer57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]themostgianthorse 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

“What am I missing?”

Jesus. Where to even fucking start.

You are failing to see the opportunity you have in front of you. You are getting so overwhelmed with “what if? Is it possible? Am I good enough? My friends have it so easy, bla bla, mental masturbation.

Your core problem at least from the view point of this post, is that you have an external locus of control. You need to have an internal locus of control.

Stop ODing on TRP content. Read the basics and check out if you have not already Rian Stones NMMNG YouTube series. Now stop.

You have this big meta question of “What’s wrong with me?” and not a single god damn mention of your lifts or what you’re doing about it.

You are afraid of women or more specifically rejection. You are are 100% outcome dependent. You must adopt the mantra “What I fear, I must face.” Set a daily goal of approaching at least one woman. Keep a journal and reflect on your experiences. Notate what went well and where you need improvement.

If a woman’s rejection crushes you, your frame is weak and you must continue the practice. If a woman is receptive to your advances and you find yourself overwhelmed with joy, your frame is STILL weak and you need more work.

Stop thinking about women’s body counts. You are putting the cart way before the horse.

[–]blackhammer57[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

My problem is i simply have 0 motivation to approach a woman. Even in social media i see an attractive woman but i feel like she might not interst in a perosn like me or she might take so i gave up even without trying or DM ing her. I know my frame is weak. But how people dont even have a clue of their frame or redpill have so many awesome lives wotj their partners. Why at 28 im still single and to figure this shit

[–]themostgianthorse 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

We cannot motivate you to do the work. That must come from you and typically begins with either a specific event like getting cheated on or a lifelong frustration. You sound like the latter.

I’ve been playing guitar for 25 years. The best advice I have ever received on guitar was “Learn everything, don’t think about any of it and just play.” This applies to TRP as well.

Stop comparing yourself to your friends.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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