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[Serious] What are some creative pings for leads that seemed to have gone ghost? Is it ever a good idea to just be straightforward?

August 3, 2021

I often just send a gif or a meme.

But is it a good idea to just text: you've been quiet! if you didn't find me interesting, just let me know. at least I can save us some time

FYI, I text to at least 4-8 women per week. Most of them are funneled from my dating apps, a few only from real-life meets. The latter, however, definitely has more success.

ALSO, it's been 50/50 for me that when I ping someone up, she either tells me she just has been super busy (which I then just route to a phone call + vibe check) or she at least decently tells me to fuck off/not interested. The former between these two had at least legit reasoning, one is her mother being sick from covid, the other just super busy because of her demanding job

And I know 90% of the time, she just ain't interested BUT pinging has worked for me. I also truly believe that if anyone really likes you, they will message you/communicate with you at any cost but again, some women really do suck at communicating.

So I'm just asking

These simple questions:

  1. What do you generally do to "reads" or unreplies that's now about 3-4 days old?

  2. Is it ever a good idea to be straightforward about it? I do hate the ghosting culture but it's also not my job to promote anti-ghosting

  3. What has been your experience w/ low replies?

I know it depends on the context too. E.g.: plate 1, who I only dated once, went silent for 1 week. I was patient and had other rotations, but I pinged after the 1st week (with a silly meme) & found out she was having family issues that needed her attention.

Also if I spam too much, I become desperate. I've lost a few good contacts this way. Do you have a template?

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Title [Serious] What are some creative pings for leads that seemed to have gone ghost? Is it ever a good idea to just be straightforward?
Author biscotti-raspberry
Upvotes 3
Comments 5
Date August 3, 2021 2:16 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]throwitdownman 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Add them on Instagram and post often. If she’s interested she’ll reply or comment. Take that as an initiation and follow up through texts to plan a meet up.

[–]biscotti-raspberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good idea, I started doing this when ghosting was inevitable and that sort of put some SMV. Insta posts also do matter too

[–]CammyTheRed 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You don’t. If a girl isn’t showing interest you work on yourself until another one (and this is key) does. Don’t get trapped in the thinking that you should be grabbing HER attention through glorified digital peacocking.

Do the work.

[–]SJGekko 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]biscotti-raspberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Another example: we've dated twice already, and we kept a good back and forth through texting/voice memos. Although the 2nd date felt a little off, our convos and her interest just died down by a lot. She did also say that her sister is coming over for the weekend. How do you not make it seem like you're desperate or at least not too spammy with the messages?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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