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| Title | Should I apologize to my LTR for this? |
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| Author | PurposeDriven95 |
| Upvotes | 3 |
| Comments | 17 |
| Date | September 4, 2021 11:58 AM UTC (1 year ago) |
| Subreddit | /r/newTRP |
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[–]Prestigious-Disk31586 points [recovered] (12 children) | Copy Link
You messed up. Don’t blame this on the curse of the red pill.
Do what you must but the relationship is done. She will be looking for a suitable replacement now.
[–]PurposeDriven954 points [recovered] (11 children) | Copy Link
Just curious how you came to the conclusion that the relationship is done. She’s been saying how “worried she is she is gonna lose me” and has been actually initiating sex more since after the incident.
It seems like she’s in my frame even more now.
[–]Prestigious-Disk31586 points [recovered] (10 children) | Copy Link
This girl followed your program from the jump and you accused her of cheating when she wasn’t. Would you really think she would stay? This will wear off. You showed a major weakness and insecurity. That will slowly eat at her.
[–]PurposeDriven951 points [recovered] (9 children) | Copy Link
She had broken boundaries- didn’t directly cheat but broken boundaries I laid out that could have led to cheating. I just don’t see your logic in nuking the relationship or considering it done if things have been even better since the incident.
I don’t think you read the full post. She begged me to stay and I did.
Your saying she’s going to look for a suitable replacement, despite the fact that she has repeatedly expressed her fear in losing me and overcompensated sexually to ensure my needs are met and my boundaries are being respected?
[–]Prestigious-Disk31586 points [recovered] (8 children) | Copy Link
Women aren’t logical. Women are emotional. Don’t be surprised if she starts hiding stuff from you now. You lost frame.
You never stated that she broke a boundary in the OP. You said you were paranoid.
Why would a woman stay with a paranoid guy who thinks she’s cheating? Al it takes is for one guy who’s higher status than you to show her attention.
Girls are better cheaters than men. If she actually wants to cheat, she probably will get away with it now because she knows your reaction. You broke her trust my guy.
[–]PurposeDriven952 points [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link
So if this is the case, what indicators should I look for that she is branch swinging? Sorry for all the questions bro, but I posted this exact post on the ASKTRP forum and the advice I got was literally the opposite from what you said. Basically the idea was she is in emotional turmoil, deathly afraid of losing me, and now she will work harder to keep me because I attempted a breakup.
And for whatever it’s worth, I never directly accused her of cheating. I told her she’s slowly erasing the lines of my boundaries (which was true). The cheating thing was just something I suspected in my own head, never vocalized it to her
[–]Prestigious-Disk31582 points [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
The fools on ASKTRP are some black pilled incels. And honestly, when you notice she isn’t seeking your validation and attention anymore, you’ll know something has changed. Could be a new guy, could be a few guys.
Are you on your purpose? That should be consuming most of your time. If you want to keep this up, be with her but always be prepared to be single again. It’s much easier for her to find a man than it is for you to find a woman. So be cool with losing her and being on your purpose. Another woman will come in time.
[–]PurposeDriven951 points [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Definitely on my purpose. I had a small rotation before her, but I’ll be honest, I don’t want to lose her. I enjoy her company more than spinning plates. I always keep one eye on the door, but if I had my choice I’d stay with her and let the LTR run it’s full course.
So basically what your saying is proceed as normal, don’t bring the incident up again or apologize, and if she starts to withdraw sex/attention dread her?
The biggest thing I’m worried about is her seeking a replacement because she thinks I’m actually on the verge of breaking up with her. I highly doubt this because there is a significant SMV gap but she is the type of girl that needs a bit of comfort every now and then. I figured bringing it up one last time, maybe not apologizing but saying “hey look, mistakes were made on my part the other night (yours too), but you’ve been a good girl for daddy. Keep it up and everything will be fine” followed by a firm slap on the ass.
Thoughts?
[–]iJuiiCe_x 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]PurposeDriven95-1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
What’s your take on the whole situation because I’m getting conflicting opinions and I have no idea how to handle it
[–]Give_Praise_Unto_Me 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]PurposeDriven951 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
No
[–]Give_Praise_Unto_Me 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]JackTheRipper_17 0 points1 point2 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]PurposeDriven951 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Anytime I hear the whole “SHE’S GONNA LEAVE YOU, IT’S JUST A MATTER OF TIME” rhetoric, I just automatically associate it with that MGTOW incel shit. It’s like some people overdose on the red pill - and yes, I know ironically my post is about “the curse of the red pill”, but no lol I don’t think it’s just a “matter of time” before she dumps me. And if she does, fuck it, plenty of fish in the sea but you telling me to apologize has no barring on wether or not she would dump me if she wanted to. I think your taking this red pill shit a bit too seriously bud.
[–]JackTheRipper_17 -1 points0 points1 point (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]throwaway69764 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link