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Should I apologize to my LTR for this?

September 4, 2021

Before you all flame me, yes I know “never say sorry to women” is considered a golden rule.

But here me out. The curse of the red pill got to me and I went nuts thinking my LTR wash cheating when she certainly wasn’t. I had no evidence, her phone was clean, she was DEVESTATED when I tried to break up with her. Like, crying hysterically. I had deleted all of her posts on Instagram containing me, went through her entire phone, etc.

I ended up staying with her, because the relationship has been perfect. She’s always been in my frame, sex is regular, no shit-tests. There just aren’t any real signs of cheating, it was my own paranoia (I’m actually diagnosed with paranoid anxiety disorder, I’m being treated for it).

Would this be one of the only circumstances where saying something to the effect of “I apologize for assuming the worst, you’ve been a good girl to daddy, keep it up”? Thanks in advance fellas.

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Title Should I apologize to my LTR for this?
Author PurposeDriven95
Upvotes 3
Comments 17
Date September 4, 2021 11:58 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/should-i-apologize-to-my-ltr-for-this.1095126
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[–]Prestigious-Disk31586 points [recovered] (12 children) | Copy Link

You messed up. Don’t blame this on the curse of the red pill.

Do what you must but the relationship is done. She will be looking for a suitable replacement now.

[–]PurposeDriven954 points [recovered] (11 children) | Copy Link

Just curious how you came to the conclusion that the relationship is done. She’s been saying how “worried she is she is gonna lose me” and has been actually initiating sex more since after the incident.

It seems like she’s in my frame even more now.

[–]Prestigious-Disk31586 points [recovered] (10 children) | Copy Link

This girl followed your program from the jump and you accused her of cheating when she wasn’t. Would you really think she would stay? This will wear off. You showed a major weakness and insecurity. That will slowly eat at her.

[–]PurposeDriven951 points [recovered] (9 children) | Copy Link

She had broken boundaries- didn’t directly cheat but broken boundaries I laid out that could have led to cheating. I just don’t see your logic in nuking the relationship or considering it done if things have been even better since the incident.

I don’t think you read the full post. She begged me to stay and I did.

Your saying she’s going to look for a suitable replacement, despite the fact that she has repeatedly expressed her fear in losing me and overcompensated sexually to ensure my needs are met and my boundaries are being respected?

[–]Prestigious-Disk31586 points [recovered] (8 children) | Copy Link

  1. Women aren’t logical. Women are emotional. Don’t be surprised if she starts hiding stuff from you now. You lost frame.

  2. You never stated that she broke a boundary in the OP. You said you were paranoid.

  3. Why would a woman stay with a paranoid guy who thinks she’s cheating? Al it takes is for one guy who’s higher status than you to show her attention.

  4. Girls are better cheaters than men. If she actually wants to cheat, she probably will get away with it now because she knows your reaction. You broke her trust my guy.

[–]PurposeDriven952 points [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link

So if this is the case, what indicators should I look for that she is branch swinging? Sorry for all the questions bro, but I posted this exact post on the ASKTRP forum and the advice I got was literally the opposite from what you said. Basically the idea was she is in emotional turmoil, deathly afraid of losing me, and now she will work harder to keep me because I attempted a breakup.

And for whatever it’s worth, I never directly accused her of cheating. I told her she’s slowly erasing the lines of my boundaries (which was true). The cheating thing was just something I suspected in my own head, never vocalized it to her

[–]Prestigious-Disk31582 points [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link

The fools on ASKTRP are some black pilled incels. And honestly, when you notice she isn’t seeking your validation and attention anymore, you’ll know something has changed. Could be a new guy, could be a few guys.

Are you on your purpose? That should be consuming most of your time. If you want to keep this up, be with her but always be prepared to be single again. It’s much easier for her to find a man than it is for you to find a woman. So be cool with losing her and being on your purpose. Another woman will come in time.

[–]PurposeDriven951 points [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link

Definitely on my purpose. I had a small rotation before her, but I’ll be honest, I don’t want to lose her. I enjoy her company more than spinning plates. I always keep one eye on the door, but if I had my choice I’d stay with her and let the LTR run it’s full course.

So basically what your saying is proceed as normal, don’t bring the incident up again or apologize, and if she starts to withdraw sex/attention dread her?

The biggest thing I’m worried about is her seeking a replacement because she thinks I’m actually on the verge of breaking up with her. I highly doubt this because there is a significant SMV gap but she is the type of girl that needs a bit of comfort every now and then. I figured bringing it up one last time, maybe not apologizing but saying “hey look, mistakes were made on my part the other night (yours too), but you’ve been a good girl for daddy. Keep it up and everything will be fine” followed by a firm slap on the ass.


[–]iJuiiCe_x 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm on the sidelines here, but when you said "I don't want to lose her". That's oneitis. And it doesn't seem like you're recognizing that.

You're the prize. Don't forget that

[–]PurposeDriven95-1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

What’s your take on the whole situation because I’m getting conflicting opinions and I have no idea how to handle it

[–]Give_Praise_Unto_Me 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Does she know about your anxiety disorder?

[–]PurposeDriven951 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link


[–]Give_Praise_Unto_Me 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Might be best to tell.

[–]JackTheRipper_17 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

If you felt the need to write a whole ass post on Reddit, i think you should apologize. After that, don't expect the relationship to be same though. Your girl WILL leave you, maybe tomorrow, maybe next month or maybe in 3 months. If your really love her, explain the situation of your being clinically paranoid, if you don't, prepare to next her cuz she's already looking for options

[–]PurposeDriven951 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link

Anytime I hear the whole “SHE’S GONNA LEAVE YOU, IT’S JUST A MATTER OF TIME” rhetoric, I just automatically associate it with that MGTOW incel shit. It’s like some people overdose on the red pill - and yes, I know ironically my post is about “the curse of the red pill”, but no lol I don’t think it’s just a “matter of time” before she dumps me. And if she does, fuck it, plenty of fish in the sea but you telling me to apologize has no barring on wether or not she would dump me if she wanted to. I think your taking this red pill shit a bit too seriously bud.

[–]JackTheRipper_17 -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't wanna argue with you bro but in 6 months you'll see for yourself if this was a hardcore mgtow incel shit or a bluepill guy thinking he was redpilled. Anyway, hope it goes according to what you want.

[–]throwaway69764 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

>i have paranoid anxiety disorder

>yeah that outburst was definitely the fault of being red pilled

bruh, you have a lot of introspection to do. I wouldn't necessarily apologize but at least tell her about your condition.

also get off reddit, reading stories about girls being hoes all day long certainly isn't gonna help your paranoia

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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