I can't get out of my own way.

ppvknifefight · 2016-12-17T23:51:35+00:00

Been in this situation multiple times before. Incredibly painful experiences -- man I wouldn't wish that on anyone. But anyway, I did two things to get through this. First, I consciously made a difficult decision to simply confront and outlast the pain and embarrassment. No matter how insecure I felt, no matter how many times my dick didn't work (many), no matter how embarrassed the woman was, or ridiculed me for not gettin it up, no matter how much my friends made jokes at my expense or called me a faggot.. I kept putting myself in that position of bringing girls in my bed. I had no choice -- get this shit handled, or die a virgin. Trial by fire.

Eventually, I got to the point where I could lay in the bed with a woman without trembling and my heart beating extremely fast. Then, I got comfortable being naked, then I got hard enough for a just a BJ, but not penetration.

Then I got semi hard while penetrating them, but not a full raging boner. At this point, I gave up porn and masturbation for a month. When I got through that, I still felt nerves, but biology took over and I did the deed successfully. Now I have no problems. If I underperform or cant perform, I dont' care, simply because I've already been through the embarrassment of sexual failure.

Keep going. You'll keep second guessing yourself and failing. Then you'll realize that you're still alive and all of this shit doesn't really matter, since there's literally millions of girls out here. Then, on one glorious day, you'll be like "fuck it. Who cares." Then you'll succeed.

TheEroticPolitician · 2016-12-17T23:17:44+00:00

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imkingcash · 2016-12-18T03:58:19+00:00

It may have been better that you didn't do anything, even though both of you were drunk. You wouldn't want her lying to anyone about you getting her drunk and taking advantage of her. As far as the opportunities, try this technique:

Go to a room where you can't be disturbed. This could be your bedroom or the bathroom.
Sit down, close your eyes and relax. Try to clear your mind.
When your mind is clear, focus on your breathing and heart rate. Both should be at a normal, steady pace.
Think about a situation where you are with a girl and have her in bed butt naked. If your heart rate and breathing starts to speed up or you start to get that feeling of uneasiness, phase out the thought and try to clear your mind again.
Keep thinking of that scenario and each time your breathing and heart rate speeds up or becomes irregular, phase out the thought. Keep doing this until, when you do this, and you think of that scenario, you will have a normal breathing and heart rate.

Try it for at least 10 minutes any chance you get until this thought no longer makes you feel uneasy.

Title	I can't get out of my own way.
Author	TheEroticPolitician
Upvotes	9
Comments	5
Date	December 17, 2016 6:42 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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