Frame: Creating a set of circumstances in which your goal(s) is the only tenable/sensible outcome. Frame is characterized by an absence of desperation or overt entitlement. Others will respond by acquiescing to your purpose and even seeking to please you. This is because any powerful frame doesn't infringe on others' rights to refuse you, but it does make anyone who chooses to refuse feel worthless/at a loss.

Token Resistance: In a sexual/game context, "sex resistance" is when a girl is not sure whether or not to sleep with you. She is still assessing your status as an alpha male (who is worthy of sex) versus that as a beta male (who is not worthy of being sexual). She is still open to sex, despite her protestations. However, given the nature of the sexual marketplace (men wanting sex more than women, obviously), the default position for women, even those who actually want to be fucked that night, is to refrain from sex unless you overwhelmingly can assure them you are worth the risk.

Let me reiterate the risk that women take on by spreading their legs for you. If you turn out to be a beta male, they have immediately devalued themselves and their prime resource (their vagina) by giving it up too easily. So they are conditioned to assess/resist/extricate from you (even if you haven't done anything wrong) unless you can overcome their token resistance. Seriously, how many sob stories have you read about/heard/experienced involving a guy making out with a girl and grinding, only for the girl to disappear 1 hr later? Or maybe the first meeting was full of chemistry, but no response to your texts the next week?

Well, this post is more focused on overcoming token resistance in the context of a ONS (one night stand). Text game and Dating game are for another discussion. Most of you are probably here to learn how to get laid the first night.

Field Report:

I met this girl online through OKCupid. She is mainland Chinese and a college student. I found out she was traveling/visiting friends and "looking to see some local culture". That includes partying, drinking and all-around potential slutiness, in my extensive experience.

However you meet a girl (online, in-person, etc), setting up frame begins at first contact. I always set up frame through texting before meeting a girl in-person. Although some prefer to keep texting to logistics only, I disagree if you actually met the girl through texting/online to begin with. I had repeatedly mentioned how "crazy" I was, how I like dancing, girls who cosplay, massages, outdoor sex, car sex, and porn. All of this was administered and received in proper frame; funny, joking, non-judgmental.

By the time we met up, things were already in place. I immediately took her directly to my home and gave her a drink. I turned on some club music and asked her to show me how she dances. After all, we'd already talked about this through texts, so this wasn't an unusual request. Within 10 min, I was literally dry humping her, she was grinding me, and I was teaching her how to shake her ass. It ended up with her sitting on my lap while we relaxed on the bed. She called me a "crazy, bad guy" the entire time.

So this is where sex happens, right? I wish it were that simple. Token resistance smacked me in the face. I quickly ran into a myriad of slut protectors: She claimed she had a bf and that she doesn't like it when guys touch her (this was after me grabbing her ass for 20 min while she asked for help on how to dance).

This type of obvious dissonance can logically mean only one of two things: 1) what she said was true. She is totally immune from further sexual escalation and won't respond. 2) What she said is a lie and, more importantly, an attempt to verify my status as a worthy sexual being. #2 is how I always view these situations based on the evidence (her actions; if the girl literally never touched me then #1 would make more sense).

So what did I decide to do? I went full grenade-mode. I maintained frame and playfully "challenged" her if she could give me a blowjob like we talked about online, and I conveniently mentioned that "it's just a blowjob, it's not full sex". This hilarious feat of mental gymnastics was all I needed to get an amazing blowjob.

So next time, invest in setting up a proper, sexual frame in which being crazy is not only allowed, it's actually expected. Once you have accomplished this, the frame does its work on its own. Because you no longer have to fight to justify your sexual escalation (which is the conflict at the heart of Game). Sexual escalation is accepted without resistance.

Alternate version of this post in blog form