Backstory: I've known this girl for about 8 months. We do not hang out often but it occasionally happens. My buddy fucks her best friend. When I first met her, I was involved in an LTR but she climbed into my bed one night wearing nothing but a G-String. She cuddled up on me, etc. but I didn't escalate because of the LTR, which was in the process of crumbling. Since then, when we bump into each other, we'll make out in secret and constantly talk about hardcore sex. We've never hung out one-on-one before and every time she sees me, I'm with another girls who I'm sleeping with, which is why we make out in secret. Her best friend, who fucks my buddy, tells everyone that this girl wants to fuck me.

Field Report: The best friend went on vacation and this girl was left all alone in the big city. I didn't have plans yesterday, so I decided to take a shot with her one-on-one. Here is my exact text exchange (notice, I don't say "Hi" or any shit like that, this is exactly how I start):

BOBBY: We're starting at BAR_NAME tonight. You should come.

HER: For the game?

BOBBY: Exactly

HER: Who watches games at BAR_NAME?

HER: Do they even have tv's?

BOBBY: Hahahaha I know! I said the same thing, but I'm told they have a bunch.

BOBBY: MUTUAL_FRIEND wants to go because all of THEIR_FUCKING_LAME_KICKBALL_TEAM is there tonight. I'm coming along for the ride.

BOBBY: Come with me. If it sucks, we'll bounce. My entire plan is that it will suck and we will bounce. She thinks we're meeting friends, but I'm planning to isolate her fast.

HER: Alright fine

HER: Picnic basket shoes? I've made out with her a bunch and we have extremely sexual conversations. She knows I'm into legs, feet, and shoes. Last time I saw her, she had these wedges with red and white checkered ribbons that tied the basket-weave wedges to the bottom of her feet. I told her they were 1950s sexy and that I would like to have her in nothing but those shoes and a matching apron, in a kitchen. She told me it made her wet to think about that and, clearly, she's still thinking about it and wants to have me thinking about it too. This conversation about shoes happened about 3 weeks ago.

BOBBY: Good girl.

HER: Lol

BOBBY: 2.5 hours later I'll pick you up at 8. What's your address?

HER: Ahh I better hurry up then

HER: ADDRESS

I show up at 8 and she's ready. She hops in my car and I start to drive. She states that we're taking a weird way back to my place. I explain that I haven't eaten yet, so I'm stopping at McDonald's. It takes 15 minutes extra to do, but fuck it, I need to eat. I pick up that McDonald's and we drive back to my place.

We're alone at my place for a good 2 hours. We're drinking, getting loose, having good conversation, listening to some good music. At first, the IOIs are saying that she's standoffish (I don't think she anticipated I'd keep her alone like that... IMO, she thought we were going to meet friends immediately) but after a few drinks it's fairly easy to get light kino going on. I'm putting my arm around her, touching her waist, kissing her on the cheek. Etc.

At this point, it's getting late and we get a taxi to the bar. We show up and meet with some mutual friends. Guess what? The bar is completely dead! (This kind of sucks, because now I can't isolate. Our friends all want to leave together to go to a better bar.) I know the bar tender, so we get some drinks. After one drink, we start to walk to a different bar. This will be a 15-20 minute walk.

Along the way, we pass a playground with a jungle gym made of ropes. The girl tells me we could have some serious fun on that, especially on the swings. I say we should do it right now. We straight up role played out a porn scene on this thing in front off all of our friends. She's riding me over clothing on these swings, I'm rubbing her tits and pussy over her clothing, she's talking about the way my cock feels against her. This is going good.

We leave the jungle gym and continue our walk. The girl tells me she really needs to pee. My thought is that I got that pussy TINGLING! on the jungle gym and she needs to play with herself--that's what I like to think at least. In any case, I view this as my opportunity to isolate. I tell her we should walk fast and get her into a bar to use the bathroom. This works! We leave the group of friends behind and wind up alone in a bar. We both use the restroom and I tell her, "Come her" Kiss her, no tongue. "Buy me a drink." And she does.

At this point, we sit next to each other and she starts to tell me about the new guy she's seeing. Oh, he has such a big cock and fucks her so good. He's so innocent looking, but he's a complete freak. But... She thinks about me while she's fucking him... Because, she wants to know if I'd approve of the dirty talk and if I'd approve of the naughty outfits she wears and if I'd approve of the way she rides his dick... (NOTE: During this conversation, I find out the following, which will be important to keep in mind... 1) They are not in an exclusive relationship. 2) This guy just applied to 20 graduate schools and only 1 is in the major metro area where we live. 3) He lives over an hour away from us.)

OK, this is a little weird. But, she's getting totally turned on and starts rubbing my dick. I'm figuring this is a series of shit tests to see if this guy can make me jealous. Fuck that nonsense, I A&A the shit out of everything she throws. As a result, this conversation gets extremely graphic. We're sitting next to each other in a bar, she's rubbing my dick, I'm rubbing her pussy, she's telling me how wet she is. I'm telling her that when I get her back to my place I'm going to rip her panties off--literally, rip them off of her--and stuff them in her mouth while I fuck her, white I suck her toes, while she sucks my fingers, all at the same time, etc.

OK, I'm going to make my move. We've got to get to my place NOW.

We walk to the exit and our friends walk in. They randomly found us! The only mutual friend's number she has broke his phone. So, I know she didn't disclose our location and neither did I. This is just shitty luck. They're not going to let us leave and I'm certainly not going to act thirsty here. We sit back down and have some more drinks. During this period of time, several of my friends are trying to cock block. I handle the entire situation by being completely aloof. I'm looking through my phone while the girl is whispering in my ear. She's showing me naughty pictures of her on her phone. She's rubbing my cock again. I have a full-nude of myself on my phone and I show her. She's impressed and tells me. This part of the night is not as insanely sexual, but it's still pretty intense. I think I'm golden on this.

A friend offers to drive us home. She comes to my place, even though she could have went back to her place and been dropped off there. We get back to my place and things get sexual. We make out. I'm completely under her shirt, feeling on her titties, licking them, etc. I'm rubbing her pussy but she won't let me take off her pants. She touches my dick over my jeans, but then pulls back. I'm getting LMR like a motherfucker and that's no problem. I'm Cool Hand Luke on this shit. I get denied, change the subject, make conversation sexual again, try again. Rinse & Repeat. This should work. But it doesn't...

She starts bringing up her man again. The one she isn't dating. Who lives more than an hour away. The one who, most likely, is leaving within the year. I'm A&Aing on this. I'm Pressure Flipping on her. The deflections are working. She's letting me be sexual, but will not let me fuck close!

After maybe an hour and a half of this nonsense, she flat out tells me in a stern voice that she's calling a cab and going home. I told her if she took her shirt off while she waited for the cab, she could leave. She laughed and did it. We made out while she was topless until the cab arrived and I let her go.

WHY. THE. FUCK. DIDN'T. THIS. CLOSE?!

My take is that, although she finds me sexual, she's purposely withholding because she understands that I spin plates. She doesn't want to be plated. She told me repeatedly that she "doesn't like to share" when we started talking about threesomes. Which is BS, because I know she's done threesomes. Why is she telling me she doesn't share men? Why is she telling me about all the nasty things she does for her not-BF? Why is she getting extremely sexual but withholding?

My Thoughts: I think this girl wants to see if she can date me. What do you guys think?

My next move? Complete freeze out. In her mind, she gave me a lot of benefit. She rubbed my dick, we made out, I played with her tits and pussy, etc. In her mind, I should be calling her and begging her to hang out again. I'm going to go No Contact and see what happens. I will definitely encounter her, whether I initiate contact or not. My plan is to see her casually, and when I do, to Approach & Open every hot set I can find. I'm great at it. I'm hoping that a display of my SMV and Social Proof will push her over the edge. What do you guys think?

EDIT: Forgot to add in that when I asked why she was leaving, I was told, "Because I know what will happen if I stay..." before she started using her not-BF as an excuse. For whatever reason, she wants to fuck, but won't. Figured this may be an insightful detail to add.