I could SERIOUSLY use some advice. (W.O.T.)

heckadactyl · 2014-08-13T04:36:05+00:00

This is a pretty good example of why 'gaming' and all that stuff has a very serious limit. The problem with books like 'The Game' is, whilst they do provide some interesting boosters for guys with very low self worth and all of that stuff, it reaches a limit. You have to think long term, self improvement in life. This will trickle down to the way you interact with women eventually, but it is a long term deal. What tends to happen with 'The Game' and other similar books is you get a lot of losers who still have no social skills outside of a few tricks and lines that honestly, really aren't fooling anybody.

I personally don't like your line 'I'm considering us becoming FB friends...' and some of your other conversation, because it screams to me 'I'm trying my best to be dominant and alpha/in control/all of that, when I'm really not'. This is the same problem I have with people who wait three days to text because they're 'busy' when really they're just jacking off to redtube and pretending to be busy. There's a huge difference. Faking it only lasts for a while.

Randomly chatting to random girls on facebook won't do you much good long term. Going out and talking to people will. Reading books will. Knowing what is happening in the world will. Having a huge repertoire of music, films, art, etc will. Become a good person, a good conversationalist, an interesting human being, and everything else will fall into place. You won't have to pretend to be some jocky in control dude when really you probably have a lot to fix first.

Furthermore commenting on her selfie game and all of that crap just reinforces her position and the attention you are giving her. Why do you care about her facebook, her pictures, or any of that stuff? It's not important. Commenting just fuels to the compliment collection she already has from the wide eyed puppy boys she's got on tap.

My advice? Go out and meet real people. Talk to girls. Work on yourself. Read, write, learn, lift, and all of that stuff - because you want to, not because you feel you need to in order to attract women. Don't let people walk over you and don't play 'games'.

EmbeddedAssets · 2014-08-13T18:08:57+00:00

Get off Facebook, seriously. It's an attention hub for attention whores. You should only use a texting medium for setting up a meet up. Let me say this and I want you to repeat it again: Nobody except men with 10/10 looks will seduce girls online. Also don't meet girls on Facebook, as it's much harder to go from online to irl than vice versa. Grow some balls and start approaching girls irl.

2014-08-14T02:57:50+00:00

Your tone is generally good but try to stay away from using the same lines over and over, cause when you talk to girls in person youre gonna have to be dynamic with your conversation eventually. You want to feel comfortable coming up with new things to say.

paperanch0r · 2014-09-12T17:40:24+00:00

I think I see what you were trying to do with the "high maintenance" line(force her to focus on your good qualities), but it comes off to me as somewhat needy. You have to remember that she should be seeking validation from you, not the other way around.

On validation, you've already given each girl some with your very first message -complimenting their pictures, immediately tipping the scales in her favor. It's like giving the hamster a treat without it doing a trick. Girls put up pictures they KNOW look good, they don't need to be told it; show her you're attracted through actions rather than words(i.e. set up a meet). If you're not messaging them to set up a meet, you should be only be building rapport and getting her comfortable with you. These are the only two options if you want to be successful with any girl.

One last thing - I feel like you're throwing them dread too early, like you only did it to establish yourself as their superior. This seems akin to overcompensation in the sense that they should instinctively KNOW that you're above them based on how you carry yourself, physically and socially. My advice is to save the dread for when it actually needs to be used. Some help here can be found by searching "dread" or "dread game" on /r/theredpill, /r/asktrp, or this board itself.

My main points:

Seeking validation from her is a beta red flag
Don't give out compliments so freely(also remember that her asking for compliments is a shit test)
Dread is for keeping her(usually plates) aligned with your frame

Keep working, and learn from every mistake. Much love, brother.

Title	I could SERIOUSLY use some advice. (W.O.T.)
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Upvotes	12
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Date	August 13, 2014 1:42 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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