I need your advice. Should I be honest about my sexual inexperience?

apackofwankers · 2014-05-14T06:05:27+00:00

She's probably slept with more than 1 guy, but those guys were probably pretty inexperienced themselves (50 year old guy speaking here). 1000 is just your performance anxiety speaking.

When I was 18, I had only slept with 2 girls, but then hooked up wit a 28yo woman. I was pretty inexperienced, but we had a lot of fun, and I learned a lot. Let me tell you, if she wants you, your relative inexperience will mean nothing to her.

Focus on kissing her. From there everything can follow. Kissing is your goal. If you are making out, don't be afraid to go for the boobs through the clothes, then escalate to putting your hand up her shirt. Opening a bra is an art - for a beginner, the clasp is at the back, and you will probably need two hands to undo it. Might be worth practising on a real bra. If you find yourself getting super horny and wanting to go to the main event, you can take her hand and put it on your cock. Just remember, more kissing and touching is making her horny too, and the one with the least desire has the most power, so just focus on making out, exploring her body. You want her to be your sex puppet, not the other way around.

If you want to suck on her tits, and she still has her clothes on, you can say "I want to kiss you here" pointing at her tits. If you want to go down on her, say the same thing, pointing at her pussy.

Watch these instructional videos, it will put you light years ahead of the rest.

http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=103104479 Nina Hartley teaches oral sex

http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=760760755 How to give a woman multiple orgasms

Buy this book http://www.amazon.com/The-Joy-Sex-Ultimate-Revised/dp/0307587789/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1400045022&sr=8-1&keywords=the+joy+of+sex

Take your time, go as slowly as you possibly can. I know you're starving, but you have to savour it like a $1000 meal. Every kiss and every touch you should enjoy like a bite of that $1000 meal. You only get one first time, so relax and savour it. Burn every moment into your memory.

Enjoy touching her, observe her closely as you do, her breathing her movements. She is your musical instrument for the night, learn how to play it, listen to the sounds she makes in response to the way you touch her. If she doesn't make sounds, watch her face and breathing and the movements of her pelvis. Try to imagine what she is feeling.

Don't be impatient about putting your dick in, she will let you know when she is ready (either by telling you, or by getting into position for fucking, on her back or knees), and the way to get her there is by touching and kissing her for ages. You're going to cum eventually, so take your time and enjoy the journey.

Taste her pussy - get her juices all over your face. You're going to eat a lot of pussy during your life, so enjoy it. The Nina Hartley video is the best instructional on that. If it smells bad, like stinky feet bad, or smelly cheese bad, don't go there - she probably has some kind of imbalance or infection going on. Women get these from time to time. Its going to taste a bit salty and/or fishy, the umami flavour, but that really depends on the girl, what time of month it is, and what her diet is like.

Once you are in bed with her, I don't see anything wrong with saying something like "this is my first time, teach me how to be your best lover ever". Its giving her permission to let you know what she wants, and that's a good start. That said, being a bit dominant, moving her into positions that visually please you, asking her to do things "I want you to suck me upside down", then letting her guide you, might be a good idea: "hey, I want to try this, [roll her over onto her stomach]". Don't be afraid to say what YOU want - the worst that will happen is her saying no, in which case you move onto the next thing you want. If she starts getting too bossy - up down, harder, faster, slower, etc, tell her to back off for bit, but listen for signs that its not working for her.

You might find that you cum pretty quickly. Learn to control that, slow down, savour and enjoy the experience. If you find you cant control yourself, you might want to practise using the Cock Hero videos, http://www.milovana.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=25

circlhat · 2014-05-14T02:27:13+00:00

Some quick tips would be make sure she gets wets before you try to insert your penis, if it doesn't go in right away more foreplay is needed.

If you are lazy, just finger her, otherwise kiss her neck, and rub her thighs. If you are super lazy you can eat her.

Once she is wet just go in and out, do not go to fast you will run out of energy , getting into a position where you can pull in and out really fast without getting tired is what you want to focus on.

The vaginal hole is right above the butt crack, if you have trouble finding it simply run your penis starting from the top to the bottom of the vagina(the bottom is where the hole is at)

Now for some TRP stuff, you need to be dominant the first time, but that doesn't mean making her suck your dick, you can lead her into it but if she doesn't want to she doesn't want to.

However if she wants head, do not give her head first, simply say, "You need to give head to get head". Some girls will shit test this, the only way you will go down on her is if she goes down on you.

Now for her cumming, girls cum easiest with doggy style(they can finger themselves), but this requires the vagina to be lubricated very well from foreplay; not a starting position, missionary is the starting position, you can move to doggy once she is really wet.

steadymotion · 2014-05-13T20:54:00+00:00

I don't get why you'd assume you're going to disappoint her. My first time was beautiful. I fucked her like a god.

And no, don't mention your inexperience. Don't explain yourself at all to her. Just chill out and have sex (assuming you find her hot enough to want to fuck her).

Manmore · 2014-05-13T21:57:45+00:00

Don't apologize like you're trying to live up to someones expectations. Live your life and enjoy it, and learn while doing so!

cascadecombo · 2014-05-14T06:24:15+00:00

shut the fuck up, go for it and disappoint the poor girl.

like /u/648262 said, just have fun. I didn't disclose the fact that my first was my first until after. And she legitimately didn't believe me. (was not a girlfriend so no need to lie).

GaiusScaevolus · 2014-05-17T08:57:54+00:00

don't mention your level of experience or lack thereof. try to remember that your ancestors have been doing this back and back and back for literally millions of years. so you'll probably be ok.

as for advice on the actual main event itself, stick her with pointy end

BluepillProfessor · 2014-05-18T05:20:26+00:00

The advice on this thread has been....questionable. Some of it would be appropriate if you had the HB8 naked and on her back but jeepers.

If you tell her with confidence it would only be as you are heading in for the kill (i.e. after making out with her). Just IMHO. The most important thing to do is to 'try something' with her. Make it clear it is not a Lets Just be Friends situation. You want to fuck her. You will wait if she needs to wait but you are ready to go now baby. Own it.

2014-05-13T19:53:46+00:00

This:

shut the fuck up, go for it and disappoint the poor girl.

Also, try to have fun with her.

BTW: You are thinking too much. I understand why, but try to relax. Repress any weird thoughts. She wants to hang - focus on that.

2014-05-14T05:23:10+00:00

Same boat just a bit younger. Circlhats answer is pretty helpful.

splooty · 2014-05-14T13:12:28+00:00

First, she definitely wants to fuck you. A girl coming over to your place to watch a movie or TV show is just code for coming over to fuck.... you put the movie on your laptop while you're both in bed, pretend to watch for 10 minutes, then get things going. Second, just because you're a virgin doesn't mean that you will be horrible at sex your first time. Sex is extremely easy and intuitive. I lost my virginity to a girl who had fucked a good 20+ guys, and she told me I was the best she's ever had. Yes, I know that all girls say this and I didn't believe her until I overheard her friends talking about it. Just don't over think things, anxiety will fuck you over in bed. Give doggy style a try for sure, it's everyone's favorite and it's almost impossible to fuck it up.

Sturmgeist781 · 2014-05-15T19:46:14+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umDr0mPuyQc

Don't say SHIT about your inexperience. Women may say they are fine with it but they are not. They won't think you can please them.

Keep your mouth shut and improve on your inexperience.

jobs33ker · 2014-05-16T21:59:33+00:00

Title	I need your advice. Should I be honest about my sexual inexperience?
Author	bloomin_cockroach
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Date	May 13, 2014 7:40 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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