Met a girl through work colleagues a few months ago. I could feel there was an instant connection.

Through the various events that we attended she began to give off all of the signals (admittedly some i was unaware of at the time)

  • always smiling at me
  • playing with hair
  • holding eye contact
  • complimenting me
  • at one point she even apologised for staring at me, because i reminded her of an ex who gave her 'self esteem issues'
  • basic shit tests

It was all going well, until along the line somewhere, I fucked up. The cheeky act I had on began to fall at rare points, and tiny hints of betaness poked through. All the indicators of attraction slowly began to dwindle. I'll be the first to admit I was inconsistent with holding frame - failing shit tests some days and excelling on others.

My question to you all, is that once attraction is lost, is it possible for one to gain it back? If I haven't already fucked up completely, how can I redeem myself? I like this girl.

Pull back, act distant, hold frame more, make her jealous (currently talking to 2 other women)? She has a few other colleagues vying for her and I'm worried acting too distant will yield no results.

Thanks!