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Taking a girls virginity

July 17, 2014

Okay, so the last time I took a girls virginity, the sex was shit, both for me and for her I think, so eventually I just made her suck me off until I fell asleep. Now, I got an opportunity to fuck a new girl soon, however I am 95% convinced that she is still a virgin, so how do I fuck her in a way that makes me enjoy it and makes her want to come back without treating her too much like a fragile princess?

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Title Taking a girls virginity
Author Melodramati
Upvotes 19
Comments 31
Date July 17, 2014 5:41 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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[–]riverraider69 11 points12 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Doesn't look like you're gonna take this advice, but take the focus from penetration (small chance she'll enjoy it) and put it on different stuff. She'll likely enjoy fingering, maybe oral. You may or may not enjoy oral from someone without much experience. Find something else you'd like to do. Tittyfuck?

Get some oil and massage the fuck out of each other. Take turns.

She's likely to have a "one thing" mindset and be focused on ending the experience somehow. Either penetration or you coming or her. Make it clear early on that lots of pleasant stuff will happen for a long time, and make sure the pace fits. Both of you cumming several times from oral/finger/handjob is recommended.

There has to be penetration for her to "count" the experience, but make it short and painless. Best if you don't orgasm like this, unless you're fast.

[–]Melodramati[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, of course I will take the advice. The last virgin-sex I had was shit, even the blowjob kinda hurt although she didn't use teeth which I very strictly instructed her not to do.

I will definitely remember this comment, your advice makes sense.

[–]riverraider69 8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Well, if you think you have the required patience... here's some extra advice.

Women having to bleed from first sex is more or less a myth. There is the hymen which is breaking, but that's small and usually insignificant. Most of the blood comes from the sides of the vagina tearing up from not being able to expand fast enough.

So if you want decent penetration sex, there is something you can do. Again, it's not required, but if you can pull it off...

The key is very slow penetration. She has to be really wet and turned on, so it's best after she orgasms, or at least oral sex or very pleasant fingering. Assume missionary position, put the dick in position, rub it a little... and start making sexy talk.

Distract her, kiss, bite, lick, do whatever you feel like, with the dick right there. You'll want to push it in, she'll flinch - stop. Keep up the sexy talk etc. Make very small pushing movements and keep them at the level where she's not flinching. After a while (think 5-10 minutes, not 20 seconds), she'll get really really wet and slippery and you'll be able to put it in easily. Small in/out movements are better then continuous pushing btw - the wetness is mostly inside and has to be brought out.

[–]Melodramati[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hah, it seems like you truly are a defiler of virgins. I'm gonna be more calm and slow with this girl, especially if it'll be more enjoyable for me as well. The last one I just put it in and went deep, going faster until (In my drunken stupor) I realized that I had slipped out, then it just went downhill from there and I couldn't be bothered to try anymore. Funnily enough, in the morning she looked at me like she was in love or some shit.

[–]Mans_Right_To_Choose 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for this description. My wife has vaginismas (or something similar) and PnV sex is almost always painful for her (unless she's really drunk or otherwise abnormally aroused). I'm going to try this next time.

[–]riverraider69 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Actually had a girlfriend with vaginismus (virgin too). Took several months to get to proper PiV, but we did so much other stuff that it was actually quite fun time. It was before I had tried the method above. My main problem at the time was that after having her flinch 2-3 times, I was actually losing erection (humorously noted that I'd make a lousy rapist).

There are resources online about this. There was a famous thread on reddit a while back. And looking for it, seems there's also /r/vaginismus. So it looks like you have a pretty good chance of solving this :)

[–]Mans_Right_To_Choose 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I also lose erections due to flinching. I also have made jokes about my piss poor raping skills.

Looks like we should join that sub. :)

Thanks for the input.

[–]riverraider69 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Eh, my mistake then. Have fun!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

just like any other chick, heaps of teasing, raise anticipation, a lot of fingering and foreplay, let her control the penetration, if it doesn't work get on top and be quick and fearless. Resume ordinary sex. By that I mean alternate long strokes and powerfull pounding.

How to make her come back, fuck her good, the first time is pretty shit unless she is some orgasmic dynamite. Make your second go the performance piece, it takes the pressure of performance from both you and her.

Don't make a big deal out of it (even if its your fetish) she will take that from you and inflate it as well. This will also inflate her ego and start shit testing, and you really don't want that.

[–]Melodramati[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nah, I don't look at deflowering girls through a romantic lens, I look at it through a pragmatic lens. I don't really buy into that whole; "OMG the first time is very special and he loves me and she loves me, boo-hoo-hoooo"-thing.

But thank you for the advice.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When you take a girls virginity she's going to "want to come back" as long as you are reasonably competent. Don't worry about being good at sex or "getting her" by proving yourself. That is beta frame.

Focus on having a good experience and by proxy, she will have one too. Lots of foreplay, go down on her, and tease her so that she is asking for it - aka she is the one wanting it and in a very emotional state (which will help massively if its painful).

Get her out of her head - and keep in mind losing your virginity isn't always painful. Different girls are different, sometimes its not this big messy painful deal.

Get out of this "virgins are bad at sex" mentality - you don't need her to be good at sex, you provide that. Take the first 5 minutes or so slow, and the first time you stick it in all the way, hold it in deep and let her get used to it. Eventually her hormones and endorphins kick in and you will be able to fuck her harder - after about 10 minutes of keeping her very aroused, the bad pain should turn to a good pain. Again this is on a girl by girl basis.

I find it easier to not take it out and switch up the positions a lot. Change thrust style / pattern, but don't get ADD with it. If she starts feeling dry for whatever reason mid-sex, (condoms + a little blood + a girl who is nervous will do that), put some lube on it and give it a second to warm up so it isn't cold as shit. Condoms are horribly dry and will eat up a girl's natural lube and deny you the benefits of precum up in there, so don't be afraid to take it out and put on some more, as gross as it may be. The last thing you want is to be tearing her vaginal walls (which is what causes some of the blood that people think of wrongly as hymen blood).

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

Do you have a fetish for virgins or something?

[–]Melodramati[S] 3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Ahah, nah, not really. I just find this girl hot, she lives close to where I live and we go to the same school. But on the other hand, you do feel powerful when you're fucking virgin girls, maybe it is taking away the innocence, maybe it's because it hurts them or just because you're the first guy who could get there after others have tried.

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[–]Melodramati[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think I worded it wrong, of course I will not be the only guy hahah. I meant the first. She's 17 and I am 18. Girls in my country becomes legal at 15.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Try heaps of foreplay, apparently it helps when they're wet.

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're a moron, pull your head out of your ass. I was not mocking you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Way to be insecure dude.

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[–]Melodramati[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

She's into me, last time we hung out (on Roskilde Festival if you know what that is) we made out a fucking lot, I was getting her undressed, she got very horny, she told me she was on her period, I tried falling asleep while we were spooning, but she kept breathing heavily, turning around to kiss me until I told her to stop it and we just fell asleep.

Anyways two days ago she texted me that she felt bad that she didn't see me the rest of the week (Duh, shark week), and now I'm gonna meet up with her, when I get home from vacation.

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[–]Melodramati[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Every since I swallowed the red pill, I've definetly been enjoying it. I do not know what Roosh is on about "Don't bang Denmark", most girls here are gorgeous, and quite easy to bang. After living in Denmark all my life, and finally getting laid, I honestly don't buy much into Mystery, RSDnation or Roissys ideas about game that "Looks don't matter" and "game is the big equalizer". As long as you're decently pretty, have decent social skills then you will realize that is all a fucking numbers game and sex just happens depending on how hard you play the numbers game. One of my fucks was a girl from my class. I almost had a threesome with her and my friend because we were drunk and she asked if we wanted too, so we just took turns fucking her instead. Another girl, I just asked her over after the weekend were I was too drunk to get it up. Non of these places were there any big 'attempt' at game. The only gameish thing I did to pull these girls was convince them that no one was gonna know.

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[–]Melodramati[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Does America and the UK don't do that as well? I have a good friend from London who fucks around A LOT, he pulls most of his girls over twitter without meeting them for some reason. He doesn't try and game them, goes right to the point, "U single?, no? lets hook up!", he's just polite, light-skinned, fit and fashionable. He pulls ALL the fucking time.

[–]iKill_eu 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Hey, someone from the same country as me. Represent.

[–]Melodramati[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Repræsenteret. I am looking forward to going clubbing and visiting bars here in Denmark, when I finally fucking turn 18 in a couple of days. That'll definitely expand my market, so far I've only been able to game girls from my school, 5 of them fucked in this year so far though.

[–]iKill_eu 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

What town?

I'm sorta in cocoon mode right now as I'm moving away in a month, so I'm focusing on lifting + self-building right now.

[–]Melodramati[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

That's good, I also started lifting a lot. I have been a skinny phaggot. Anyways, I live in a town close to Copenhagen, but for privacy reasons, I will not say which. If you don't know him, you should read Boytoystory, he's fucked like +150 girls in Copenhagen. I really just focus on socialising, lifting and learning shit at school, then I just try and fuck girls who seem interested and aren't ugly. I don't need it to be the biggest focus in my life, I usually feel depressed when that happens.

[–]iKill_eu 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah. Speaking out publicly about location here is suicide.

I'm in the other end of the country though. I know about Boytoy, dw.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

spend some time going down on her or? teach her to make you feel good? spend some time on foreplay? the web is full of fun suggestions on how to have fun with another person, especially if you both are naked.

most girls are passive when it comes to sex when they first start having it - take some initiative.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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