Hello queens,

To contextualize I work in healthcare which makes it guaranteed a good drama.

I’m 12 years younger than my manager (he is 40 or something) and work with him for about 3 years. Where I work is full of ass kissers. I’m nice and treat everyone with respect but I don’t go around saying he is right everytime or asking for his help or opinion all the time. He never ever said anything bad about my work. But I known (intuition never fails) he dislikes me and would prefer someone else. He barely talks to me at lunch or any other time likewise. And I have seen him interact with other colleagues. He is fairly nice (or pretends at least).

I don’t know what to do. I won’t change my personality and I’m not an ass kisser. But I wanted a mutual and respectful relationship with him. 3 years later seems impossible now.

Then there is another issue. He has a story of dating fellow colleagues. The last one was younger and the other one was his age. He is discreet but knowing this information makes me colder towards him. I don’t want to be misinterpreted. Yet I know he loves ass kissers (men and women) and he got where he is by being one.

Ladies, what’s your take on this. Don’t tell me to quit because I need the job for the next years. Thank you so much! Xoxo

More info: It is important for us to be on good terms because I’m a resident at a hospital. Still need more 3 years to finish residency. My grade will be (not only) but also massively dependent on his good will. I don’t need him to like me just not to hate me. This grade will define in a way part of my career. I wasn’t explicit above.