I was laughed at when I got upset because I was being sexually assaulted.

Meme_lord_70000 · 2019-07-12T13:13:58+00:00

There was a girl who would sexually harass me and my friends from 6th to 9th grade she would just walk up to us and grab our asses and dicks and we told the principle and he didn't care, in highschool the principle said that the girl was just "trying to tell us that she liked us" eventually she got expelled for putting graffiti in the boys bathroom and poking the boys in her homeroom in the ass with a pocket knife. She also tried to run away from school because she said that some boys were bullying her by telling her to stop grabing there dicks and butts.

(Edit): im pretty sure that she had some kind of mental condition because my teacher talked to me about it once and I can't remeber it well but thats one of the things she said.

Men-Are-Human · 2019-07-12T13:09:23+00:00

That's awful, and humiliating. I wouldn't want to have that. If you want, I can archive this at www.menarehuman.com for awareness. Would that be okay? It would be fully anonymous.

MRA-automatron-2kb · 2019-07-12T15:02:13+00:00

I'll never understand why it's funny for males to be sexually abused and assaulted while the same women expect men to follow rules that they don't follow themselves.

Writing about your experiences helps other males see they are not alone in what they went through and that their feelings are normal.

DownrightCaterpillar · 2019-07-12T13:07:52+00:00

Yeah, that's messed up.

I'm sure you felt alone at the time, but just remember you're not. There's lots of people, men and women, who support you and would have stood up for you if they were there.

Lethn · 2019-07-12T13:22:33+00:00

I know this is in school but generally I would always make a point never to hang out with scumbags like that those people weren't your friends. I swear that situations like that are a total litmus test in my point of view when it comes to deciding whether or not they're worth hanging out with.

Chances are if their response to that sort of thing is that fucked up they're going to be irrational in all sorts of other ways as well.

IronJohnMRA · 2019-07-12T15:30:13+00:00

Imagine if a guy did this to a girl, the group would’ve responded totally differently!

You're right.

Momisch420 · 2019-07-12T14:35:21+00:00

I had 2 people grab and smack my ass in 7th grade, which sucked since nobody gave a shit. Imagine you're 12, and being sexually assaulted and can't do shit. Another time I had this gay guy try to see my feet over the entire 8th grade year... Once he even tried to wrestle them off..

SharqPhinFtw · 2019-07-12T16:07:43+00:00

Bruh there was a girl who smacked my ass all throughout high school and at some point I'm just like "The fuck (or fuck off I don't remember) bitch" right in the hallway. It was awkward af but she stopped doing that. I think she was interested in me cause one time we ended up on a bus leaving some event and she was right up against me when we sat.

xDrCoconutx · 2019-07-12T16:14:10+00:00

When I was in elementary school there was another girl in the class who would always run up and kiss me. I would ask her to stop and eventually she would just try to hold my head still and force me to kiss her back. All readily visible by the teachers. I asked her to stop hundreds of times over the years. When I went to the teacher she laughed and said it was just her way of showing affection, to which I responded that I didn't want her affections and wanted to be left alone. Everyday for two years I made that argument and everyday for two years I was told to stop tattling and it wasn't a big deal etc. So everyday when I went to school I was constantly grabbed on by someone I didn't want to be grabbed on by, forced to kiss someone I didn't want to kiss, and none of the adults wanted to do anything. Now we're kids, probably 7 or 8 at this point, so I get that she probably didn't grasp the harm of what she was doing, but the adults around me who I kept complaining too should have. From a young age I'm told this is okay and a young girl is told this is okay. I wonder how society raises adults without basic sense that this type of thing isn't okay?

Dutch_Windmill · 2019-07-12T14:57:05+00:00

This is always frustrating

CatOfGrey · 2019-07-12T18:35:08+00:00

One even remarked “It’s funny cause you’re a guy.”

Remember that the assumptions of 'toxic masculinity' are that men automatically consent to any sexual contact, because we are not-quite-human predators who 'always want it'. In reality, the desires of men and women are much more even, so this assumption is incorrect.

SharedRegime · 2019-07-12T19:50:17+00:00

Hold up, whos saying assault was misused? you used it correctly. She was touching you in places without your consent. Sexual assault is defined as any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. Grabbing someones ass is considered sexual assault by this definition. Even without that, if a man did it to a woman it would 100% be called assault. This would be called Groping which is also included in the article i linked and states that groping does fall under assault. You were assaulted my dude.

St0rm3rX · 2019-07-12T15:06:55+00:00

Man I’m sorry you had to go though that. It’s a widespread problem and it should never be laughed at. Try to keep people like that at a distance.

PurveyorofToxicWaste · 2019-07-12T15:51:07+00:00

Shit, sorry to hear that man.

chadwickofwv · 2019-07-12T17:06:21+00:00

What you should have done when she grabbed your ass is grab her hand and exclaim loudly that she was not worthy of touching your ass. That would have directed the ridicule towards her instead of you.

RoryTate · 2019-07-12T17:38:09+00:00

I had a similar event happen to me (though it was a full on crotch grab by a girl) at university when I was nineteen years old. I know well what you are probably going through: the difficulty sleeping at night, the low self-esteem, all the things you do to avoid her and/or any situation like that, the feelings of isolation, the dropping grades, etc.

Honestly, that was one of the few times when I found just talking about it with other people was actually useful. A week or so later I told a group of other guys on the floor what had happened, and their immediate response was pure disgust at the idea of having a bitch like her touch them. I think that their actual description might have been "a skank like her". She really was that bad. I didn't know just how much their reciprocation would mean to me until it was suddenly like a weight had been lifted, and I could start on the long road to getting over it. They were honest and realistic about the incident, and confirmed pretty much everything I had been thinking; it was disgusting, it was useless to try and make some official complaint because no one would care, and the best thing was to practice as much contempt and derision for her as was humanly possible.

It may sound like a wrong thing to say -- at least in a gynocentric environment...luckily you're not in one here and these things can actually be discussed -- but being able to really hate a woman who has wronged you is a very useful skill to cultivate. And I don't mean just silently hate them, I mean actually getting in their face and chewing them out on full blast (which I did gloriously to my attacker months later when she was being an asshole to someone else, though everyone in the room knew what it was really about). This skill saved me from some very real harm later on in life, because I wouldn't fall for the "women are wonderful" trap like most people unfortunately do.

I_care_so_much · 2019-07-12T16:54:10+00:00

Shoulda kicked her in the pussy

nocivo · 2019-07-12T17:51:46+00:00

I had a friend that loved to slap me when I said something funny about her. I said had because I dropped her friendship after 3 slaps. I also notice that she wasn’t the only one to do this many girls slap as reaction to many stuff. Don’t know why they cant control themselves.

xbucs_19 · 2019-07-12T22:06:23+00:00

Back in eleventh grade these cheerleaders played “the dick grabbing game” where the tried to see how many dick they could grab in one day. I just remember this one girl who I liked actually grabbing me and I just felt turned off because I know she would’ve crucified me if I grabbed her ass. I felt humiliated

StarlexYT · 2019-07-12T15:58:09+00:00

If I were you I would have gotten them back and seen how they reacted

double-happiness · 2019-07-12T16:43:48+00:00

I think they didn't actually find it funny; they were just trying to shame you as a form of gatekeeping. I suspect women like that want to maintain a monopoly on being the targets of sexual harassment because of their victim mentality.

MasonTaylor22 · 2019-07-12T18:09:35+00:00

Not surprised. When I told my harassment story, they fucking laughed... as if that's the appropriate response.

CrockpotSeal · 2019-07-12T20:19:03+00:00

A similar thing used to happen to me when I was in university and working retail. The girls would come up behind me and pinch my butt when I was ringing customers at the cash. It obviously made me upset but whenever I asked them to stop they just laughed and said it was funny because I was a guy.

The manager also laughed when I told her about it.

CarlosGarriz · 2019-07-12T22:46:46+00:00

Same thing happened to me, except I'm in 8th grade

Zcox93 · 2019-07-12T20:42:37+00:00

Your edit is incorrect, this was actually assault, she touched you in a sexual way without permission

“DescriptionSexual assault is an act in which a person intentionally sexually touches another person without that person's consent, or coerces or physically forces a person to engage in a sexual act against their will.”

litfur · 2019-07-12T16:18:26+00:00

This still happens to me, but I think it needed cause they graduated. So I’ll be fine senior year!

2019-07-12T17:24:33+00:00

Try appearing in public in a kilt.

mattsweegoldreal · 2019-07-12T18:40:07+00:00

Yea we need to fix these double standards

DarkNights292 · 2019-07-12T19:54:56+00:00

That’s terrible! I hope your doing okay nowadays

juanml82 · 2019-07-12T20:06:13+00:00

It sucks. They laughed because you've responded in the way a woman would answer, and do so in a way to bring bystanders to her side instead of convincing the harasser to stop. That girl knew she was upsetting you - she didn't care, or may have enjoyed it. That's because most of the time, sexual offenders aren't confused nice people - they are bad people, so talking to them politely accomplishes nothing.

People are expected to ride to the defense of damsels in distress, so women can rely on bystanders to stand up with her to stop aggressions. Men are expected to fight their own battles. Asking for allies is ok, but you have to fight your own battles.

And since many societies have issues understanding that women have sexual drives and that men don't necessarily want to fuck every woman in sight, there are very few socially acceptable ways, if any, to sucessfully resolve that situation in a manly way.

I guess that if the affected guy isn't in a relationship or has anyone who can be jealous and the guy is brazen enough, he could raise up the stakes and challenge the girl to suck his dick in front of everyone else. Either she backs down or the guy gets a blowjob.

sergantfloop · 2019-07-12T21:25:30+00:00

Next time she tries this, squeeze your buttcheeks as tight as you can with the might of Zeus and get her hand in a clinch, then don’t let go until she apologizes for grabbing your ass.

2019-07-13T00:54:26+00:00

Sorry, kid, but it looks as if you got stuck with the worst generation of females yet!

dippybud · 2019-07-13T01:31:50+00:00

I am so sorry that this happened to you. It's not fair that men are expected to "deal with" obvious sexual harassment/abuse, just because... what? Men are supposedly better equipped to deal with it? Fuck that noise. You were assaulted, and that's not okay.

I sincerely hope that those awful creatures have since been arrested, tried, and jailed.

FlatbushZubumafu · 2019-07-13T03:34:33+00:00

Honestly tho dude, high school is a time where everyone either on purpose or on accident sexually assaults one another (exaggeration of the truth). They just don't have developed brains and a surge of horny hormones. Not a great mix friendo.

fullmetalghostfox · 2019-07-13T04:09:19+00:00

My brother once dated one of my highschool classmates. A few months after they broke up, she starts grabing and spanking my ass. Had to make a really annoyed face to make her stop.

princesspuppy12 · 2019-07-13T04:44:27+00:00

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themannamedme · 2019-07-13T05:23:59+00:00

I don't get why people don't think men can't be sexually assaulted and that only us women can. If a man tells me he's been sexually assaulted or harassed before I will believe him and not laugh at him.

xNOM · 2019-07-13T14:22:36+00:00

1st time: Verbal warning. 2nd time: Grab hand hard. Twist wrist. Shove backwards.

It's assault.

princesspuppy12 · 2019-07-14T19:15:37+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you. If I were in your situation, I'd probably squeeze my butt cheeks and/or fart because I hate confrontation and being touched.

2019-07-13T00:01:52+00:00

Guys, start punching these bitches for assaulting you! If a man grabs at me I am slugging someone as most girls would; guys start standing up for yourselves and your body! We ALL were taught in PreK that no one is allowed to touch you in places you don't want! And without your permission. Or grab her wrist and bend it back, get in her face and say "DO NOT TOUCH ME" All you guys who have had this happen to you, you were indeed assaulted!

Mantequilla_Stotch · 2019-07-12T21:35:58+00:00

I personally believe we should stop saying "if it was the other way around they would act totally different" but instead we should actually immediately do the same thing in return (as long as it doesn't cross the line too far) ... Kind of like this post. Instead of saying "if it were the other way around" OP should have started grabbing the laughing girls asses and then all the guys should laugh at the girl for getting upset and say "it's funny because you're a girl"

Treat those ladies how they feels it's ok to treat men. Let them taste their hypocrisy.

EndlessPatriotism · 2019-07-12T18:36:22+00:00

I would have knocked her out.

Zcox93 · 2019-07-12T18:27:29+00:00

Yes. I agree with everything. Except as you said, you were harassed not assaulted. I laugh when women call stuff like this assault and I'm going to laugh when you do it

3e8m · 2019-07-13T02:10:10+00:00

wow, did you call the police over this assault? did you go to the hospital and have them do one of those butt-touched kits?

Arronicus · 2019-07-12T20:38:57+00:00

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monkeyburrito411 · 2019-07-12T16:55:00+00:00

Is it really sexual assault when you're all kids? This is horrible but I dont see the girls have any bad intentions.

Zandra01 · 2019-07-12T16:40:04+00:00

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Title	I was laughed at when I got upset because I was being sexually assaulted.
Author	xDrCoconutx
Upvotes	2082
Comments	120
Date	July 12, 2019 12:58 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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