Does a Godly man have to ask his wife's permission if he is called to do something? this guy asked his wife's consent to run for President of SBC https://jdgreear.com/blog/why-im-accepting-nomination-sbc-president/

I always a thought a Godly man would discuss any change with his wife and make a decision would he really ask permission?

I was also taught at Church that a man who expects his wife to care for the home and kids and support him is selfish and sinning

why is this sin new? I am fairly sure this sin did not exist till about the 1980's

why do they keep telling young men this is a sin?