Hello all,
Mission: My goal in life is to focus on bringing others to Christ. That is why I integrated myself in the public school system early to help myself grow in those environments. Teach myself how to portray Christ the most loving way possible. I want to develop a family that loves Christ and focuses on Him first. With being a young leader in my church, my sole purpose is to help bring others to Christ as best I can through my faith.
Stats: 6'3, 230, 26 years old Bench 335, Sqaut 450, Deadlift 500lb, Played college sports, very active daily
Finances: I work in tech sales, 60k base with uncapped commission, no debt issues besides paying off student loans
Spiritual: Pray and read the Bible daily, grew up in a Pastors home, figured out my faith for myself pretty early on in my life. Grew up in a public school atmosphere which helped grow my faith tremendously, as I went to large public colleges for sports. I work in discipleship with an individual as the learner and also disciple an old high school classmate and we grow together.
Just looking for some Biblical advice here. Been married for about 6 months now, and it has been great. Love of my life, and am very blessed. I know it is early, and I’m sure things will change as time goes, but I’m in need of some guidance.
My wife’s sex drive is pretty minimal. Mine is very very high. I workout a lot, played college sports and am very active. My wife is active, but not as much as I am. My wife does not like to discuss sex topics very much, as it is uncomfortable for her at some points. I focus on being patient with this as everyone is different for sure.
I guess I’m getting to the point of a lot of frustration sexually. I saved myself for marriage, and my drive and passion is very high for her. Yet if she had sex once a week or once every two weeks it just doesn’t matter to her. With my drive being very high, it is becoming tough to figure out how to explain to her my needs with my love language being physicality.
In terms of our relationship. We get along really well. I manage the finances pretty much myself, but we have discussions weekly. We split cooking duties, and house duties. I will say I can improve on consistency in laundry haha but I am working on improving on that. Other than this for us, it has been great.
Also I really focus on her in the bedroom first. Always do and I really mean that. It is just not recipricated.
Any biblical advice on how to handle this?
Thank you and God Bless
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