intelligent women?

Wissenschaft85 · 2017-07-29T00:02:24+00:00

Intelligence (whether too much or too little) is less important to men than whether a woman is domineering or supportive. Be supportive to men and it doesn't really matter if your smarter than them. Being condescending is a big turn off.

However, most women with advanced degrees won't even consider dating a man without a degree. So its less that men don't find intelligence attractive but rather the "smart" women don't date men they consider bellow themselves.

So if your ever wondering why some men end up with women "bellow their standing", its probably because the women they are with are more willing to be supportive and provide what the man is looking for. A man who wants a family and kids now its going to settle down with a woman who also wants kids right now.

teaandtalk · 2017-07-29T02:10:56+00:00

Someone mentioned Spock in here the other day. Spock is highly intelligent, but still follows the lead of his captain, Kirk. That's because it takes more than intelligence to be a leader.

batting4fireflies · 2017-07-29T02:03:30+00:00

I think part of the answer is how you define intelligence. Other commenters have talked about degrees and income being ways to define intelligence, which is part of it.

However, in my relationship dynamic, those things have had little impact on the "protector/protected" or "captain/first mate" dynamic.

I have my law degree and make significantly more than my SO (for now). He is an electrician apprentice and will have a consistent and steady increase in income over time. I may be intelligent in an academic sense, but I am practically hopeless when it comes to more day-to-day common sense stuff. My SO is the epitome of logic and reason. He protects me by pointing out my foolishness when I'm being over emotional about my client being sent to prison. Honestly, I'm a better lawyer because of his advice and wisdom.

I would echo what others have said that the key to being an intelligent woman (or just person in general) is to not be so egotistical that you put yourself on a pedestal and refuse to accept constructive criticism. I won't lie, the first time my SO told me I was being dumb in how I handled a situation at work, my initial thought was "Well, wtf do you know?! You didn't go to law school!" But I set my ego aside and realized the situation I was facing had nothing to do with my education. He was right that the issue didn't deserve all the emotional energy I was putting into it.

Every morning, my SO texts me "Don't let anyone walk all over you." So, yeah, I have a higher degree and more income, but he takes care of me.

Cardiscappa · 2017-07-29T03:18:40+00:00

I understand that men do have higher IQ readings compared to women

Just nit picking, but this men be more smrt isn't actually true. Only half the men are smarter than women. Women's IQ clusters around the average of all the IQ's and on either side of that median is men, meaning that about half the men are less intelligent than women.

would intelligence in a woman throw off the "protector and protected" dynamic?

Not necessarily. A woman may be as smart as a whip, but not able to do things like put up a bookshelf. In comes the man, with his handiness to help. It's all about ying and yang.

Banincoming · 2017-07-29T01:58:50+00:00

I've known some women who were super intelligent, but their career paths put their stress levels far into the red line. They ended up with sweet teddy bear men who keep them from having a mental breakdown.

JackGetsIt · 2017-07-29T04:08:56+00:00

More men have higher IQ's but also more men are on the mental retardation end of intelligence as well. The genders have different bell curves.

would intelligence in a woman throw off the "protector and protected" dynamic?

Absolutely not. A guy that starts dating a girl is just as protective of a smart girl as he is a women of average intelligence. What comes into play is that a lot of intelligent women that go to college get indoctrinated by feminists making them less then desirable people to date. Then they blame their intelligence on why men aren't attracted to them or don't want to protect them which just isn't the case.

[deleted] · 2017-07-29T03:52:12+00:00

No. Intelligence would enhance the dynamic.

AphroditesPride · 2017-07-29T15:08:35+00:00

A man that is unable to accept that I am very intelligent is not the right one for me. I am not od the domineering sort - so this spiel will not work.

carefreevermillion · 2017-07-30T13:33:57+00:00

In my experience, it should be more of a push-pull dynamic where you complement one another. Your man should be able to do things that you are not good at and vice versa. RPW/TRP is more about acknowledging the mating strategies of the sexes and taking advantage of them to maximize you and your partner's happiness than saying that the woman always has to be beneath the man in all things, and the logic stands regarding intelligence as well.

pinkdrawings · 2017-07-29T00:33:51+00:00

You play it out like you would anyone else. It really isn't that special (no offense).

We do generally have one piece of advice - date. another. man. with. a. degree.

A lot of women say they won't care, and then end up caring when a man doesn't have an equal or higher degree.

It depends on how it would come up? Men don't care much about your degree as women care about mens degrees, but he obviously would like to have a conversation with you.

Just don't come home acting like the boss ass bitch who is smarter than anyone, telling him what to do, acting like you're smarter than him, always know best, etc and you'll be fine. It isn't that different.

ivegotsomequestions0 · 2017-07-29T23:03:39+00:00

Get a man who falls in a range of equally to a little bit more intelligent than you. Don't fall for the idea that a degree indicates smarts, or that lacking one means he's not analytical and well read. Unless you're in the top 1% of female intelligence, you will be fine.

NewMindRedPill · 2017-07-29T21:43:29+00:00

I think it depends on how the intelligence is portrayed. Men have flirted with me saying how they liked how intelligent I was but I started talking with my ridiculously large vocabulary thinking they would like that, (im a bookworm that loves challenging books) it would turn them off and most people for that matter so I stopped doing that. However I have met one guy who had a vocabulary as large as I do and as we began speaking we realized how much the other knew and slowly we began using more complex vocabulary and he was in love by the end. Vocabulary isn't something that really shows intelligence at all to me but many people perceive someone with a higher vocabulary as more intelligent.

I read a long time ago that a lady should know a bit about every topic and be able to discuss it. I tried to educate myself with that in mind. THAT is something that many men have thought was attractive and would call me intelligent. I don't start talking about the subject but let the guy LEAD into it. Then I add in a comment to demonstrate my knowledge and understanding. The fact that I can FOLLOW him in the conversation and never ask, "I don't get it" or " what does that mean?" makes them attracted to my "intelligence" but if I were to dominate the conversation and start talking about the subjects but at a higher level of understanding than he has then I can visibly see the guy (in his body language) begin to feel threatened, unhappy, and less interested in me.

Tldr men like a woman who can FOLLOW their intelligence.

I actually met a very successful and highly intelligent man not too long ago and he gave me related advice. He told me when the right man comes around, no matter how intelligent he is, you might have to hide some of your intelligence or risk losing him.

[deleted] · 2017-07-30T18:13:29+00:00

Intelligent women tend to have more anxiety, sensitivity, and depression. They're intelligent, so they think more deeply, so they recognize and are hurt by things that dumber people can just let slide by.

meh613 · 2017-07-29T03:05:22+00:00

Not necessarily.

SummerAppaloosa · 2017-07-29T12:06:39+00:00

There is many more ways to be intelligent than IQ. IQ doesn't determine your social intelligence, your "body intelligence" (I mean by that the easiness with wich you move around, your dexterity), your musical, literary, drawing intelligence...

My parents made me pass an IQ test. It just mesure very unpractical logical skills. I may be able to mentally place in order then recite a list of 20 numbers and letters, fill a logical series of numbers rapidly, and tell you what's wrong in an image. But place a drill, a handfull of screws and some planks in my hands, and ask me to make you a bench... Even if my IQ is statistically higher than my SO's, you'd see me running at him, helpless. My higher intelligence in academical stuff doesn't make me his protector at all.

I don't think IQ is a good way to mesure intelligence, because there's so many ways to be intelligent. We should just make sure that our different kinds of intelligences are complementary, and that we don't clash with each other to "be the most intelligent in X or Y field". We're all different and that's for the best.

LawyerInTheMaking · 2017-07-29T18:14:46+00:00

as i keep saying, intelligent women arent the problem. its the fucking attitude that comes with many of them. a lot of women (and men) equate being book smart with being street/people smart. its in part why many women go after college degrees i think. however if you spend 60,70,80K plus for a piece of paper but dont have a good job or have low baying job outcomes, then you can easily flip it and say that getting that college degree was not an intelligent thing to do because now you are straddled with dept.

my IQ is around 130 depending which iq test i take, but if i dont apply my intelligence properly then my intelligent doesnt mean shit. its fery analogous to redpill teachings of having your mind and body work in unison together. book intelligence but no street/people intelligence makes you a sucker. street/people intelligence but no book intelligence makes you an idiot. however having BOTH at the same time, that helps you achieve the best possible outcome

Thisisforporn99999 · 2017-08-04T16:02:51+00:00

I'll spare you the details for now but i actually have a whole theory on how women with high iqs tend to become sapiosexuals (attracted specifically to intelligence) whereas average iq women can actually find high iq unattractive. If you're interested, though, and think it applies to you id be happy to break it down for you.

Title	intelligent women?
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